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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:30

@SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh through work, can have an informal chat with them. Obviously not the same as a full consult but would ease my concerns perhaps. They would possibly run bloodwork tonight but no CT or EEG overnight for this.

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frogswimming · 02/10/2023 22:31

Well it's not an auditory hallucination because there was an actual physical phonecall. What you heard was not what you expected. But the simplest explanation is the most likely. You overheard an unintended pocket dial, rather than you received a phonecall while simultaneously hallucinating what was said in the call.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:31

It would be like discussing some upcoming plans with your husband and then ringing a friend and absolutely going off about something your husband had done many Months ago, completely unrelated. Why would you Do that?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:32

The pocket dial was absolutely unintended. But the narrative is completely off piste.

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Iop · 02/10/2023 22:32

Are you seriously going to go to the GP tomorrow OP and tell them "My boyfriend pocket called me and I heard him saying something out of character / context and I'm worried it was an auditory hallucination"?? What an incredible waste of time and resources. Reminds me of a patient once who presented to A&E having "blacked out" - on investigation it turned out she'd had a nap 🙄

SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:33

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:30

@SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh through work, can have an informal chat with them. Obviously not the same as a full consult but would ease my concerns perhaps. They would possibly run bloodwork tonight but no CT or EEG overnight for this.

Because you received a call where you think you have heard your boyfriend say something he would have said months ago? This is all so weird.

And your GP friend thinks you are going mad?

I mean, if this post is genuine, it is probably good for you to speak to a GP (not a friend one) ASAP.

frogswimming · 02/10/2023 22:34

But you did receive the call. So why would you hallucinate the contents of a real call that shows in your call log? That is more unlikely than him acting strangely or out of character.

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:34

But if he had no idea you could hear him, it's very possible. He might have held on to some inner anger about it.

Not giving details but something happened early in my relationship to my DH that I've never entirely forgotten. It's put to one side and it was a very long time ago, but if I give it mental space it can still make me angry. I reckon he's got caught out.

You need to bring this up again with him.

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:35

Sorry OP but I can't believe you're jumping to the conclusion that you're having some sort of neurological episode rather than the most obvious answer that your boyfriend is trying to gaslight you into making you believe he didn't actually say it

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:35

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:32

The pocket dial was absolutely unintended. But the narrative is completely off piste.

He did actually ring you. So what does HE say he was doing at that time?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:35

Iop · 02/10/2023 22:32

Are you seriously going to go to the GP tomorrow OP and tell them "My boyfriend pocket called me and I heard him saying something out of character / context and I'm worried it was an auditory hallucination"?? What an incredible waste of time and resources. Reminds me of a patient once who presented to A&E having "blacked out" - on investigation it turned out she'd had a nap 🙄

I'm familiar with ridiculous ED presentations thanks, my friend advised speaking with the GP tomorrow but ultimately I might need to chalk this one up as a weird episode.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:36

He said he was receiving the Tesco
Shop. The start of the call was very much like a pocket dial where someone is shuffling around with doors and bags then it went straight into a rant as above. I just cannot explain it.

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YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:37

If you really did hallucinate your DP would be round in a shot to check on you and maybe take you to a&e.

He knows he said it. Why don't you believe he said it?

PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 22:37

I’m confused.

So he called by accident and when you picked up, you heard him speaking rather matter of fact about an argument that happened between you guys some months ago? What if he was just talking to himself about the situation as it was still in his mind? Why would he even need to lie about what he said?

You heard it so he obviously said it regardless of the context. What exactly are you going to say to the GP? I’m so confused!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:38

It was like I was in the room with him, with him ranting off at me. But midway through the rant. As if I had just caught part of it.

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richteaftw · 02/10/2023 22:39
Confused

Mate, how have you got to 'auditory hallucination'?

As a nurse, can tell you now, ED would absolutely not do your bloods. What planet are you on?

SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:39

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:37

If you really did hallucinate your DP would be round in a shot to check on you and maybe take you to a&e.

He knows he said it. Why don't you believe he said it?

Yeah, how concern does he sound that you just had an hallucination? Is he offering to come and check up on you? If you were my friend and told me what you wrote here, I would be extremely worried

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:40

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:37

If you really did hallucinate your DP would be round in a shot to check on you and maybe take you to a&e.

He knows he said it. Why don't you believe he said it?

I don't think he would, I would rather get myself to ED if there was a serious issue or call 999, then make contact. I did this for a previous issue and it worked well to have to consultant ring him post diagnosis rather than me summon him at the first sign of a problem.

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eandz13 · 02/10/2023 22:41

I think the most likely scenario is that he was discussing this particular argument with someone and he was repeating what he'd said to you at the time... and he's now lying to you because it would be awkward to admit that he was discussing what sounds like a private argument with a third party.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:41

richteaftw · 02/10/2023 22:39

Confused

Mate, how have you got to 'auditory hallucination'?

As a nurse, can tell you now, ED would absolutely not do your bloods. What planet are you on?

So I think I heard something and was so worried I rang round a few HPC friends to seek guidance. It really spooked me. I have never hallucinated in my life.

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doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:41

Fgs OP there is no serious issue, other than him lying to you

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:42

@flowngo that's because you haven't hallucinated

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:42

Why would he have a heated discussion with a friend months and months after the original issue and argument?

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frogswimming · 02/10/2023 22:42

But you did hear something. You have physical proof he rang you.

SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:42

Iop · 02/10/2023 22:32

Are you seriously going to go to the GP tomorrow OP and tell them "My boyfriend pocket called me and I heard him saying something out of character / context and I'm worried it was an auditory hallucination"?? What an incredible waste of time and resources. Reminds me of a patient once who presented to A&E having "blacked out" - on investigation it turned out she'd had a nap 🙄

If OP is genuine, they should talk honestly and and repeat exactly what they said to us to a GP who might be able to assess what kind of help they need. Someone who jumps to the kind of conclusion the OP is jumping to needs see a professional about it, whatever kind the GP sees fit. You shouldn't shame them or discourage them, really.