they will end up being the figurehead for the trans movement and I don’t feel that this person is anything close to a true representation of most transwomen.
They are as much a TW as any other TW. At this point, how many well known TW do not have an 'interesting' background and views, frequently including sexual choices?
As said in that reddit rant the other day, it's way past the point now of clinging to the blanket of 'this is just one rotten apple' and a belief that there's a host of TW who are not like that. Because where are they? Where are the voices rejecting this and pointing out that it's unacceptable? On the other hand, trans voices standing up for the ideological extremism that has nurtured and permitted this are everywhere.
It is not the job of women to be kind and facilitate their own oppression.