Bare bum in dressing room , AIBU.

[pinkboa]

I take DS to swimming. I got the times wrong turned up for the wrong lesson. I decide to go back to the changing room to wait. I find it hard to breath in the pool area, 30 minutes is ok, an hour and I can feel my asthma begin to act up.

There is a dad there getting his daughters dressed (fine) he was in the pool and he's down to his underwear.

Another dad arrives with his son, him and my DS are in the same lesson.

Anyways dad of daughters decides to get dressed... he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. He is also by the door so if another parent was coming in their child would have walked into his penis! And it wasn't less than a minute because he was drying himself as well 🤢...

There are cubicles. He could have used a towel as well.

Why would and adult choose to get naked in a dressing room at a swim lesson for children with strangers around.

AIBU to find it bizarre?

His bum was also hairy and unattractive 🤢.

[Bunney2020]

Frankly as a woman, with a son why can't I take him to the Male changing room?
This can’t be real no one is this obtuse.

[Comefromaway]

My husband tells me that in the men’s changing room the men aren’t bothered about modesty. He was bemused that in the women’s people shower in their costume.

OP, if it bothers you, get out of there. Assuming you are a woman you should not be in there and are lucky not to have been thrown out.

[WhenISnappedAndFarted]

I was ready to say YABU, I wouldn't have liked to see it but it wouldn't be anything I can get worked up about. Then I saw you said you were in the mens changing room - YABVU.

YABVU to get annoyed about this when you're in the mens changing rooms - get out of them!

[bigdecisonsahead]

FGS op! The men’s bloody changing room!!

What would you post have been like if you’d been naked in the women’s and a man had walked in?!

[LaBelleSauvage]

OP are you some sort of sexual deviant?

I can picture it now from the reverse. A man caught in a female changing room watching all the ladies in the nude... "but I had to! My asthma! The oxygen in the ladies change is purer than the male! The naked breasts relax my bronchioles!"

Come up with a better cover OP. Also- top tip:

You can look at naked men online you know - but be SURE to use a cubicle when you do.

HTH

[MrsFoxPlus4Again]

Frankly as a woman, with a son why can't I take him to the Male changing room?

Well I can’t imagine the uproar you’d have if he used the female changing rooms as a man with daughters. Your fuming you seen his bum in the males

[WorraLiberty]

You're lucky the man didn't get you banned from the changing room

If the women's is crowded, ask them to shove up a bit.

[luckygreeneyes]

If your son is young enough to need help changing take him into the ladies you absolute eejit

[vivapuff]

I'm imagining this man's post:

I took my kids to swimming lessons today and as we were getting changed there was a women sitting in the men's changing room. She had a child with her but wasn't changing him or anything -- she was just sitting watching everyone else changing. I tried to turn away from her as I changed but i could feel her eyes on me. Would I be unreasonable to ask her to report her behaviour to the pool staff?

[Lipperfromchipper]

Why on earth were you in the make changing area OP??!!! In our swimming pool parents take children to the males changing if they are with dad, female changing if they are with mum and family change room if they are altogether! YOU are the one in the wrong here!! And fwiw I get changed in front of other children in the change rooms....last I checked we are all human!! Because that’s what it is...A CHANGING ROOM! Where you expect ppl to be naked/semi naked for brief periods of time!! Ffs OP YABVU!!

[Dislocatedeyeballs]

Yuk I don't believe in unisex changing rooms too much potential for abuse. I once had a peeping tom in a female changing room it was horrible and I firmly believe they should be kept separate and family ones should be private too although if its a truly unisex changing room u can't really complain ugh

[pinkboa]

I'm not a man... didn't say I was offended by his nakedness

I asked was it bizarre not to have worn a towel at least... well that is what I am asking.

But I get it's ok if it was my husband and son.

I've also never been in a changing room with women walking around naked... they usually have a towel on.

I was there for 30 minutes he came and saw me there. My bag was also in the room so yes I went back there.

I also get it's my fault for going to the men's, didn't know this was standard behaviour. Duly noted & IABU.

[Shoppingwithmother]

OP - You can’t take your son in the men’s changing room because you are not a man. When you have small children the child of whatever sex goes in the changing room for the correct sex of the adult they are with - it’s what everyone does except you.

I expect you’d be the first to complain if a man sat for half an hour in the women’s changing rooms while you wanted to get changed.

@NameChange84 LOL at “creaming themselves” Maybe they were overexcited by bumping into someone’s penis?

[ArtieFufkinPolymerRecords]

You shouldn't be going in the men's changing room, so YABU for that. I think it's bad enough you think it's ok for you to change your son in there, but it's really bizarre you think it's appropriate to just sit in there whilst others change. Imagine a man doing that in the women's.

he drops his pants and is stark naked in front of his daughters. why did you feel a need to say this, would you mind if it was a mother, or if he had sons?

[MrsFoxPlus4Again]

Lesson learned no more willy wild watching for you OP

[Redglitter]

You should never have been in the mens changing rooms in the first place. If your son isnt old enough to go in on his own he should be in the female one with you.

How on earth did you think it was acceptable to go sit in the mens changing room just to have a break.

Ffs inagine a man coming on here to post about sitting having a rest in a womans changing room.

I've read some batshit threads on here but this takes the

[TrixieFranklin]

@MrsFoxPlus4Again

[luckygreeneyes]

How old is your son?

[Dislocatedeyeballs]

Hang on were u in the men's then?? Well that's different if so what the hell were you doin in there?! I'm confused

[NoSquirrels]

I'm not British and I did not see anyone's penis! I said bum! Hairy bum!

I was just about to ask if you were British!

What I am hearing is it would be ok if it was my husband and son.
Yes. Or if you took your son into the ladies changing room instead.

Frankly as a woman, with a son why can't I take him to the Male changing room?

Because the adults go to the changing room of their sex and their dependent children of either sex accompany the adult. At about 7/8 years old, the children use the changing room of their own sex, as they don’t need an adult to help.

[WhenISnappedAndFarted]

My DP and I go swimming regularly. There's always at least one naked women walking around when I've been and I've just asked him and he's said that there's always naked men when he goes as well.

I don't personally because I've not got the body confidence but I can't believe you've never seen women walk around naked.

[Frlrlrubert]

Ffs, people have bodies, children are not scarred by bodies. Children are not at risk in the men's because they are accompanied by a responsible adult.

Given the only female children were his, and he obviously was polite enough to turn his back to you, I really don't see the issue. He was probably only facing the door because he was trying to not flash his knob at you!

Where I take DD there are no cubicles in the single sex changing rooms, I face the wall but if a child gets a flash of arse or boob while I'm changing it's tough luck.

Also, wrangling children while getting changed in a cubicle is a right pain - and he either takes them in with him (even closer to his penis!) or leaves them unaccompanied in the men's...

[pinkboa]

I did explain why I don't go to the females... the changing room is small there are more women and children. It is always crowded.

It's at a school, not your local leisure centre.

[MrsFoxPlus4Again]

@TrixieFranklin I’m enjoying this too much. Im ashamed.