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Intense dejavu episode

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 21:26

Posting for traffic as spooked -

Have spoken to my best friend who's a GP but also posting to see if anyone has experienced similar.

This eve was waiting for my boyfriend to ring me to catch up about some future plans, we had been together with my child earlier this eve, low key dinner and chill time, no alcohol etc.
around 2030 I thought I will just go up to bed (out of character for me at 2030) and he can wake me up to chat later on. As I thought this, I had a phone call from him, except it was like a pocket dial as he sounded a little far away but he was saying things like "...stripper pole and don't give me any bullshit about not drinking, I know you drank in Barcelona" - of course I was immediately thinking is he ok, has he been drinking, who is he talking to, what's going on. I hung up and immediately texted to say call me asap, and googled intense deja vu to see what on earth was happening. The words were consistent with something we would have a bit of a row about a good while back.

He rang me and said he hadn't realised he had pocket dialled me, and was confused about the narrative I had heard.
Of course I was completely spooked by this, my friend said to contact the GP tomorrow morning, I know that Neuro won't see me overnight at ED so unless I have any symptoms of an upcoming seizure I'm not sure what to do!

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:21

Boyfriend is very low maintenance low key relaxed etc. would rather split than go off on a massive rant to freak me out. Any arguments have been on both sides and always resolved before bedtime.

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beastlyslumber · 02/10/2023 22:22

It's possible that you heard distant talking on the pocket dial, and being tired/groggy you kind of shaped the words a certain way. People are very good at making patterns of things. A good night's sleep will probably help a lot.

I'd be more concerned it sounds like your partner is a bit of a dick.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:22

Neuro related issues clearly worry me more than most due to my mums hx.

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Notamum12345577 · 02/10/2023 22:22

Hope you are ok OP

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:23

Bizarre thread

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:23

beastlyslumber · 02/10/2023 22:22

It's possible that you heard distant talking on the pocket dial, and being tired/groggy you kind of shaped the words a certain way. People are very good at making patterns of things. A good night's sleep will probably help a lot.

I'd be more concerned it sounds like your partner is a bit of a dick.

If I was hazy about what I heard I would agree but I'm replaying it in my mind. It was so unpleasant I could barely listen to it!

If it was an auditory hallucination it still worries me.

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YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:23

Phleghm · 02/10/2023 21:57

Sorry OP but this post has made me a bit scared for you. Not just that you're doubting what you heard, but that you've come up with an elaborate diagnosis as to what caused it. It's far, far more likely for him to be acting out of character than it is for you to be having some neurological episode.

I agree.

As a total outsider it sounds like this man is gaslighting you so hard it's actually affecting your own sense of identity and you've stopped trusting your own senses.

Can you tell us some more about him? How long have you been together? Why would you have been rowing about something like this in the past?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:23

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:23

Bizarre thread

The whole episode was highly bizarre trust me!

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sadaboutmycat · 02/10/2023 22:24

I do think you've had a list viral auditory hallucination. I would make a GP appt and diesel to them about it.

doi24 · 02/10/2023 22:24

@flowngo Sorry you experienced something so odd, but are you really considering seeing a GP over it?

SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:24

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:02

I was wondering why he had had a personality transplant in a few hours!

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People lie and manipulate OP. Please, see it as a possible red flag. He was arguing with someone when he accidentally butt dial-ed you. The kind of argument he had with someone he dated. The kind of argument he had with you, someone he is in a relationship with. Then he denied it even happening and would rather you believing you lost your mind.

Connect the dots.

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:25

My GP friend also said it sounded like
I was going a bit mad, I'm perfectly happy in the relationship, no major issues at all. I'm not some hypochondriac but am exposed to very critical situations on a daily basis so perhaps feel it more acutely than most?

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0lga · 02/10/2023 22:25

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:23

I agree.

As a total outsider it sounds like this man is gaslighting you so hard it's actually affecting your own sense of identity and you've stopped trusting your own senses.

Can you tell us some more about him? How long have you been together? Why would you have been rowing about something like this in the past?

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This.

anothernamechange2244679 · 02/10/2023 22:25

Is it possible he's recorded an earlier argument on his phone and accidentally played it at the same time he pocket dialled you?

IClaudine · 02/10/2023 22:26

Where is your child, OP?

Hibye23289 · 02/10/2023 22:26

Have you got a history of having hallucinations? I don't know how you've got to the conclusion that you have some illness. Also could he have recorded aany of your arguements and then played them again? Is this thread real? No offence

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:26

anothernamechange2244679 · 02/10/2023 22:25

Is it possible he's recorded an earlier argument on his phone and accidentally played it at the same time he pocket dialled you?

Highly unlikely but possible I suppose. Anything is possible these days

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:26

IClaudine · 02/10/2023 22:26

Where is your child, OP?

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With his dad

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:26

Hibye23289 · 02/10/2023 22:26

Have you got a history of having hallucinations? I don't know how you've got to the conclusion that you have some illness. Also could he have recorded aany of your arguements and then played them again? Is this thread real? No offence

Absolutely none. No medication. Have alcohol (one drink) maybe twice a month. No drug use.

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amiboverd · 02/10/2023 22:26

It seems very odd you think you had an hallucination rather than that your bf might be lying to you.

your post doesn't really make sense

YukoandHiro · 02/10/2023 22:27

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:16

He thinks I'm worrying about nothing, I know what I heard but Im also 99% sure it absolutely wasn't him
As it's not in character for him at the moment.

Of course he thinks that! Because he DID say it. You're just missing the extra context eg was he ranting to a friend? was he thinking about calling you but just letting off steam shouting at the phone with your name on it but then accidentally did hit call without you realising?
Please don't bother the GP until you've had time to do a bit more digging

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:28

It was conversation directed at me though, not as if recounting a conversation to his friend.

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ltappleby · 02/10/2023 22:28

I agree with other posters who’ve suggested that you actually heard him doing a weird ranting monologue via pocket dial rather than hallucinated it. It’s possible he’s not what he seems and I would be very worried about that.

SurpriseItsMeHorseyNeighNeigh · 02/10/2023 22:28

flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:13

I'm just very spooked. I'll speak to neurology tomorrow about it as well as GP but I can't imagine why I would have sudden onset auditory hallucinations.

You already have an appointment with a neurologue tomorrow? 🤔

OP...Are you ok?

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flowngo · 02/10/2023 22:29

The last few texts were about what time
Slot to book for my child's birthday activity, so to go from that to a rant about my drinking habits from
Months ago seems a little far fetched.

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