Thanks @DandyRaven and @GracefulHippo don't worry, I defended myself well! I reckon one of the people concerned was missing a screw anyway and may now be banned from MN.
I fear that in Harry and Meg land, the Queen's natural desire to protect the Royal Brand is seen as further proof of how toxic the family is and how important it is that they escape.
See, this makes me question how much M understood when accepting marriage into the RF. They are not a 'normal' family. The Queen represents the constitutional monarchy. She is Queen first and constitutional head, with wife second and grandma third or even fourth who knows! MM is in no position to complain about toxic family relations... it's strange that Sophie and Kate manage to fulfill their duties with integrity and still maintain respect for the Queen because they respect they are serving the institution and it is an honour to do so if you have the right attitude.
Clearly she had zero understanding of all of this. But anyone else with sense will understand that you often have to put yourself last when you are serving something bigger than you are.
If she wanted an ordinary life why did she accept H proposal? She didn't even say 'I need some time to really think about it' which anyone else who truly understood what role they'd be stepping into would.
Instead she jumped in with 'can I say yes now?' Then complains afterwards.