DH and I have been married for 5 years. DSD has lived with him since she was 3, she is now 17. She has autism and her behaviour has always been a bit questionable but DH shrugs it off as ‘it is what it is’.
I have two DCs of a similar age and they used to get on really well.
but recently I have been struggling more with DSD. I’d put the behaviour down to being a stroppy teen but I honestly don’t know how much more I can take. This is going to sound awful, but she stims, a lot, and it’s noisy. Sometimes it wakes me up at night. I know she can’t help it, but we’ve been away this week and it’s been worse/more noticeable than ever.
she’s incredibly rude and stroppy, she swears all the time. And her table manners are atrocious but I get told not to have a go at her when I mention it.
there has always seemed to be one rule for her and one for my DCs and it’s just getting worse. My DCs are noticing it and growing resentful. She’s incredibly rude to them too and although I tell her off it continues.
the final straw was today I got bitten by a wild animal. It drew blood and was really painful. She laughed and told me ‘serves you right’ and then complained when I said I thought I might have to go to the hospital. (We’re away from the UK right now).
i just feel like I’m struggling to hide my dislike/annoyance now and I don’t want to turn into the evil stepmother. But I don’t know if this is the final straw in an already very fraught relationship.