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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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MsRosley · 02/10/2023 22:43

I honestly can't make head nor tail of this thread.

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:43

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:42

Why would he have a heated discussion with a friend months and months after the original issue and argument?

This is not out of the ordinary. Some things my DP has done months ago still annoy me now if I think about it too much

ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 22:43

richteaftw · 02/10/2023 22:39

Confused

Mate, how have you got to 'auditory hallucination'?

As a nurse, can tell you now, ED would absolutely not do your bloods. What planet are you on?

I know from experience they do in neurology dept!

IClaudine · 02/10/2023 22:43

How well do you know your boyfriend OP? Have you been together long?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:44

It spooked me a lot. I know this is a classic mumsnet "my DP would never do anything wrong" but I honestly can't put 2+2 together on this one.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:45

Haha I feel like they run bloods on every single person in ED these days regardless of presenting issue!

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ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 22:45

Is your work medic related? DH is in medicine (neurology related in fact) and while sometimes weirdly chill, sometimes verges into "medicalised" paranoia, also due to family history of brain tumour.

He's called the paramedics at 2am before and they immediately rush into action because he theoretically has all the terminology and stats for what would look alarming on paper but really, sometimes you just have to write things off as weird.

Apparently auditory hallucination are common. US based stats say up to 30% of people have had one and UK based stats say 1 in 10 people. Maybe just stress/tiredness/your mum's condition weighing on you/random happening.

Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 22:46

Ok trying to make sense of this all. The fact you described as tinny far away means it’s a recording. He called you and for some reason has recorded a past conversation you had that played down the phone.

MissingMoominMamma · 02/10/2023 22:46

I’ve had similar when I’ve been on painkillers after an operation . Are you taking anything?

richteaftw · 02/10/2023 22:46

@ironcurtains I assume you had more for them to go on other than what OP has said for them to see a clinical need for bloods...

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:46

IClaudine · 02/10/2023 22:43

How well do you know your boyfriend OP? Have you been together long?

Well, met friends, mum, he's met my important people too. Not clingy, generous and kind, both have our own independent lifestyles.

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SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:46

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:44

It spooked me a lot. I know this is a classic mumsnet "my DP would never do anything wrong" but I honestly can't put 2+2 together on this one.

You heard him have an argument with someone else similar to one he had with you months ago. Rather than facing the truth, you are making up a story that it is exactly the same argument he had with you and you hallucinated it

What kind of man complains that his girlfriend doesn't drink with him but she drank another time. Does he often try to force you to drink?

66rabbits · 02/10/2023 22:47

The most likely explanation is that he was sounding off to himself, repeating back an argument that he'd had with you some time ago. It's not unusual for people to talk to themselves & replay old scenarios. He might not have even been aware that he was doing it.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:47

66rabbits · 02/10/2023 22:47

The most likely explanation is that he was sounding off to himself, repeating back an argument that he'd had with you some time ago. It's not unusual for people to talk to themselves & replay old scenarios. He might not have even been aware that he was doing it.

Months and months later? Does anyone actually do this if they are in good health?

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PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 22:48

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:38

It was like I was in the room with him, with him ranting off at me. But midway through the rant. As if I had just caught part of it.

I completely get what you mean. However, there was a pocket dial from him. He even said oh yeah I did call you. So it was him and he was saying exactly what you heard. There’s clearly no answer to why he was saying it but he did. Why aren’t you trusting your own hearing? That’s slightly worrying

truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:48

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:47

Months and months later? Does anyone actually do this if they are in good health?

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No. He might not be in good health, though.

PinkMoscatoLover · 02/10/2023 22:49

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:42

Why would he have a heated discussion with a friend months and months after the original issue and argument?

Who knows WHY. But he did!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:49

ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 22:45

Is your work medic related? DH is in medicine (neurology related in fact) and while sometimes weirdly chill, sometimes verges into "medicalised" paranoia, also due to family history of brain tumour.

He's called the paramedics at 2am before and they immediately rush into action because he theoretically has all the terminology and stats for what would look alarming on paper but really, sometimes you just have to write things off as weird.

Apparently auditory hallucination are common. US based stats say up to 30% of people have had one and UK based stats say 1 in 10 people. Maybe just stress/tiredness/your mum's condition weighing on you/random happening.

She died 5 years ago and had sudden onset seizures 18m prior due to a brain tumour with no previous symptoms so yes, I do get worried about any mildly Neuro related issues.

Also associate with the medic anxiety, or rather, seeing the worst case situations!

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Freshstarts23 · 02/10/2023 22:49

Do you suffer with anxiety?

ChesterDrawz · 02/10/2023 22:49

eandz13 · 02/10/2023 22:41

I think the most likely scenario is that he was discussing this particular argument with someone and he was repeating what he'd said to you at the time... and he's now lying to you because it would be awkward to admit that he was discussing what sounds like a private argument with a third party.

OP said that the conversation was directed at her as if she was there in the room with him, not that it was the relaying of a previous conversation to someone else.

I.e. she heard him say something like "You told me you were going to...". not "She told me she was going to..." which he might have said to someone else.

Just pointing out exactly what OP is describing, but It's all very bizarre.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:50

He said, oh yes I have pocket dialled you by accident by the looks of it - looks at call log - sorry about that, is everything ok?

In the way that many of us would

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Dramatic · 02/10/2023 22:50

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:47

Months and months later? Does anyone actually do this if they are in good health?

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How many months are we talking here? When exactly was this argument?

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:51

Does he know you're anxious about neuro issues and is trying to make you think you're going mad?

Pippa12 · 02/10/2023 22:52

Maybe you should have a chat with your GP. Have you had any other symptoms that are compounding this belief of a ‘neurological episode’… headache, visual disturbances, dizziness, change in mood, word finding difficulty?

I have to say your description of events sounds a little unhinged, but I would understand your anxiety if you have been suffering with other symptoms.

ironcurtains · 02/10/2023 22:52

Moonlightdust · 02/10/2023 22:46

Ok trying to make sense of this all. The fact you described as tinny far away means it’s a recording. He called you and for some reason has recorded a past conversation you had that played down the phone.

Could be this too