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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What's the deal guys?

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shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 21:23

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

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MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:42

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:24

I would invite anyone to arrest me and throw me in prison for womaning.

OK - you do realise you'll be thrown into a male prison, don't you?

Making false claims of 'womaning' when you are male may not be per se a criminal offence, but it's often a crime against common sense - like people don't know a male when they see one, even in a make-up and frock🙄 - which may also constitute a crime against fashionSmile

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:43

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:39

The way it's been explained to me is the estrogen I've taken for over 40 years has been directed by DNA to activate the cells with estrogen receptors. The cells guided by androgen receptors had their impact lessened over 40 years ago.

The net result created a protective environment that brought my risk for heart ailments into the female typical range. Stress tests, blood tests and such have been female typical for years.

5'4" is a typical height for a woman.

A man who is 5'4" is no more or less male than any other man.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:43

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 10:40

Still doesn't make you a female person.

That wasn't the question or assumption, nor the answer.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 10:43

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:17

I will stand by my puberty as being female directed rather than male.

I've never heard of a non-trans male shaped like me, or sharing the same social experience of puberty. As it is, my weight and height are absolutely tiny in comparison to the average. My sizes do not exist in adult male clothing (or shoes) to my knowledge, but I've never needed adult male clothing.

This isn't manipulative, this is my life. My experience.

And just another thought. You began male puberty.

You had male puberty in part or even more, yet continue to deny this and tell us that you had a female puberty. Your words in the past were that you had a female puberty.

Yet, you absolutely experienced male pubertal processes that you deny experiencing.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 10:45

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:43

5'4" is a typical height for a woman.

A man who is 5'4" is no more or less male than any other man.

I know quite a few men who are around that height.

Doesn't make them female shaped or female.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:46

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:43

5'4" is a typical height for a woman.

A man who is 5'4" is no more or less male than any other man.

I haven't met many size 4-6 5'4" men with size 4.5-5 feet. Do they exist? Probably. Do they have more problems finding clothing off the rack? I'm going to go with a large and loud yes.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:46

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:24

I would invite anyone to arrest me and throw me in prison for womaning.

I wouldn't know what 'womaning' is or how one would go about doing it, but you could be taken to court or prosecuted if you refused to leave a facility for women if asked and you can be excluded from participation in women's sports.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:47

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:46

I wouldn't know what 'womaning' is or how one would go about doing it, but you could be taken to court or prosecuted if you refused to leave a facility for women if asked and you can be excluded from participation in women's sports.

I see. What would I be charged with exactly?

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 10:48

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 10:40

Oh, it's about size now. Does that make me at nearly 6 foot and a size 16 male then?

Me too. With my size 8 feet too.

Although, I am not a man, I have never been a man, I have never thought of myself as a man, society has never seen me as a man.
And I cannot, and never will be a man.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:48

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:46

I haven't met many size 4-6 5'4" men with size 4.5-5 feet. Do they exist? Probably. Do they have more problems finding clothing off the rack? I'm going to go with a large and loud yes.

Yes, small men exist.

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:50

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:47

I see. What would I be charged with exactly?

A public order offence.
If it took place in the workplace, and you persisted in using the women's facilities when the company policy was in accordance with the Supreme Court ruling, it could be a disciplinary offence.

Best to just use the facilities designated for your biological sex.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:51

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 10:43

And just another thought. You began male puberty.

You had male puberty in part or even more, yet continue to deny this and tell us that you had a female puberty. Your words in the past were that you had a female puberty.

Yet, you absolutely experienced male pubertal processes that you deny experiencing.

Edited

I started tanner 2 at 15. I began estrogen at 15.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:53

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 10:48

Me too. With my size 8 feet too.

Although, I am not a man, I have never been a man, I have never thought of myself as a man, society has never seen me as a man.
And I cannot, and never will be a man.

Are you a man? That sounds like something a man would say. /s

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 10:53

My father is 5,1

Yes he needs to get some clothing adjusted.

I'm not sure what your point is here ...

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:54

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:48

Yes, small men exist.

I found out recently that Napoleon was exactly the same height as me.
Sorry, I know it's not very relevant but I like trivia😄

AnSolas · 19/02/2026 10:54

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The poster is the classic clown fish of that "never" happens......

The nobody says he is an actual female.

The but he knows he is male.

So many BeKindYouNastyBigot talking points are clearly being proven to be a lost cause.

Here is a multiposting poster claiming to be that very special type of male human called a female.

That his male teates prompted a female puberty.

Etc.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:54

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:50

A public order offence.
If it took place in the workplace, and you persisted in using the women's facilities when the company policy was in accordance with the Supreme Court ruling, it could be a disciplinary offence.

Best to just use the facilities designated for your biological sex.

This is quite the fantasy. I bet you wish it for all the trans women.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:56

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:47

I see. What would I be charged with exactly?

Whether you would be 'charged' would depend on whether you had broken criminal or civil law, but depending on the circumstances, harassment, trespass, causing a public nuisance.

If you are at work, gross misconduct.

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 10:57

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:53

Are you a man? That sounds like something a man would say. /s

No I am not a man.
And you are not a woman.

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:57

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:54

This is quite the fantasy. I bet you wish it for all the trans women.

No, just the ones who use facilities designated as single-sex spaces for women, which the Supreme Court has clarified means [and has always meant] biological females.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:58

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 10:48

Yes, small men exist.

Great maybe one day we'll all sit in the male change room and discuss our breasts, waist to hip ratio, fat/muscle distribution and pelvic tilts.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 11:00

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:54

This is quite the fantasy. I bet you wish it for all the trans women.

I'm not sure what your goal is in posting here, but insisting that a man cannot be prosecuted if he refuses to leave a single sex facility for women doesn't do much to help trans people.

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 11:00

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:58

Great maybe one day we'll all sit in the male change room and discuss our breasts, waist to hip ratio, fat/muscle distribution and pelvic tilts.

Gosh, you are presenting yourself as a crashing bore, onepostwonder - who wants to hear about all that?
I can see your corner of the male changing room being very very empty...😄

FuzzyPuffling · 19/02/2026 11:01

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 10:58

Great maybe one day we'll all sit in the male change room and discuss our breasts, waist to hip ratio, fat/muscle distribution and pelvic tilts.

As long as you're in the male estate, you can talk about whatever you like.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 11:01

MarieDeGournay · 19/02/2026 10:57

No, just the ones who use facilities designated as single-sex spaces for women, which the Supreme Court has clarified means [and has always meant] biological females.

We're all still waiting for that guidance and the inevitable influence of the ECHR.

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