Or possibly as we've heard before, (said to women without awareness of irony and sheer lack of self awareness) 'sometimes to include you have to exclude'
I wonder if it means the end result is beautiful (for men) but the actual getting rid of people and creating a pure, righteous environment is ugly.
But then look at us. It's like the whole 'you're denying I exist' stuff. Doesn't it always work like a charm? We all spend hours and hours providing head space and trying to work out wtaf it all meant, and that in itself serves the agenda. Focus, attention, uncertainty, time and head space provided, good faith that it does actually have an intended meaning, and that it serves a purpose other than controlling the agenda and hiding coercive bollocks under nice sounding pseudo EDI speak figleaves.
Chumplady would be shaking her head. And Lundy Bancroft.