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pinkboa Tue 26-Nov-19 22:57:46

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

dontcallmeduck Tue 26-Nov-19 23:00:50

Was there just one changing room? As I’m not male or female?

I would find it very weird yes of course. But also weird you sitting in a changing room for half an hour. Granted no where near as weird.

BillHadersNewWife Tue 26-Nov-19 23:01:51

It's not his daughters I'd be concerned about but the other kids and adults! Did you complain?

Simkin Tue 26-Nov-19 23:03:04

Can't get upset about this. Presumably he was just getting himself and his daughters ready from swimming in the easiest way for him. Not like he was frotting or anything.

Happyspud Tue 26-Nov-19 23:05:06

Did he shake it all around with the towel or kind of wrong it dry?

Happyspud Tue 26-Nov-19 23:05:17


Embracelife Tue 26-Nov-19 23:05:45

He was probably German austrian Finnish or Scandinavian.
He was getting changed.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor Tue 26-Nov-19 23:06:41

So if he'd got a waxed arse it would be ok?confused

I'm not sure it would bother me unless he was waggling all round the changing room.

Fuckenstein Tue 26-Nov-19 23:07:10

I think swimming pool changing rooms is somewhere that you have to expect to see other peoples bums. Just so the polite thing and avert your eyes.

Celebelly Tue 26-Nov-19 23:07:48

Is it a unisex changing room or something? I can't quite picture the situation (maybe for the best).

Chocmallows Tue 26-Nov-19 23:08:48

Not something I would want to see and I think my DC would laugh loudly at a hairy bum and willy on show. I can see it would be a shock if someone suddenly walked around the corner!

Thestrangestthing Tue 26-Nov-19 23:09:14

Not ok in my opinion. I wouldn't get my fanny out in a room with men and other people's children around me.

MemyselfandI2019 Tue 26-Nov-19 23:09:21

Last time I checked all humans have a body. Whether it be with a penis or vagina, with or with out a hairy arse. I have no idea why a naked body offends people so much, we all have one don't we? Rather than encourage our children to be scared and ashamed of our bodies why not accept them for what they are? Our 'bits', what ever size or shape bodies are, hairness or what ever else. Just because a guy was getting changed doesn't make him a monster surely?? Of course teach our children safety (PANTS etc) but a naked body is unlikely to harm any one??

MrsFoxPlus4Again Tue 26-Nov-19 23:09:32

I mean I wouldn’t get shocked at someone being naked in a changing rooms. As long as he wasn’t doing the helicopter I’m sure he was just drying himself off

Ketomeato Tue 26-Nov-19 23:09:37

I’d HATE that. He should have used a cubicle. Ugh.

SimpleAndPlanned Tue 26-Nov-19 23:10:00

How could he see his children and get dressed? Are the cubicles big enough.

You were sat in a changing room and you are shocked at someone getting changed? I'm confused?

My daughter sees us naked so obviously sees her Dads penis so that's not the issue.

MrsFoxPlus4Again Tue 26-Nov-19 23:10:41

Is it a unisex changing room or something? I can't quite picture the situation (maybe for the best).

I was going to ask if it was open planned I just can’t imagine him being next to a door where people would walk into his penis

Ketomeato Tue 26-Nov-19 23:11:36

He could use a cubicle. He could wrap a towel around. Anything else is indecent exposure. I don’t want to see other people’s dicks.

bigdecisonsahead Tue 26-Nov-19 23:11:54

I’m surprised to be in the minority here but I don’t think anyone should be revealing bum or bits in a unisex changing room if that’s what it was.

SheOfManyNames Tue 26-Nov-19 23:12:54

Sorry, but: He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis sounds a little hysterical. Presumably he would have moved away if anyone else came in.
Can't get too worked up about naked people in a swimming pool changing room, sorry.

Celebelly Tue 26-Nov-19 23:12:56

At the pools near us there are either separate changing rooms or a unisex changing room that is exclusively locking cubicles, no real space to get changed outside of that and I've never seen anyone doing so. It sounds like this place has got both and it's unisex? That seems a bit weird. I can't picture a changing room where men and women are getting undressed side by side in a presumably council-run or private facility. Maybe I just haven't lived!

Akire Tue 26-Nov-19 23:14:08

Even a family change area has cubicles, there is no need for anyone to be naked. Surely he could have just wrapped a towel around himself? Even if it was in the men’s (you say you were there with your son) there could have been other dads with young daughters in the same position.

snowball28 Tue 26-Nov-19 23:15:04

I wouldn’t like that at all, is it unisex? At my sons swimming lesson there male/female charging rooms so it’s not unusual to see naked/semi naked women but obviously I’m very used to that. If I was suddenly confronted by a penis and bum of a man I’d say I’d be nervous and uncomfortable. I’d leave the room immediately to be honest.

ThatsMeInTheSpotlight Tue 26-Nov-19 23:15:05

I wouldn't think it was odd if I was in Stockholm but assuming you're in the UK, then culturally it's never been usual for adults to be naked around other people's children.

stucknoue Tue 26-Nov-19 23:15:26

If it was family unisex changing then what's the issue? Try going to Germany, they swim naked in the pool!

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