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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:07

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:06

Well, a strong auditory hallucination can mean any number of things. It was also like a strong sense of de ja vu which can also be indicative of other issues at play. It was very similar wording to something he would've said in the past.

Have you thought about it being him being weird? If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of mind games and don’t think it’s that, who’s to say he wasn’t just pranking you or trying to make a joke.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:08

HereForTheFreeLunch · 02/10/2023 22:05

Well, it's not a personality transplant as it's things he has said in the past. So totally in keeping with his personality. Just unexpected at the present moment from your perspective.

Could he have been saying this to someone else? New secret girlfriend, early days, same arguments?

Highly unlikely there is someone else. We see eachother most days, in touch a lot. Lifestyle that wouldn't accommodate another woman easily without me realising - not naive but I do know him fairly well I like to think.

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ClemmieRay · 02/10/2023 22:09

You mentioned going to sleep could you be mixing up a dream with reality for example you had a phone call in real life and also one in your dream ? Maybe you don’t remember it as a dream but convinced it actually happened.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:09

He was meant to be ringing me to discuss activity arrangements for my child's upcoming birthday trip to London. Absolutely no reason to start popping off at me.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:10

ClemmieRay · 02/10/2023 22:09

You mentioned going to sleep could you be mixing up a dream with reality for example you had a phone call in real life and also one in your dream ? Maybe you don’t remember it as a dream but convinced it actually happened.

I know when I'm half asleep and I was very much awake, I was wondering why I was happy to try and put myself to bed at such an early hour, but was very much planning to try and sleep early and just await his phone call at some point.

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GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 02/10/2023 22:13

Could he either have pocket dialled you and been rehearsing or rehashing an argument to himself - I do this if, for example, I think of something clever I wish I'd said at the time! Could be months later if something reminds me of something that really wound me up. Or maybe he has an alexa or something that has heard him say blah blah (I should/wish I'd/etc) Call OP blah blah during his rant and it's dialled you and you've then heard the rest of the rant.

I think it's vanishingly unlikely you've imagined what you heard. The call is there in black and white. It definitely happened.

So that leaves the most likely explanation that he did say it and is now denying it.

If he's said these things before it's hardly a personality transplant for him to say them again, I'm not sure what you meant by that?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:13

I'm just very spooked. I'll speak to neurology tomorrow about it as well as GP but I can't imagine why I would have sudden onset auditory hallucinations.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:14

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 02/10/2023 22:13

Could he either have pocket dialled you and been rehearsing or rehashing an argument to himself - I do this if, for example, I think of something clever I wish I'd said at the time! Could be months later if something reminds me of something that really wound me up. Or maybe he has an alexa or something that has heard him say blah blah (I should/wish I'd/etc) Call OP blah blah during his rant and it's dialled you and you've then heard the rest of the rant.

I think it's vanishingly unlikely you've imagined what you heard. The call is there in black and white. It definitely happened.

So that leaves the most likely explanation that he did say it and is now denying it.

If he's said these things before it's hardly a personality transplant for him to say them again, I'm not sure what you meant by that?

I mean personality transplant as in, we had a nice early evening meal and monopoly etc at home and then for him to be ranting off like that.

Highly doubt he's one for going off about stuff at home alone, when this hasn't been a topic of discussion for many many months.

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SquishyGloopyBum · 02/10/2023 22:15

I don't know what you think a GP is going to do OP. He pocket dialled you and you could hear what he was saying. That's your answer.

It isn't you. It's him. It's worrying he's got you thinking it's all you though.

partypant · 02/10/2023 22:16

If he pocket dialled you he wouldn't be speaking to you.

If he didn't pocket dial you and actually disked you, why would his voice sound so far away and distant like it would in a pocket dial?

What possible reason would he have for dialling you and pretending to be far away from the phone when he spoke to you?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:16

He thinks I'm worrying about nothing, I know what I heard but Im also 99% sure it absolutely wasn't him
As it's not in character for him at the moment.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:17

partypant · 02/10/2023 22:16

If he pocket dialled you he wouldn't be speaking to you.

If he didn't pocket dial you and actually disked you, why would his voice sound so far away and distant like it would in a pocket dial?

What possible reason would he have for dialling you and pretending to be far away from the phone when he spoke to you?

This. It was that faraway sound you get and when I was saying hello hello, no change, just continued monologue.

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 02/10/2023 22:17

Is this real? If you heard him say it then he said it

Penguin34 · 02/10/2023 22:17

How are you going to speak to neurology tomorrow? Can you just call them when you like?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:17

It was what he was saying rather than the fact he was talking. It was completely odd

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:18

Penguin34 · 02/10/2023 22:17

How are you going to speak to neurology tomorrow? Can you just call them when you like?

Through work. Just a little advice and guidance.

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66rabbits · 02/10/2023 22:18

Is it possible that he has mental health issues that you've not been aware of and you heard a snippet when he pocket called you?

I used to work in a mental health centre and there was man who would repeat conversations that he had years ago. He couldn't help it. He just kept replaying the same thing over and over.

If you're questioning your own mental health, maybe you should be questioning his?

Hibye23289 · 02/10/2023 22:18

Well this is weird. I don't think you should go to the dr isn't it abit far fetched for a one off incident? I need to go downstairs to get a drink but the thread has creeped me out

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:18

66rabbits · 02/10/2023 22:18

Is it possible that he has mental health issues that you've not been aware of and you heard a snippet when he pocket called you?

I used to work in a mental health centre and there was man who would repeat conversations that he had years ago. He couldn't help it. He just kept replaying the same thing over and over.

If you're questioning your own mental health, maybe you should be questioning his?

Very very unlikely but I suppose there's always a chance he has some mental health issues?

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Lou670 · 02/10/2023 22:18

So where are your boyfriend or your GP friend now? If this was me I would expect one, if not both of them to come to my house to check if I was ok, especially as there is a child in the house.

truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:19

Hibye23289 · 02/10/2023 22:18

Well this is weird. I don't think you should go to the dr isn't it abit far fetched for a one off incident? I need to go downstairs to get a drink but the thread has creeped me out

Yeah it’s given me a weird feeling too. Can’t figure out why though

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:19

Lou670 · 02/10/2023 22:18

So where are your boyfriend or your GP friend now? If this was me I would expect one, if not both of them to come to my house to check if I was ok, especially as there is a child in the house.

No child in the house, one is with her own family, bf is putting away the groceries and heading to bed as is travelling for work tomorrow.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:20

I would go up to ED just for peace of mind if it wasn't so busy!

I want to leave my door unlocked and sleep downstairs tonight in case something happens and I need to summon help.

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FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 02/10/2023 22:20

This is hands down one of the weirdest threads I've read on here...

truecolour · 02/10/2023 22:21

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:18

Very very unlikely but I suppose there's always a chance he has some mental health issues?

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Why is it very unlikely that he has issues but you are very sure that you do? Believe in yourself OP x