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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What's the deal guys?

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shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 21:23

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

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onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:59

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:45

And my mother in law will no doubt accept her son's help in getting changed.

What of it? She doesn't believe her son, my husband, is female.

You really do try all sorts of irrelevant ways to justify your words. But it doesn't change the facts at all, your subjective reality that you are in any way 'female' does not reflect the universal material reality.

And the initial statement i was responding to had nothing to do with the above and recent diversions. I responded to someone saying my 'mum should know' about gender. She has been quite knowledgable and comfortable with her daughter over the decades. We have had a blast together.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:59

I see we are back to be accused of being racists.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:59

Greyskybluesky · 19/02/2026 12:56

It's always the behaviour.

Have as much surgery as possible, wear women's clothes and makeup...but the behaviour is the give away

Keep telling yourselves that and you'll believe it one day.

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 13:00

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:57

Two legal judgements have made it clear that every time a male person accesses a female single sex provision, they make it a mixed sex provision.

There is no way to bend the facts to make your subjective reality based on universal material reality.

The male entitlement radiating from this kind of behaviour always blows my mind.

How come the men who believe they are women behave like the most stereotypical men imaginable?

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:00

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:59

I see we are back to be accused of being racists.

Are you race realists too?

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:00

But you are not her daughter

because you would never ever have daughters yourself

end of

are you saying that from an early age your mother has supported your delusions ? If so that’s a toxic relationship and I might start to have some sympathy for you

then again it’s your choice to keep acting like a dick

Greyskybluesky · 19/02/2026 13:00

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:59

Keep telling yourselves that and you'll believe it one day.

It's observation. Here you are.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 13:01

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:59

And the initial statement i was responding to had nothing to do with the above and recent diversions. I responded to someone saying my 'mum should know' about gender. She has been quite knowledgable and comfortable with her daughter over the decades. We have had a blast together.

My comments still stand.

None of what you have said makes you 'female' in any way.

borntobequiet · 19/02/2026 13:01

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:43

I have none. I've never met a sex realist, so they only exist online and in small social media advertised groups of a dozen or so who travel with signs from town to town.

It’s like a strange dystopian vision of the Fairy Caravan.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:01

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:00

Are you race realists too?

thats your accusation

so I think we can assume not because truth doesn’t often pass your lips

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 13:02

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:42

I missed the part where they change together in change rooms and play on the same sport team together.

Edited

Incest is very taboo in British culture so the whole safety privacy and dignity falls within the standard of interaction expected between parent and child.

If not it is creepy and 🤮

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 13:03

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:01

thats your accusation

so I think we can assume not because truth doesn’t often pass your lips

There has been numerous occasions where we have been accused of strawmanning and that apparently something that was posted wasn't posted.

I think Sal Grover's comment about not being able to trust someone who says that male people are female people in any way is correct.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:03

gruit · 19/02/2026 12:56

keep away from women’s services, you’re male not female

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CassOle · 19/02/2026 13:04

What the hell is a 'race realist' anyway?

Is it someone who knows that sometimes people are treated badly due to racism? Like a 'racism is real and it is bad' kind of thing?

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 13:04

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:03

✔ Your request is considered
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Please resubmit in 5-7 weeks.

You sound like a Male Entitlement klaxon going off

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 13:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:03

✔ Your request is considered
✔ I am sad to say your request has been denied

Please resubmit in 5-7 weeks.

Or you could stop being an entitled piece of work, and stick to your own ( male) lane.

CassOle · 19/02/2026 13:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:03

✔ Your request is considered
✔ I am sad to say your request has been denied

Please resubmit in 5-7 weeks.

Decent people obey the law.

No one is shocked that you are demonstrating that you are not a decent person.

BackToLurk · 19/02/2026 13:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:53

In so far as race realists also believe they have knowledge society needs to acknowledge.

Are race realists the ones who say “I don’t see colour”?

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:05

You are male
you don’t get to choose

we don’t need to come back - and you wouldn’t be here if you deep down were confident of your assertion

the only way you can be transwoman is to be male

CapacityBrown · 19/02/2026 13:06

I wonder how many MtF transsexuals have a strange relationship or fixations with their mothers?

I've often thought that many young activists take issue with JKR because they see their own mothers in her.

Any mother treats her children differently to how she treats other people.

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 13:06

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 12:47

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TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 13:06

This is the reality of the Trans debate.

Its Men's Rights Activists telling women to shut up because they'll do whatever the fuck they want.

Enlightened, huh?

CassOle · 19/02/2026 13:07

BackToLurk · 19/02/2026 13:05

Are race realists the ones who say “I don’t see colour”?

I'm wondering if Martin Luther King was a 'race realist' when he told us about his dream?

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:07

BackToLurk · 19/02/2026 13:05

Are race realists the ones who say “I don’t see colour”?

I think they are the ones who think one “race “ is provably better than the other

like OP thinks they are better than us

I “” race because unlike sex its definition is a little unclear to me

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 13:07

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 13:01

thats your accusation

so I think we can assume not because truth doesn’t often pass your lips

it isn't my accusation.

I said race realists share the sincerely held belief that their race-based knowledge must be adopted by the world. Just as sex realists share the sincerely held belief that their sex-based knowledge must also be adopted by the world.

Not overlapping knowledge, but specific knowledge of a very critical nature.

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