you've Mentioned this before @prh47bridge and Im really grateful for your posts on this. I have requested female staff where available, it’s on my ACP also noted with the (sorry I don’t know what’s it called) brief list of conditions/DNR/summary thing NHS staff see as an overview first.
the regular staff that I see most and repeatedly are a group of females in three specialist clinics and two female consultants and one male consultant who I trust. So fine.
BUT my main problem atm is ironically A and E due to seizure injuries (currently one eye swollen shut from a big one last week and nice concussion - so apologise for even worse typing!) Obviously I understand paramedics and resus staff etc may be male, they can literally save your life and I’m not alert so it doesn’t cause problems. But when I’m conscious enough eg in cubicles I request females for exams if possible (if no choice usually have female chaperones). If DH is with me it’s fine, and if I’m not alert he will make the request for me. (could do whole other thread about that and how he’s taken seriously immediately!)
if I found out Upton had been “caring” for me I would def be pursuing this Avenue of assault for sure. (Not happened to me as never been in his area, but I wonder if any women have been affected by this as I would be so upset to learn I’d been basically been used to fuflfil his desires without my knowledge or informed consent, it so does feek like assault situation) idk how and if any of Uptons female patients who don’t know about this should be made aware but i feel they should know - bet the farm the trust would never do that off their own accord.
could or would anything be done about this?
It’s staying in my mind so much atm but I don’t know if I’m projecting for or it’s seizures and the aftermath is just so awful, I feel I lose all my dignity and independence and it feels humiliating embarrassing and just really fucking upsetting anyway no matter how professional or lovely the staff are. to think a man like Upton would have had his hands on me would be horrific. But maybe other women “treated” by him would be fine with it? but then any religious women probably wouldn’t…
idk if I’m struggling because last week was bad for me but the thought of those women not knowing keeps going round in my head. Do posters think they’d know from all the news coverage? A lot of people end up in an and e in none local areas, and he’s been in different departments too, sorry can’t remember which.
I think thr trust should make ALL his patients aware of what’s happening and I think he should be struck off immediately tbh. I can’t understand how he can be allowed to work after judges and the public has heard what he said himself off his own back.
sorry if this has already been discussed but the thought of his former patients not knowing is awful and they deserve to be made aware actively.
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