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I am NOT enjoying choosing my wedding dress - pics

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Pinkarsedfly · 16/04/2019 21:22

I’m getting married on my 45th birthday, in just a couple of weeks - and I’m so excited.

Except I’m at my fattest. Ever. And suddenly who I feel I am inside doesn’t match what’s in the mirror.

I simply can’t find a dress that suits me.

I keep thinking I’ve found ‘the one’ - then I see the pics and just feel I look heinous, and back it goes.

If I show the pics, can anyone out there give me honest feedback, make suggestions etc?

It’s a tiny registry office wedding followed by a nice dinner after.

TIA

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Pinkarsedfly · 17/04/2019 21:04

Ah, RealHousewifeofCheshire sounds like you found your Fairy Godmother too!

I bet you’ll look gorgeous.

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2018SoFarSoGreat · 17/04/2019 21:27

Swanking pic tells it all, Pink - you know how good you look - and it is bloody great!

I love the red shoes. Would not change them. It will be you, the best you, on your big day. Sending so many happy wishes for the future and Flowers

AmethystRaven · 17/04/2019 21:28

This is brilliant! It's like an episode of Say Yes to the Dress! I think the front runner is really beautiful. Shame about the red shoes though as they seem very 'you'. I'm really not great with fashion but does anyone else think the shoes might just go if pink wears a matching coloured sash thing around the waist?? I suspect this may not be a great idea but thought I'd throw it out there.

Bravissimo was a revelation to me. I got fitted in there a while ago and I came out feeling like a different person with boobs where they should be Grin They really know their stuff.

Looking forward to the next update now...

BabyDueDecember2019 · 17/04/2019 21:59

You look great in tha dress & shimmer is the right show choice Smile

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 17/04/2019 22:14

I meant lifted.

I'm not sure about red with that shade of blush but I think you're quirky with red lip and nails it may work.

I do like the sparkle sandal though and think they would look nicer.

Or even a kinky shoe in a brushed kind of material would work I think x

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 17/04/2019 22:18

Meant pinky not kinky - predictive text

Crafting1Queen · 18/04/2019 01:11

@Pinkarsedfly, wow what a difference a day makes! We were all rooting for you to find your dress :). To see you actually smiling and so working it, girlfriend, in your swanking it photo, you just looked gorgeous!

If you don't mind, I have to say I did initially prefer the dress in the first picture you posted about 2.45pm, as I thought it was very flattering on you, the colour was lovely, especially the splashes of colour of the flowers which lifted it and it showed off your lovely flat stomach, amazing boobs and ticked all your previously stated boxes for floaty etc. etc, but wasn't initially blown away by lace dress no. 2. (Though part of that might have been because of my OCD not coping with the creases from it being packaged and posted not yet having dropped put and making it stick out at the sides lol.) But with the different angles you have photographed yourself in it, from putting on a different bra, and adding shoes to give you height, and checking the link to those gorgeous glimmer sandals you've ordered from Next, that changed. Imagine if they arrived before you go for your Bravissimo fitting - take them and (other option) dress(es) with you!

Laughing loads at the DP being putty in your hands re your red shoes, but I'm sure on the day, your lovely dress, glimmer shoes or whichever outfit/shoes you end up wearing and the fact that it is actually YOU, no longer just DP, but amazing WIFE who is inside them will do the very trick! As a back up though, just to be sure, maybe plank your red shoes somewhere at the venue/hotel/back at home so that if any added incentive is really needed, you can just slip your wedding shoes off, slide into your Dorothy's and click you heels together 3 times!!!!

I hope now you actually have some fun trying on some (or all) of the other dresses you have ordered (with your good bra on/shoes to try with) and it will either cement this one, or even if it turns out one of them is THE dress, so what/even better. Either way at least now you've had the pleasure of being able to discard the wrong ones and choose the right one, not because it was the least worst option / the best of a bad bunch / the only one that fit so it was Hobson's Choice as there was no more time... You are going to be happy and look a million dollars on your Wedding (& Birth) Day.

You do now realise though that we've gone way past just seeing photos of the dress before the day, and photos of you in the dress & finery on your Wedding day etc - we are all now expecting an invite TO the wedding! I mean we must all be your very special friend's to have been included in shopping for your wedding dress, right? You'll have to tell us if there's a colour scheme, and whether it's hat or no hats …..

One thing you can be sure of - when the 300 of us turn up NO-ONE WILL BE WEARING THE SAME DRESS AS YOU ;)

ChristmasCalamity · 18/04/2019 05:18

I read half this thread yesterday and finished it today... OP, I’m so thrilled you found a dress you love, and I’m glad you’re not taking to heart all the comments too much because on any thread like this some people will always disagree with each other in preferring one dress over another (and some will comment having only read the first page of the thread and seems the original pictures! 🙄) - we all have different tastes and preferences so in a way that’s all irrelevant, you can just take useful advice re style and body shape etc. I love the idea of red shoes if your DP has a thing for them - it doesn’t matter about traditional bridal style: this wedding is fun, intimate and informal so it should be all about you two! Hope you have a wonderful day. Agree with all the PPs that you have a lovely figure and even though it’s different for you I hope you can embrace it! I’m now hoping my boobs will come in when I turn 40. And pleeeeeease post a picture of the day???

sashh · 18/04/2019 06:39

I love the dress with the red shoes. I'd add something else the same red, a bag, flowers or a wrap.

So we know where you are getting married and the sort of date, so I predict a MN meet up to see your dress, you can go off to the Ivy and everyone on this thread can go to the pub.

You look fab OP and you will sparkle on the day.

joggingon · 18/04/2019 07:46

Off topic but have a watch of naked beach. V. Interesting experiment that changed how people saw themselves.....

FrozenMargarita17 · 18/04/2019 07:49

So glad you found something op. You look lovely!

Pinkarsedfly · 18/04/2019 07:54

What lovely messages to wake up to!

This thread has restored my faith in MN - you guys have been so, so kind.

Thank you. Really.

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TheSassyAssassin · 18/04/2019 08:00

So we know where you are getting married and the sort of date

Actually we know the date too...sadly I can't make it Grin Hope the Bravissimo appt goes really well today Pink - take the dress so you can make sure your new purchase works with it! You really are going to look beautiful you know and what an amazing way to celebrate your birthday Smile Oh and if you get chance, it would be wonderful to see a pic of you looking amazing on your big day for those of us who can't make the date and will miss out on being part of a MN Guard of Honour Wink

gubbsywubbsy · 18/04/2019 08:00

Have you made a decision .. I like th pink but please press the creases out for a perfect look x

Pinkarsedfly · 18/04/2019 08:58

Oh my goodness - if you lot turn up DP will think I’ve gone bonkers! The whole wedding was supposed to be a secret but he caught me telling my sister within 24 hours of us booking it. Now nearly everyone we know knows Grin

I’ll sort the creases, don’t worry. I have one of those hand held steamer thingies.

Just been watching Naked Beach - what an emotional programme. It’s made me think I need to stop judging myself so harshly...

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TixieLix · 18/04/2019 09:21

You have a lovely figure OP. Here's a couple more suggestions.
Apologies if they're duplicates as I haven't clicked on every other dress suggested.

www.very.co.uk/frock-and-frill-frock-and-frill-gabriella-embroidered-midi-dress-blush/1600333978.prd

www.very.co.uk/v-by-very-embellished-cape-maxi-dress-blush/1600315598.prd

TixieLix · 18/04/2019 09:26

Sorry OP, I was so engrossed in looking at pretty dresses, the thread had moved on and I see you have a front runner already. It's a very pretty dress and I love the colour Smile.

onalongsabbatical · 18/04/2019 10:36

Wow, this thread went amazingly and you seem to have gone from miserably unsure to happily confident. You look amazing in the dress you've chosen and it looks just the right amount of special and structured while still being very pretty and 'you'. I think you should keep the embroidered pink one too it's SUCH a lovely dress and it really suits you. Tell us when it is we can all raise a glass! Wine

You are so not fat!
Hope you have a lovely wonderful day. Flowers

Pinkarsedfly · 18/04/2019 10:43

I’ve just ordered my wedding bouquet and I made sure they go with ‘that’ dress so it must be a keeper!

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Pinkarsedfly · 18/04/2019 10:45

Thank you onalongsabbatical

I can’t tell you how much happier I feel.

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SallyOMalley · 18/04/2019 11:37

Just read the thread from beginning to end (a wonderful way to spend a boring train journey!). I LOVE the dress you've chosen - you look stunning. Have an amazing day!

AvengersAssemble · 18/04/2019 12:25

@TheRealHousewifeofCheshire I love that Monsoon Dress!

AvengersAssemble · 18/04/2019 12:29

Wow @purplepingu I love love love that dress and OP I think you would look amazing in this one!

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 18/04/2019 13:16

@AvengersAssemble, which one

Pinkarsedfly · 18/04/2019 13:37

Two more dresses have arrived!

Red

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