I’m sorry I am really behind and just caught up (also bit inarticulate atm) so it was a few threads ago I think where I slightly derailed the thread onto toilets (but it was very interesting and thank you so much *@Keeptoiletssafe * for the amazing work you do. i am emailing my MP (again!!)
of course, the obvious safest solution to people like me is to have a carer of the same sex with them in changing rooms and toilet areas,it’s a sensitive subject in our house as i know objectively I require carers (and yes, dwe’re getting back on thread topic here!) but i don’t fucking want them not just the whole loss of independence thing etc - but because I DO NOT WANT carers like the gaslighting DU. a male HCP who has said on record that despite the fact someone has specifically requested a female HCP he will override that, STILL turn up and just wait to see if you challenge him, wtf. if I was faced in that position and unable to communicate my wishes , I’d report him for sexual assault. Interesting for @prh47bridge views on that apologies if already discussed.
the very fact you need a carer shows how vulnerable you are. Especially to men like this. I don’t want to say female carers only, have it agreed to and then have someone rock up who is clearly biologically a man (and despite what the panel said I believe it’s objectively clear he is a man). Women aren’t here to gratify male egos at any time, especially at our most vulnerable. Hopefully this tribunal will back us up.
(Irony is that my DH is a trained carer! I want him to be my DH in my life, not my carer though. things like helping mobilise and dressings management etc ok, intimate care not. He is a decent man though who in work would have never ever attend a woman who had requested female care. Aand he is my staunch advocate in hospital on this subject. I can bet DU would have backed the fuck down in the face of a man like DH (think Pete the plumber but much thinner and taller with muscles and more tattoos) saying “no men”. it’s fucking infuriating but at least latest developments about him and his “she was a danger to patients but I didn’t report as it wasn’t about ME” or “she was a danger to patients but I just left the reporting until I could use it to make it about ME” or “I’m totally lying she wasn’t a danger to patients but I said she was as I’m trying desperately to hang her on now that because clearly it isn’t enough that it’s just about ME” seem to show he has effectively torpedoed his own career, yet more irony. Oops.
edited to add I really REALLY hope his phone is examined.