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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What's the deal guys?

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shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 21:23

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

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TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 12:49

ATranssexualWoman · 19/02/2026 12:31

They literally are. People assigned male at birth and female at birth aren't some different species. We're all female originally before the Y chromosome kicks in. It's why Oestrogen Hrt In trans women even does anything at all.

Nope. That is not correct.

CassOle · 19/02/2026 12:50

Pingponghavoc · 19/02/2026 12:42

Theres a fantasy of the old school transsexual.

The apparently knew they were trans from an early age, 'fully' transitioned early, moved to a different area, look exactly like women, are accepted as woman by everyone, even doctors. Lived happily to old age with no complications.

Its us who are odd by making a fuss. We are complaining about people we cannot even identify from a line up.

Then we have reddit, who talk of not being able to pass, regret, transphobia, hating women for not accepting them, hating women for just being women. Constantly battles with laws and society just to be accepted.

Allies will say that trans people are the most marginalised in society.

So what is true? The fantasy of the old school transsexuals, or everyone else?

I'm not saying one is not real, but why arent people like one being the public voice transgenderism rather than the non passing, angry misogynistic men they use?

Why, just WHY is poor Lilytino misgendered so often when he goes for a meal?

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:51

People are all the same species !

yes at last an acceptance of some reality! Get the bunting out

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:52

I mean you are telling us you totally pass ….. in a way that has me rolling around laughing because you are expressing such male arrogance and confidence - you certainly don’t pass on here

DialSquare · 19/02/2026 12:52

FranticFrankie · 19/02/2026 12:31

Then your mum is telling big fibs, one cannot know something that is not true
Or just cos they love you

It always surprises me that these Men who lie to themselves, cannot understand that the people around them who validate them, are also lying.

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 12:52

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:06

No one has ever and will never abuse me (illegally I might add) for using women's spaces. Men's spaces, before I transitioned, were completely different.

Anyway, what I wrote had nothing to do with my experience and everything to do with those who are perceived to be trans.

Women aren't going to take you on sunshine. That doesn't mean you arent affecting them or that they want you there.

If you, as a man, are having issues in men's spaces, due to the behaviour of other men - that's not women's problem. Horrendous behaviour on your part to turn it into that.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:53

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:44

Sex realist

hum

you agree we’re being real ? We know what the world is ? We has our heads screwed on?

and you - a sex unrealist a you have unrealistic ideas about the world?

you are basically saying “I have problems with reality “

the simultaneous holding of the fact that you know what reality is but you don’t believe it - does that condition have a name?

In so far as race realists also believe they have knowledge society needs to acknowledge.

Pingponghavoc · 19/02/2026 12:53

You say we are erasing 'you', but why arent 'you' ever used in trans awareness?

Greyskybluesky · 19/02/2026 12:54

Keep telling the stories about the evil lumbering 6'5" bearded ladies.

No, those are the mythical transmen that TIMs kept wheeling out after FWS to scare us about finding them in our toilets.

They've all forgotten about them again now....haven't heard them mentioned for ages.....funny that

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:54

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 12:52

Women aren't going to take you on sunshine. That doesn't mean you arent affecting them or that they want you there.

If you, as a man, are having issues in men's spaces, due to the behaviour of other men - that's not women's problem. Horrendous behaviour on your part to turn it into that.

It's no longer my problem as I don't go near men's services.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:55

Every time you use a service you turn it into a mens service ( men not mad but I nearly let the typo stand )

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 12:55

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:37

My mum and I have competed together in sport, we have changed in changing rooms together, we share hotel rooms when we travel together, we have a lot of fun even though we enable each other's purchases more than we probably should.

All this is probably very shocking to the average sex realist. I'll leave you a moment to sit down and recover yourselves.

Edited

Shocking fact she gave birth to you and provided physical care while you were a child too and she may even be ok with you providing her with intimate care.

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 12:55

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:54

It's no longer my problem as I don't go near men's services.

So you're making it women's problem and you DGAF how it impacts them.

Truly disgusting behaviour from you.

Ugh

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:56

DialSquare · 19/02/2026 12:52

It always surprises me that these Men who lie to themselves, cannot understand that the people around them who validate them, are also lying.

I know, right.

I think it is a cruel moment when they discover that people do very much understand that they are not the sex they claim to be.

Greyskybluesky · 19/02/2026 12:56

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:52

I mean you are telling us you totally pass ….. in a way that has me rolling around laughing because you are expressing such male arrogance and confidence - you certainly don’t pass on here

It's always the behaviour.

Have as much surgery as possible, wear women's clothes and makeup...but the behaviour is the give away

Pingponghavoc · 19/02/2026 12:56

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:55

Every time you use a service you turn it into a mens service ( men not mad but I nearly let the typo stand )

Edited

Never has a typo been so true.

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 12:56

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 12:40

You go shopping with your mum and that proves you're a woman????
Now I think I may have heard it all!

😂

Pillow fight for the bingo players🤷‍♀️

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 12:56

I've never thought about this before but I just simply can't imagine that I would ever have asked this of my parents (who were pretty awesome, still getting used to talking about my mother in the past tense), that they permanently lie for me, that they pretend to not know something that they have known all my life (that I'm female), to force them to participate in my delusion.

gruit · 19/02/2026 12:56

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:54

It's no longer my problem as I don't go near men's services.

keep away from women’s services, you’re male not female

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:57

Ah so race realists is a term people use to describe themselves ? And you are using it to try and discredit us through association?

the trouble with race realists is that they are anything but - their thoughts are not grounded in science - just like yours aren’t

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 12:57

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 12:42

Yes. The ongoing excuses are very much scrapings from the bottom of the barrel.

When the facts aren't on your side, e.g. when you think all embryos start out female, that sex is assigned at birth, or that a human being can change from being male to being female, I suppose you have to dig deep to keep coming up with things to say.

And if you can't find any facts, make stuff up, or get on your high horse and say
'I don't owe you an answer' when it's obvious that you don't know the answer anyway.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:57

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 12:54

It's no longer my problem as I don't go near men's services.

Two legal judgements have made it clear that every time a male person accesses a female single sex provision, they make it a mixed sex provision.

There is no way to bend the facts to make your subjective reality based on universal material reality.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:58

no one here for a moment believes you are female and yet somehow you think that when people interact with you IRL they can’t tell?

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:58

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 12:56

I've never thought about this before but I just simply can't imagine that I would ever have asked this of my parents (who were pretty awesome, still getting used to talking about my mother in the past tense), that they permanently lie for me, that they pretend to not know something that they have known all my life (that I'm female), to force them to participate in my delusion.

Me either.

itsthetea · 19/02/2026 12:58

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 12:57

Two legal judgements have made it clear that every time a male person accesses a female single sex provision, they make it a mixed sex provision.

There is no way to bend the facts to make your subjective reality based on universal material reality.

Oh yes because they don’t believe in reality

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