@Bespin
A male can never be a lesbian.
No matter what that male is wearing.
No matter what the male calls themselves.
No matter how long the male has claimed a feminine internal sense of self.
No matter how sincerely that male wants to identify as a lesbian.
No matter how long that male is on cross-sex hormones.
No matter whether the male has had their testicles removed and penis inverted into an orifice that attempts to mimic a vulva and vagina.
Never. Not one male becomes female. Not one can be a lesbian. A male who wants to have sex with a lesbian is a heterosexual male. And any female who has sex with that male is engaging in a heterosexual act. Not lesbian.
Saying you want to call yourself the word lesbian doesn't make a sex act between male and female anything but heterosexual. I really do not care how much a straight couple wants to call themselves queer or whatever. Words have meaning.
All women are asking for is to be allowed to have their boundaries, their own spaces, to define themselves. To have discussions about women's needs without having to always centre those born bepenised in every. single. thing.
I really don't understand why it seems so very difficult for males (no matter how they identify) to leave females, especially lesbians, alone.