Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

[Ketomeato]

Naked in the pool? Nooooooooo

[TrixieFranklin]

"Walked into his penis"
Hairy bum for him, hairy hands for you.

[MrsFoxPlus4Again]

see a random penis in the wild

[T0tallyFuckedUpFamily]

I couldn’t give a shit what they do in Germany, Sweden or tucking Timbuktu and I’m sick of other countries being used as examples of how certain posters think we should behave! If people don’t want to see naked bodies, because that’s not the norm in the UK/NI, then they have the right to feel offended, annoyed, etc.

[madcatladyforever]

I'm a naturist and I would be super pissed off if a man was waving his penis about in front of my children.
There is a time and a place and this wasn't it.

[pinkboa]

Sorry it wasn't unisex it's the men's. It's always empty as there are less dads at lessons so I take my son in there.

The women's is usually crowded.

I've never seen other men do that. They usually use a cubicle or use a towel. Other men being the teachers. As I said there was another dad and son sitting in there so I wasn't the only one in the room.

I find the humidity in the pool area affects my asthma so I don't like hanging in there longer than I have to. As I said it's my fault for turning up early.

I'm not fussed about nakedness I just thought in that situation a towel would have been appropriate. I also get the inability to watch kids from a cubicle. But a towel?

Also yes, if you entered with your child you would have both walked into an adult mans penis... I said child because most people let their kids in first. There is no corner so it's door open and hello outside.

[RockinHippy]

Meh

[hopelesssuitcase]

Never seen that happen, can't picture what kind of British changing room this would happen in

[Ketomeato]

Why were you in the men’s?????

[MillicentMartha]

Are you a woman, OP? If so what the hell are you doing in the men’s changing rooms?

[sparepantsandtoothbrush]

You're a female in the men's changing rooms. You're in the wrong here

[pinkboa]

And yes it's in the UK.

[MrsFoxPlus4Again]

@madcatladyforever nobody was waving there penis around from the OPs story the man was getting dried and dressed. No waving or helicoptering involved

[Celebelly]

Wait so you were a woman going into a men's changing room and upset there was a penis there? I'm guessing if a man had come into the women's changing room because it was less busy there would have been uproar! I think YABU and just need to stick to the women's changing room. Probably not any penises in there. Might be some hairy bums though.

[ILearnedItFromABook]

No, if you might be seen by other children (or in my apparently very repressed family, even your own), you don't just let everything hang out. You make a concerted effort to not inflict the sight of your naked body on other (non-consenting) people, whatever their ages.

[Notcontent]

What?? It was the men’s changing room and you are offended??? What did you expect to find in the men’s changing room?.

[BestOption]

@Ketomeato He could use a cubicle. He could wrap a towel around. Anything else is indecent exposure

Don’t be daft it’s a swimming pool changing room, not the high street!

@pinkboa it’s a changing room, people get changed. Half the population has a penis, & pretty much everyone has a bum...really nothing to get over excited about.

As a child my Dad used to take me swimming and I’d get changed with him in the mens changing room. 🤷🏻‍♀️ No trauma.

[luckygreeneyes]

Why didn’t you wait in the women’s changing room? YABU

[T0tallyFuckedUpFamily]

If you’re a woman, OP, stay the fuck out of the name changing rooms! They have the right to dignity and privacy too. Did you deliberately give the impression that it was mixed sex changing rooms in order to get posters riled up. A naked man in a Male changing room is completely different to a mixed sex changing room.

[MonstranceClock]

I’ll never understand the British squeamishness about the naked body. We all have one. What’s the big deal.

[DillyDilly]

But you were in the men’s changing area and there was a man changing. What exactly is the issue?

[Northernsoullover]

So you were upset because you saw a mans penis in a male changing room? Are you female? If so you shouldn't have been in there.
Don't get me wrong I wouldn't want to see a John Thomas flapping around but I couldn't get worked up if I was trespassing

[Ketomeato]

BestOption I take it back. It was the men’s changing rooms, he can do what he likes in there. The OP shouldn’t have been in there

[SevenStones]

Man gets changed in men's changing room.

[ILearnedItFromABook]

...Eh, wait a minute...

You were in the men's changing room? Well, never mind, then. I still wouldn't have been comfortable with my own father undressed in front of me as a child, but it's not quite the same thing as if he'd done that in the women's room...

Still, if there are cubicles, he really ought to have used them. It was your own fault you had to see his nude bottom, though!