What is the worst thing your DH's ex has ever done?

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For anyone with a DH with a spiteful or crazy ex what is the worst thing they've ever said or done to you?

My DSD has announced that her DM told her to suggest more one on one time with her dad without me around.
To be clear she hasn't said she wants this, she said her mum told her to say it!

Or what's the number one thing she does to wind you up?

I need a bit of light hearted relief tonight so any replies would be appreciated... serious...funny....whacky..

I don’t know were to start as her batshittery is constant.....

My OH has been separated 9 years, divorced for 7 years.

STILL uses the children as weapons to punish her ex with no thought for how it damages the children. The kids at 12 & 15 aren’t allowed to call their dad - she controls contact down to when they can speak to their dad.

Told the kids I had an affair with their dad and broke up the family (they had been split up for over 7 years and divorced for 5 years before I had even met him which she is well aware of).

15 YO SD refuses to speak to me or look at me as it ‘upsets mummy’. I’m referred to as ‘her’ by SD & the mum.

She (the mum) turned up at our door recently as SD had had her phone taken off her for poor behaviour. She and her new partner of 6 months knocked on the front door and staring yelling abuse (he threatened to ‘tear (OH) new arsehole). My OH calmly asked them to step away from the door, they continued with the abuse so he closed the door and called the police. Two policemen turned up in a squad car and they called for back up - a van with 8 police turned up to calm them down. This was all because SD had called her mum to complain. The kids witnessed all of this going on.

I could go on..... sad really that she can’t move on with her own life. I just ignore the sad excuse of a women.

@BlindMedusa

I can't believe a relationship is seriously worth all that hell from an Ex. .

She convinced DSS at 5 that he wanted to have the same name as his abusive ass of a stepfather. We have Dss about 40% of the time so DP is pretty far from a deadbeat dad. DP said no to the name change obviously. She still went into school and changed his name then hid his school books from us untill DSS told us his new name.
Obviously DP went to the school and asked how this could happen. Transpires she told them DP was ok with the name change. The school was very apologetic and now every letter from the school is also sent separately to DP.

[quote SandyY2K]**@BlindMedusa

I can't believe a relationship is seriously worth all that hell from an Ex. .[/quote]
I keep going knowing that it wont be like this forever. The kids seem to like me 😂 hard to believe. And my own child has a lovely relationship with his dads girlfriend, far better than the one he has with his dad. Never get back all that money wasted on tupperware though 😅

Even on this thread someone had to come along and do the whole OW story. Unbelievable.

Start your own thread/ get over yourself. Plenty of women (myself included) have had an OW involved in the breakdown of our marriage. So what? He cheated on me, he lost me. He didn’t lose his children as their relationship is completely separate to my relationship with him.

The rhetoric of who did what and who left whom and why? Private. I’m not here to point score. My relationship with my exh is amicable, zero courts involved, 40/60 access situation. I’m not here to point score against my exh, his partner. Why? Because it would devastate my own children.

Got dressed up in a 'sexy' santa outfit and tried to seduce him when he went to see DSC on Christmas day.

🤭🤢

My ex had the craziest ex-wife I've ever come across ! She had 4 children with 3 different men, all of whom she cheated on including my ex! But had the cheek to say my ex was the one who cheated. Made their dd miss out on several family holidays due to it not being when she wanted to go on holiday without her children ! Told their dd I was a witch n her dads been in prison! Totally not true !

Now I'm with a wonderful man years later .. his ex totally opposite ur anything she's too sweet n too nice like sickly sweet, txs dh sickly txs a lot , doesn't want any bday or mother day stuff from their dd ! Sprays her dd and dd clothes with her own perfume when she visits, sends brownies bags of sweets everytime she visits like we don't have sweets in the house! Says that our dd isn't hey sister but best friend 🙄
When we got togther started being pally pally with dh parents when before wouldn't even talk to them! Didn't want her dd stayin over my house with me as she doesn't sleep(she does)
Very passive aggressive person obsessed with her daughter n I do not trust her one bit !

Refused to give me back my stolen money, stalked me and my own child on the school run, changed her sm profile to one of her and my partner on their wedding day and then denied it when I confronted the issue to her boyfriend and accused my partner of sending flowers to her to make it look like he’s the stalker one

This is water under the bridge compared to
what her actions do to her own child, it’s manipulation and cruelty in its finest. Refused to be home at handover time and tried to force my partner to drive out to where she was keeping their child (she went out shopping knowing he was due to be picked up) stubbornly kept hold of him in the car until he wet himself comes to mind.

@Themadcatparade were you the SM who’s SS stole money from you and then his DM was saying she wouldn’t give it back?
I remember a thread on here along those lines and I was horrified

Was it due to a him putting it in piggy bank and she didn’t want it to be broken?

@SpongebobNoPants
Yeah that was me unfortunately. The responses over the step mum always being in the wrong sent me over the edge and I left mumsnet for a bit

FYI I never got the money back. But they had a court date the following week over DSS’s mum breaching and inhibiting DSS’s time with his dad all last year and he got the court order changed in his favour for more time during holidays etc so that triumphed over the lack of £20 really!

@Themadcatparade if my DS stole from anyone I would go ballistic. Whether it’s £1 or £20, it’s the principle isn’t it.
Sorry you had such harsh responses... you most definitely were not in the wrong.

@SpongebobNoPants same, I’d be mortified. I think I get some relief knowing at least my morals don’t make me that Sort of person.

My ex husband is the batshit one he has convinced his fiance i want him back that im "desperate" to get him into bed that my (now ex) partner was a registered paedophile (he isnt and he knows this) that my (non existing) social worker has told him he will have to take custody of the children due to them being at risk that I'm going to beat her up fight her for "my man"(seriously just no) that I dont want the divorce (he refused to sign not me) he even claimed we weren't divorced (we are) and best of all that he was paying me 3/400 pounds child support PER WEEK (he pays £6.93) and I was demanding more

I laughed 🤣

I was caught up in one of the London terrorist attacks and she told me that DH called her and said if I died they could get back together. He never called her and never said this.

@Lostmyway86 what the actual fuck

You win. This is the worst thing I’ve read on here in a loooooong time

[quote SpongebobNoPants]@Lostmyway86 what the actual fuck

You win. This is the worst thing I’ve read on here in a loooooong time[/quote]
Yep, I could list a zillion other things she's done but that one really does trump them. Not by far though....

@Lostmyway86 she sounds seriously disturbed to have come out with something like that. Really shocking.

ExW had an affair twice so my H left her. H met me a year later when SD was 2. Her relationship failed while ours went from strength to strength. Her DD thought for many years that I had spilt them up, ExW knew this and let her believe it. When we found this out it was too late, so much damage done. She has repeated this pattern many times over the years, her present H hates us and we have no idea y because we got on with the second one. We know she’s lied to him about us but we can’t tell him. He’ll work it out for himself when she does the same to him. I just worry what this teaches my SD.

@Theunamedcat it’s so frustrating isn’t it when you know they’ve lied to their current partners. I get more annoyed by it than my H to be honest. He says she’s always been the same and he’ll wake up eventually.

My first ever boyfriend had a crazy ex who upon finding out I was pregnant ambushed me outside my flat one evening with three of her friends and beat me to within an inch of my life, ending my pregnancy in the process.

My second partners ex wife decided to tell his whole family I was abusing my SD whilst simultaneously sending vile messages and accusations to partner because I refused to be her unpaid childcare. Not sure why she’d want me to look after her if I was so abusive? Idiot woman.

Currently single and staying that way. I’ll never date anyone with kids ever again.

Called him Christmas morning to gloat that he wouldn't be seeing his child and to ask if his mum was dead yet.

Called me a bitch in every conversation with dh.

Tried to teach SC to call me pig.

Call be a jealous barren freak because she had found out we were struggling to conceive, she was pregnant and had really scared the SC who were 5/6 about c section births.

Interrogated the sc for hours after every contact to find a 'misdeed' we had committed.

DP and his ex have two children together BUT she also has 17 year old twins that both went into foster care at 15, they were taking drugs, getting in trouble with the police, all sorts of stuff. They were Barely living with her from the age of 12 and she basically washed her hands of them and now has no relationship with them at all. Their opinion is that when she got with DP and they had their own children, they were forgotten, and the new children were her chance to have the perfect family she always wanted. I don’t judge her at all for this and even though her mother of the year act with the younger ones irritates me, I can understand it. What pissed me off was when my older son, after some traumatic experiences, began getting in trouble at school and got brought home by the police a couple of times and she knew all about is as she’s friends with someone who works at the school. She was so horrible and judgemental, said nasty things about my parenting, whether or not her children were safe at our house - not because of him but because of me as I was clearly an incompetent adult!

@Lachimolala

My first ever boyfriend had a crazy ex who upon finding out I was pregnant ambushed me outside my flat one evening with three of her friends and beat me to within an inch of my life, ending my pregnancy in the process.

My second partners ex wife decided to tell his whole family I was abusing my SD whilst simultaneously sending vile messages and accusations to partner because I refused to be her unpaid childcare. Not sure why she’d want me to look after her if I was so abusive? Idiot woman.

Currently single and staying that way. I’ll never date anyone with kids ever again.

Thats awful. Did those involved in the attack get prosecuted?