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coffee/drinks/support group for stepmums 2 messages. Latest Thu 20-Nov-08 13:08:56 from MrsParker
How do i deal with them? 6 messages. Latest Tue 18-Nov-08 22:14:11 from cory
Is this really naughty? 7 messages. Latest Tue 18-Nov-08 21:12:03 from tazmosis
found pictures of ex wife and family 12 messages. Latest Tue 18-Nov-08 18:25:43 from TheSeriousOne
Paying for extras, outside of maintenance payments, what do others do? 53 messages. Latest Mon 17-Nov-08 17:58:29 from twinsetandpearls
Dp wants dss to live with us, and i don't ! 129 messages. Latest Fri 14-Nov-08 20:18:57 from gagarin
Manipulative DSD? Sorry a bit long but need advice! 4 messages. Latest Fri 14-Nov-08 13:00:57 from KatieScarlett1
What do your DSCs call you...? 11 messages. Latest Wed 12-Nov-08 09:22:20 from poppy34
new partner 9 messages. Latest Mon 10-Nov-08 12:52:35 from milliemayhem
if dss comes to live with us will i be able to claim child benefit and child tax credits for him??? 3 messages. Latest Sun 09-Nov-08 22:15:10 from belcantwait
I'm so cross, just need somewhere to vent my anger!! 14 messages. Latest Fri 07-Nov-08 19:46:16 from Lonnie
I just can't bond with my DSD. What should I do? 22 messages. Latest Tue 04-Nov-08 18:59:23 from TheSweetLittleBunny
CSA Again 4 messages. Latest Mon 03-Nov-08 00:24:27 from mummy18
i'm new - and so relieved other people have problems! 9 messages. Latest Sun 26-Oct-08 12:26:51 from ivegotahousefull
How can I be more supportive.... 2 messages. Latest Thu 23-Oct-08 21:41:29 from twentynine
entertaining older DSD during half term 8 messages. Latest Thu 23-Oct-08 10:58:39 from pinata
At what age do SC stop wanting to do the "every other weekend" thing with Dad? 5 messages. Latest Tue 21-Oct-08 14:53:17 from ruddynoraaaaaaggggggghhhhh
DP's ex wants DD to live with her & DD says she wants to leave - DP distraught 103 messages. Latest Sun 19-Oct-08 21:15:09 from PillockOfTheCommunity
Wildfish 4 messages. Latest Mon 13-Oct-08 09:20:36 from wildfish
any dads with DDs who live with them? advice needed 7 messages. Latest Sun 12-Oct-08 20:47:21 from mistressmiggins
help - struggling with DSD (11) 11 messages. Latest Wed 08-Oct-08 02:21:14 from MrsTucky
CSA assessments and the 2nd family 49 messages. Latest Tue 07-Oct-08 14:12:56 from mummynumber2
how can I make my boyfriend realise he is out of order? 49 messages. Latest Mon 06-Oct-08 22:14:45 from kaja979
sted dad advice needed regarding step son 214 messages. Latest Wed 01-Oct-08 09:59:20 from ByTheSea
result :) from self representing 7 messages. Latest Tue 30-Sep-08 20:32:55 from yerblurt
Discipline 5 messages. Latest Mon 29-Sep-08 17:51:43 from jammi
thorny financial issue!!! 108 messages. Latest Mon 29-Sep-08 12:42:26 from decaffeinated
Different rules at different houses. 14 messages. Latest Sat 27-Sep-08 15:46:53 from Alishanty
Jammi 2 messages. Latest Wed 24-Sep-08 09:50:27 from jammi
Anna888 1 message . Latest Mon 22-Sep-08 16:11:55 from Notsoseriousanymore
Do you....... 8 messages. Latest Mon 22-Sep-08 16:09:07 from Notsoseriousanymore
Does anyone else have a dsd older than they could have biologically had? 11 messages. Latest Sun 21-Sep-08 23:55:24 from unaccomplishedfattylegalmummy
step-parent adoption,any experiences? 5 messages. Latest Fri 19-Sep-08 13:02:09 from sharkbait
Feeling so frustrated and angry! (sorry bit of a rant) 13 messages. Latest Wed 17-Sep-08 19:26:50 from mummynumber2
argh - bloody court system 14 messages. Latest Tue 16-Sep-08 20:22:52 from yerblurt
Room changes... 12 messages. Latest Sat 13-Sep-08 20:56:35 from emskaboo
step mums 24 messages. Latest Thu 11-Sep-08 14:50:33 from jojostar
diaries..... 15 messages. Latest Thu 11-Sep-08 14:47:16 from jojostar
RE: I'm so upset and frustrated, sorry so v long again... 6 messages. Latest Sat 06-Sep-08 09:14:45 from 2rebecca
I'm so upset and frustrated, sorry very long post 8 messages. Latest Thu 04-Sep-08 21:47:26 from SmugColditz
How to be a good ex-step? 8 messages. Latest Mon 01-Sep-08 20:43:40 from MrsSnorty
I suppose that this is normal but it is really sad. 9 messages. Latest Sun 31-Aug-08 17:19:33 from Carmenere
New to this - please help [smile] 5 messages. Latest Fri 29-Aug-08 21:15:09 from beanieb
VILE 16 YR OLDS 6 messages. Latest Fri 29-Aug-08 15:37:48 from gagarin
Some guidance on green eyed monster between my son and step daughter 5 messages. Latest Thu 28-Aug-08 21:01:18 from fizzbuzz
Had dss for 12 days and mum wants only 2 days with him!! 7 messages. Latest Thu 28-Aug-08 19:32:26 from terrier141
slow improvements with sd - what worked for us 6 messages. Latest Thu 28-Aug-08 18:44:04 from Anna8888
Feeling left out.... long rant ahead 15 messages. Latest Thu 28-Aug-08 13:55:19 from 2rebecca
Meeting Step son for the first time- help 10 messages. Latest Mon 25-Aug-08 11:57:32 from youcannotbeserious
So angry can't calm down. 44 messages. Latest Fri 22-Aug-08 17:17:24 from youcannotbeserious
complicated situation, 8 month pregnant, and very emotional 3 messages. Latest Thu 21-Aug-08 20:52:54 from jammi
wildfish 28 messages. Latest Fri 15-Aug-08 11:21:49 from wildfish
Do your stepchild/ren have their own room? 13 messages. Latest Fri 15-Aug-08 07:03:54 from spottyshoes
fourteen year old dss 8 messages. Latest Thu 14-Aug-08 21:28:58 from 2rebecca
DSK's & a new arrival 6 messages. Latest Thu 14-Aug-08 16:17:38 from poltesco
DP & DSD (11) moving in - any advice? 9 messages. Latest Tue 12-Aug-08 22:13:08 from mistressmiggins
Help! Step-daughter won't leave the house, worn out 38 messages. Latest Sun 10-Aug-08 18:19:56 from beanieb
Step-mom raising step-kids: Am I the only one out there who has to be the bitch? 12 messages. Latest Sat 09-Aug-08 21:53:24 from Moski
The nicer side of step-families. 6 messages. Latest Mon 04-Aug-08 22:52:49 from youcannotbeserious
help - my SS is the sole topic of diagreement between me and DP 8 messages. Latest Mon 04-Aug-08 12:25:47 from pobspants
Why is it left up to me? 7 messages. Latest Mon 04-Aug-08 08:14:47 from Malibugirl
What do you step children call you 17 messages. Latest Sat 02-Aug-08 22:43:51 from julienoshoes
ycbs 2 messages. Latest Sat 02-Aug-08 19:59:23 from youcannotbeserious
The most embarrasing step parent story.... 14 messages. Latest Thu 31-Jul-08 18:21:10 from nannyL
'personal' questions for step-parent adoption court report 6 messages. Latest Thu 31-Jul-08 07:08:21 from youcannotbeserious
dont know what to do with ss's behaviour 19 messages. Latest Wed 30-Jul-08 13:19:04 from jammi
yerblurt 6 messages. Latest Tue 22-Jul-08 22:42:13 from jammi
child maintenace and sick pay 6 messages. Latest Tue 22-Jul-08 19:46:19 from yerblurt
urgent advice re cafcass report 13 messages. Latest Mon 21-Jul-08 18:24:28 from yerblurt
i really think i may have reached the end of the road with sd 80 messages. Latest Mon 21-Jul-08 11:05:32 from Lola234
Having a proud step-parent moment!! 3 messages. Latest Sat 19-Jul-08 14:34:44 from Dynamicnanny
What is it with the clothes thing? 40 messages. Latest Thu 17-Jul-08 19:52:35 from sheepgomeep
DSS has started calling me Mummy, what do we do? 26 messages. Latest Thu 17-Jul-08 18:48:27 from sheepgomeep
Her insecurities!!!!! 15 messages. Latest Tue 15-Jul-08 16:10:57 from talie101
malibugirl 4 messages. Latest Tue 15-Jul-08 13:23:25 from Malibugirl
Help think its falling apart 12 messages. Latest Tue 15-Jul-08 12:47:14 from jammi
Has anyone else not got a great relationship with their SC, not awful just not close at all 14 messages. Latest Mon 14-Jul-08 12:44:44 from newforold
Need the point of view of stepmums!! 67 messages. Latest Mon 14-Jul-08 11:50:41 from anniemac
what, as a step mum, would you not do? 52 messages. Latest Sat 12-Jul-08 10:17:58 from fizzymum
What would you do or advise, because i'm stumped! 6 messages. Latest Fri 11-Jul-08 11:18:10 from emskaboo
cafcass 8 messages. Latest Thu 10-Jul-08 23:08:09 from youcannotbeserious
My DS is a total daddy's girl to my DP - her stepdad! anyone else have this? 12 messages. Latest Thu 10-Jul-08 11:33:08 from elkiedee
DH's Ex's dad died... :-( 13 messages. Latest Wed 09-Jul-08 20:58:08 from Hulababy
stepmother / daughter relationship 15 messages. Latest Tue 08-Jul-08 12:10:44 from JENJENJENNY
pleaseletmesleep 2 messages. Latest Mon 07-Jul-08 10:06:53 from pleaseletmesleep
just feeling so :(:(:(:( about the whole sd thing 12 messages. Latest Sun 06-Jul-08 18:26:27 from pleaseletmesleep
malibu girl 10 messages. Latest Wed 02-Jul-08 21:09:10 from youcannotbeserious
DH Not Wanting Anymore Children 57 messages. Latest Wed 02-Jul-08 20:43:22 from ilovemydog
dh just accused me of thinking dss was fat 43 messages. Latest Wed 02-Jul-08 08:03:48 from BouncingTurtle
Just been informed that Ex Wife is moving to Scotland, Can she do this? 14 messages. Latest Tue 01-Jul-08 20:53:04 from yerblurt
ycbs 3 messages. Latest Tue 01-Jul-08 08:12:10 from jammi
I think I'm probably being unreasonable, what should I have said? 8 messages. Latest Mon 30-Jun-08 15:21:10 from josiefc
Should I write to her? 23 messages. Latest Mon 30-Jun-08 15:18:15 from youcannotbeserious
Would this be weird? 8 messages. Latest Sun 29-Jun-08 21:57:52 from superflybaby
When to tell my DSS I am pregnant, and how? 8 messages. Latest Sat 28-Jun-08 21:40:06 from jammi
can i say thanks - again 1 message . Latest Sat 28-Jun-08 21:38:25 from jammi
DSS has asked DP and I if he can live with us 21 messages. Latest Fri 27-Jun-08 22:34:54 from paros
Stepmums Help! I need some advice re DSD 20 messages. Latest Thu 26-Jun-08 14:11:34 from Alishanty
on a positive step parenting note 4 messages. Latest Thu 26-Jun-08 13:15:55 from youcannotbeserious
today is sd day 14 messages. Latest Thu 26-Jun-08 12:56:25 from youcannotbeserious
i sent the following - thoughts please 15 messages. Latest Thu 26-Jun-08 11:46:23 from Surfermum
i have reached end of my tether - today i almost slapped sd 25 messages. Latest Tue 24-Jun-08 11:07:56 from jammi
12 year old dsd smoking and drinking 7 messages. Latest Sat 21-Jun-08 22:16:15 from landj
Am I being unfair? Discipline by new eXW & DP 227 messages. Latest Fri 20-Jun-08 12:56:01 from 2rebecca
Hi Jammi 5 messages. Latest Thu 19-Jun-08 13:37:28 from youcannotbeserious
Dss has stolen his bf's girlfriend and I can barely look him in the eye 30 messages. Latest Sun 15-Jun-08 17:41:42 from Oblomov
Any widowed stepparents who can help my friend? 5 messages. Latest Sat 14-Jun-08 18:49:54 from VictorianSqualor
sucess at court self representing 14 messages. Latest Thu 12-Jun-08 23:18:53 from yerblurt
Has anyone heard any news from Youcannotbeserious? 19 messages. Latest Thu 12-Jun-08 22:17:00 from Youcannotbeserious
Need some perspective to tell me if I'm being petty & irrational or if I have a point 18 messages. Latest Wed 11-Jun-08 20:46:01 from Youcannotbeserious
Where do we stand if something happens to me? 13 messages. Latest Sat 07-Jun-08 12:10:29 from terrier141
right so how do we deal with this?????? 3 messages. Latest Thu 05-Jun-08 22:27:17 from LittleBella
Advice about getting in touch again please..... 3 messages. Latest Mon 02-Jun-08 11:30:56 from wildfish
thank you all so much 1 message . Latest Sun 01-Jun-08 09:41:01 from jammi
Phone calls.......... 16 messages. Latest Fri 30-May-08 18:17:01 from Youcannotbeserious
Does anyone else find it REALLY hard??¬ 7 messages. Latest Thu 29-May-08 15:40:08 from terrier141
Think dp might have to give up his ds 33 messages. Latest Wed 28-May-08 23:32:28 from Ulysees
Made the mistake of asking on another board 12 messages. Latest Tue 27-May-08 00:01:17 from Youcannotbeserious
How do I support my DP with discipline? 5 messages. Latest Thu 22-May-08 15:42:19 from LooptheLoop
Survival tips for the (at least) next 6 years.... 3 messages. Latest Thu 22-May-08 10:35:58 from superflybaby
A question of inheritance. 35 messages. Latest Mon 19-May-08 20:14:42 from littlerach
Step daughter doesn't accept new baby sister 11 messages. Latest Fri 16-May-08 19:50:41 from madeindevon2
Advice needed 4 messages. Latest Fri 16-May-08 16:08:00 from SilverSparkle
Really not being a snob, but... 18 messages. Latest Fri 16-May-08 15:19:04 from Madlentileater
Anyone with a rich stepchild?? 10 messages. Latest Tue 13-May-08 23:21:24 from jammi
What happens to DSD's maintenance if DH stops work? 36 messages. Latest Tue 13-May-08 17:30:44 from ElenorRigby
Unhappy DSD 5 messages. Latest Sun 11-May-08 20:23:54 from wikkidstepmum
Do you force a child to like the new partner 67 messages. Latest Thu 08-May-08 08:06:11 from Alexa808
Youcannotbeserious 9 messages. Latest Tue 29-Apr-08 00:28:24 from littlewoman
what do you think this could mean and what can we do 6 messages. Latest Sat 26-Apr-08 21:53:52 from duomonstermum
Why? 66 messages. Latest Thu 24-Apr-08 22:34:12 from littlewoman
Desperate/Upset failed step parent 93 messages. Latest Mon 21-Apr-08 09:53:01 from Nelli32
Advice needed re dsd (10) 13 messages. Latest Sun 20-Apr-08 13:16:05 from ElenorRigby
Room sizes 14 messages. Latest Sun 20-Apr-08 12:51:32 from ElenorRigby
dp dd being jealous of my 2 dds, help 3 messages. Latest Fri 18-Apr-08 21:01:15 from mistressmiggins
How do I go about changing DDs surname legally? 13 messages. Latest Thu 17-Apr-08 16:00:15 from melanieklein
Adult Stepchildren 2 messages. Latest Mon 14-Apr-08 11:11:33 from rowe
Am I being too cautious? 10 messages. Latest Sun 13-Apr-08 09:26:53 from Surfermum
How do I manage my step kids when my baby arrives? 44 messages. Latest Tue 08-Apr-08 16:36:34 from fireflytoo
Partner leaves his children in house all day with me whilst he's at work; feel this is unreasonable 263 messages. Latest Sun 06-Apr-08 09:24:46 from yorkishbirdy
Adult dss is driving me mad 41 messages. Latest Tue 01-Apr-08 17:38:14 from clouded
SHould I move house for husband to be near stepson? 12 messages. Latest Tue 01-Apr-08 12:28:44 from clouded
Please advise me - so stressed! 5 messages. Latest Sun 30-Mar-08 10:49:19 from AbbeyA
Payments for a working stepson - ALL advice welcome! Please! 10 messages. Latest Wed 26-Mar-08 16:47:12 from millie865
8 months pregnant. Partner wants me to have nothing to do with my 2 older children 88 messages. Latest Mon 24-Mar-08 19:35:38 from yurt1
mummynumber2 12 messages. Latest Fri 21-Mar-08 18:18:14 from mummynumber2
CSA have requested my details... 77 messages. Latest Sun 16-Mar-08 21:49:38 from Lulah
dh wants to buy dss car but that means ds will want one! 8 messages. Latest Sat 15-Mar-08 21:41:17 from zim
Teenage Step son ARGH!!! 11 messages. Latest Sat 15-Mar-08 13:41:07 from landj
Help with case study for Good Housekeeping 1 message . Latest Thu 13-Mar-08 22:05:47 from ImpyChica
aaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh 11 messages. Latest Thu 13-Mar-08 10:54:39 from jammi
Helpline for Parents 1 message . Latest Thu 13-Mar-08 10:35:01 from parentlifeline
Happy Mothers Day 5 messages. Latest Sun 09-Mar-08 14:55:51 from angelbee
difference of religious beliefs 13 messages. Latest Fri 07-Mar-08 21:50:05 from fizzbuzz
about to become a step family in summer ,any tips from seasoned step families? 8 messages. Latest Mon 03-Mar-08 19:08:50 from fizzbuzz
so how do you explain 4 messages. Latest Sun 02-Mar-08 17:50:48 from BrownSuga
Step- parents- do you all have a poor opinion of your dp/dh's ex? 34 messages. Latest Fri 29-Feb-08 00:11:31 from pinguthepenguin
Pregnant and don't want to hear anything about the birth of my stepson - am I being unreasonable? 58 messages. Latest Wed 27-Feb-08 11:55:31 from KacyB
What to do about DSD. 6 messages. Latest Fri 22-Feb-08 21:48:22 from mummynumber2
step parenting when natural mother has died 29 messages. Latest Thu 21-Feb-08 09:00:17 from EllieG
Nutty Stepmum's club 34 messages. Latest Wed 20-Feb-08 19:46:18 from reflection
WWYD? 24 messages. Latest Wed 20-Feb-08 13:42:03 from sophieto
oh, the relief... 5 messages. Latest Wed 20-Feb-08 10:38:52 from Surfermum
Sd may be coming to live with us 3 messages. Latest Sun 17-Feb-08 23:25:02 from Hanie
ADHD 5 messages. Latest Sat 16-Feb-08 17:59:07 from fizzbuzz
Wrong attitude? or am i over reacting??? 18 messages. Latest Wed 13-Feb-08 20:58:36 from reflection
What do all the acronyms mean? 3 messages. Latest Mon 11-Feb-08 10:49:15 from sophieto
DSD age 8 only stays with us two or three times a year. Should we have clothes here for her? 47 messages. Latest Sat 09-Feb-08 19:34:49 from nospringchicken
not sure if i have done the right thing 3 messages. Latest Tue 05-Feb-08 19:50:57 from MrsTucky
STEP CHILDREN 19 messages. Latest Mon 28-Jan-08 19:32:15 from Lulah
Fathers rights ?? 30 messages. Latest Sat 26-Jan-08 13:59:19 from Flllightattendant
iam so mad i am still shaking this am - aibu sorry rant and long 15 messages. Latest Fri 25-Jan-08 14:07:08 from anniemac
Advice on solicitors. Please help! 11 messages. Latest Tue 22-Jan-08 22:43:18 from jammi
Am I over reacting? 8 messages. Latest Mon 21-Jan-08 09:39:16 from dom41
I am excluded and it's killing our relationship 73 messages. Latest Sun 20-Jan-08 15:02:04 from madeindevon2
advice from stepmums please 2 messages. Latest Fri 18-Jan-08 19:31:15 from LooptheLoop
What access do you allow your ex's to have over xmas. 49 messages. Latest Thu 17-Jan-08 20:51:09 from Lulah
Where can we get help? 10 messages. Latest Thu 17-Jan-08 20:30:12 from fizzbuzz
What to call a step-parent? 14 messages. Latest Tue 15-Jan-08 15:33:21 from lottymadbird
newbie stepmum in need of help 12 messages. Latest Sun 13-Jan-08 19:50:39 from AlwaysTheMummy
Dp and I being pushed apart by trivial crap 36 messages. Latest Fri 11-Jan-08 14:35:48 from dittany
When the EX unreasonably reduces payment - what do you do? 7 messages. Latest Wed 09-Jan-08 13:19:42 from anniemac
So my step-daughter (20) hasn't seen us since last Christmas, and decided not to visit today .. 22 messages. Latest Fri 04-Jan-08 19:57:00 from jammi
DP's ex is threatening to take DSC to live abroad. 8 messages. Latest Thu 03-Jan-08 16:49:08 from yerblurt
I'm so mad - am I being unfair? Long, sorry, but I need a rant... 31 messages. Latest Wed 02-Jan-08 14:34:27 from dragonstitcher
Newbie! Q re when your sk's live a long way from you 4 messages. Latest Tue 18-Dec-07 19:13:50 from scorpio1
DSS upstairs shouting that he wants Mummy. What do I do? 11 messages. Latest Mon 17-Dec-07 22:59:46 from ggirlsbells
Anyone bought up sc from a young age? 8 messages. Latest Mon 17-Dec-07 21:03:33 from TerraCloud
Are we odd?Do you contact your s/kids directly or only through your partner? 13 messages. Latest Sat 08-Dec-07 09:44:37 from fizzbuzz
Present-giving and step families: how does it work? 18 messages. Latest Wed 05-Dec-07 11:40:03 from dragonstitcher
step mum and a few relationship problems 6 messages. Latest Sat 01-Dec-07 13:41:48 from tinkerbell3004
Why can't get anything right [sad] 22 messages. Latest Mon 26-Nov-07 21:26:41 from phoebe30
i feel so lonely and don't know if it's just me 8 messages. Latest Wed 21-Nov-07 16:19:59 from dragonstitcher
Stepmum = Housekeeper: does anyone else feel like this? 5 messages. Latest Wed 21-Nov-07 15:13:08 from dragonstitcher
not sure if this is the right place but... 3 messages. Latest Wed 21-Nov-07 12:38:26 from JackJacksmummy
I'm feeling really down & end of my tether - can anyone restore my sanity? 9 messages. Latest Mon 19-Nov-07 13:18:43 from StaryNightSky
What would YOU do? 19 messages. Latest Sun 18-Nov-07 22:29:57 from alittleone2
please help me as desperate 21 messages. Latest Wed 14-Nov-07 15:23:58 from BeautifulBoysGalore
Ask an adult stepchild- I'm here for your questions! 5 messages. Latest Mon 12-Nov-07 16:20:00 from redcat
Argument over how to make will with stepchild involved. Help. 22 messages. Latest Mon 12-Nov-07 11:49:11 from curlywurlywee

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