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Rude DSD

158 replies

PollyPepper · 27/07/2021 19:20

Will keep it brief. Need some useful and thoughtful advice please. Usual vipers not welcome. Smile

DSD, 15. Just got back from work, DH has taken DSS to football so just me and her. I come in, she's lying on the sofa on her phone, with a film on. I heat up my food (she had already had hers), feed the animals, come into the lounge.
'Hello DSD you alright darling?'
(In a very rude and surly way 'Yeah'.

Nothing else. Thats literally it. She has form for this, I have had to sit her down before and ask her that at least when I say hello I would appreciate a hello back.

The atmosphere is awful, awkward and toxic. DH not back until 8PM.

I've come up to my bedroom to read. I feel like a lodger in my own home and her the moody landlord who doesn't like me encroaching on her space.

I have tried EVERYTHING. I mean everything over the years. (Been with DH 6 years, married for 2). I've done talking, I've done days out, I've done stepping back, I've organised daddy/daughter days, but I'm getting to the stage where I think its honestly just her personality, and thats okay, but surely a basic level of respect is ok?

Its not just me shes like this with, she's even worse with her mum and DH but I just don't feel strong enough to deal with it. Sad

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wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:09

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SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:11

Jesus @wigjuice well aren’t you a delight!
Keep classy!

Bridezillamaybe · 29/07/2021 19:12

@wigjuice what words should I have used? "Her sister that I gave birth to"?

SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:14

@wigjuice no it’s because on every single fucking thread SMs are ripped to shreds over such minor things as referring to their own children as such and people jump on anonymous language such because they’re trying to keep things vague / not use names. It’s that simple.

And calling someone a cunt shows you to be one yourself. Absolute gutter rat clearly!

wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:15

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SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:16

@Bridezillamaybe how about “the child I birthed” for DD and “the child I am blessed to be bestowed with her presence whom I didn’t create” for SD Grin

SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:17

@wigjuice and your posts show you to be lacking in empathy, intelligence or any element of decorum.
There’s clearly no hope for you as a decent human being.

wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:18

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Bridezillamaybe · 29/07/2021 19:18

I'm sincerely asking you the question @wigjuice if you can manage to answer without abusing everyone. How should I have worded it?

SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:18

@Bridezillamaybe don’t feed the troll. Your post was fine, you’re allowed to refer to your joint child as “our child”. Doesn’t make you a horrible stepparent, it is simply a factual statement.

wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:19

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SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:19

And wigjuice is now back off to the Jeremy Kyle show where she belongs byeeeee!

SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:19

Vile. I feel sorry for her children.

wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:20

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SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:20

Honestly, you’re just embarrassing yourself now.

Bridezillamaybe · 29/07/2021 19:22

What a bizarre outburst. Are you ok @wigjuice?

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katie9998 · 29/07/2021 19:22

Sigh, it gets worse. Honestly this is bordering on childish and quite possibly spiteful. Wijuice, As an ‘onlooker’ I didn’t find it weird at all and ‘your unfortunate voice of words’... Jesus H Christ.

SpongebobNoPants · 29/07/2021 19:23

I think she needs to put down the can of tenants and back away from the thread

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wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:25

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Bridezillamaybe · 29/07/2021 19:27

@katie9998

Sigh, it gets worse. Honestly this is bordering on childish and quite possibly spiteful. Wijuice, As an ‘onlooker’ I didn’t find it weird at all and ‘your unfortunate voice of words’... Jesus H Christ.
And yet can't provide one single suggestion on how I should have phrased it.
wigjuice · 29/07/2021 19:28

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