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How do people manage moving the kids between houses with no car?

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selck · 05/02/2023 19:14

DSD6's mum doesn't drive, DP doesn't drive either.
We used to live a 10 minute walk away from eachother until she decided to move. Now DSD's school is three miles from our house and we have her 50% of the time.
It's always assumed that I will do the picking up and dropping off as I'm the driver.
Honestly, I'm a bit sick of it. Neither parent wants to sit on two buses with her, which I understand, but there must be some alternative to make things easier.
The new house and school are in a worse area so I'm not wanting to move closer as when I have children I would like them to grow up where we live currently.

How does everyone else manage?

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funinthesun19 · 06/02/2023 16:17

I certainly as a mum would be learning to drive if my partner was a unsafe driver and wouldn't be like well my ex's wife can drive if she's got a issue with my partner driving 😵‍💫😵‍💫

Exactly!

hourbyhour101 · 06/02/2023 16:19

@funinthesun19 I'm so aware that I'm non Nt that I'm really starting to feel like I'm missing some type of clue (I'm not kidding).

I'm being to black and white I'm sure but wtf !

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 06/02/2023 16:24

hourbyhour101 · 06/02/2023 16:15

I mean this is bizarre.

Why is it only op and the SF who forgets car seats and drives like a nutter enough to scare a child that are responsible for doing drop offs/pick ups.

Where are the parents and why do they think it's ok to lump this on their partners ? And take no action to solve the problem to help their own child.

I certainly as a mum would be learning to drive if my partner was a unsafe driver and wouldn't be like well my ex's wife can drive if she's got a issue with my partner driving 😵‍💫😵‍💫

Am I missing something here ? Why is the bar set higher for the sp (even though sf isn't a safe driver) and the parents aren't getting pulled over the coals ?

I feel like I'm missing something 😵‍💫 someone please help explain this.

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selck · 06/02/2023 16:29

@hourbyhour101 this was my issue but sounds like DP has taken my comments on board, if he hasn't I've got a few more ideas to manage the school run in the morning and let him know his pick up will be easier if he takes her in the morning also.

Everyone is right, they would make it work if I wasn't around. The agreement when DP agreed for DSD to move schools despite his concerns was that the boyfriend would help with driving. This was before we knew he'd previously been banned and that DSD had been driven around without a car seat.

I feel like I've ended up in this situation because I've made it easy for everyone, so there's no one person to blame. They shouldn't expect it but I shouldn't accept it so I'll work on this boundary and we can see how we go.

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Judgyjudgy · 06/02/2023 18:33

Chrimbob · 06/02/2023 14:34

Please don't have children with this lazy man child. If you weren't around would he just not see his daughter...? Clever of him not to cook tea because he's playing with his daughter.

This. I think you should seriously consider if you want to be with this person, so far nothing sounds great and I'm sure it'll only get worse. I'm sure you can do so much better OP

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