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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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Phleghm · 02/10/2023 21:58

flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:56

I highly doubt it, the conversation was very similar themes etc to one's we have had in the past. It was his voice. I couldn't stand to listen to it in the end so had to hang up. It was that feeling of uncomfortableness when someone is so very different to how you know them.

This last bit. It's scary because maybe you don't actually know him that well. People can hide their real characters so artfully.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:59

Phleghm · 02/10/2023 21:57

Sorry OP but this post has made me a bit scared for you. Not just that you're doubting what you heard, but that you've come up with an elaborate diagnosis as to what caused it. It's far, far more likely for him to be acting out of character than it is for you to be having some neurological episode.

Having an auditory hallucination is not something that I would merrily ignore, I'm afraid.

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Albioncreed · 02/10/2023 22:00

have you checked your phone logs to see if you actually received a call? How long did the call last for?

also. Could this have happened when you were starting to fall asleep?

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:00

I don't understand. So did he or didn't he say all of that when he rang you by accident?

truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:01

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:00

I don't understand. So did he or didn't he say all of that when he rang you by accident?

OP doesn’t know. She is attributing it to a hallucination.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:01

It would be a very peculiar thing to pick out from the small amount of things we had argued about months and months ago, on a rainy Monday evening in October!

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Phleghm · 02/10/2023 22:01

But you've decided that it's an auditory hallucination because you can't stand to believe your ears. I'm not being flippant OP, this is really really shit and cruel and awful and I really hope you're ok. But mostly I hope you trust your own senses more than anything else.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:02

Albioncreed · 02/10/2023 22:00

have you checked your phone logs to see if you actually received a call? How long did the call last for?

also. Could this have happened when you were starting to fall asleep?

Yes, 28 seconds. It felt like less time than that, but I remember almost word for word what he said. I wasn't falling asleep, I wasn't even tired but just before I had thought to myself about going up to bed to sleep.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:02

Phleghm · 02/10/2023 22:01

But you've decided that it's an auditory hallucination because you can't stand to believe your ears. I'm not being flippant OP, this is really really shit and cruel and awful and I really hope you're ok. But mostly I hope you trust your own senses more than anything else.

I was wondering why he had had a personality transplant in a few hours!

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somethinghastochangesoon · 02/10/2023 22:02

Has he pocket dialled you and been talking about you to whoever he is with and doesn't want to admit it?

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:03

He's obviously said it then and now lying about not doing so. Was he talking to somebody else?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:03

I could absolutely listen to it if it was in context, and I would probably fire something back at him, but it wouldn't come out of the blue, half way through a rant, on the phone!

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FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 02/10/2023 22:03

I am actually at a loss as to how you've arrived at a neurological problem tbh rather than the obvious which is you overhead an actual conversation.

truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:03

OP I think you need to be having a conversation with your DP. It seems confusing you’d immediately think the issue is that you have had a hallucination - the fact this was your first thought does actually suggest what has happened. Trust yourself and your senses, I don’t think anything is wrong with you

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:04

somethinghastochangesoon · 02/10/2023 22:02

Has he pocket dialled you and been talking about you to whoever he is with and doesn't want to admit it?

It wasn't in the third person, it was directed at me completely. Impossible it would've been anyone else. 99% sure he wasn't moaning to the Tesco driver about my lack of drinking on holiday when I drank on a mates holiday once.

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LadyoftheLavaLamp · 02/10/2023 22:04

I for one am very confused as to how you’ve got from A to B here…

ZooMount · 02/10/2023 22:05

Maybe he was talking to himself and is now embarrassed? I've had all kinds of ranty conversations to myself. I'd be horrified if I'd ever pocket dialled someone during one!

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:05

How do you know he isn't lying about talking to the Tesco delivery man?

HereForTheFreeLunch · 02/10/2023 22:05

Well, it's not a personality transplant as it's things he has said in the past. So totally in keeping with his personality. Just unexpected at the present moment from your perspective.

Could he have been saying this to someone else? New secret girlfriend, early days, same arguments?

newnamethanks · 02/10/2023 22:06

Sounds like a recording that's accidentally escaped. If not on your phone then on his.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:06

Well, a strong auditory hallucination can mean any number of things. It was also like a strong sense of de ja vu which can also be indicative of other issues at play. It was very similar wording to something he would've said in the past.

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cuthbertthecat · 02/10/2023 22:06

So I suffer from deja vu which is possibly epilepsy and this doesn't sound much like it. Mine feels like you get to the top of a rollercoaster and then I remember odd extracts like from a dream. There is nothing real about it, it's fucking weird.

Obviously everyone has different experiences of course but it's more than just a flash back.

If it does help, no one knows what causes mine. Not a tumour, doesn't show up on tests for epilepsy (although they think
It may be), no discernible trigger. Had it off and on since a teen and I get it in intense patches so daily/weekly then nothing for ages (years at one point). Always fully conscious as well. My neuro said I was just pleasantly odd.....

Kissmas · 02/10/2023 22:07

Eh, how was it directed at you if he wasn't even speaking into his phone? And then you hung up and immediately googled "intense deja vu"?

gaggiagirl · 02/10/2023 22:07

I think he's accidentally pocket dialled you while telling a friend about your argument "so I said to her......" and he's repeating what he said to you during the argument.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:07

newnamethanks · 02/10/2023 22:06

Sounds like a recording that's accidentally escaped. If not on your phone then on his.

The tone etc was very much like that of a recording so I put it to speakerphone and looked to see if there was a voice note or something but we don't voice note!

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