Oh ffs!
Moldies was set up by an exclusive group of people who considered themselves Mumsnet Oldies. It was all a very big secret. You could nominate someone you thought 'deserved' to belong, that person would be discussed, Moldies could veto the nomination for whatever reason and you would never get to know about it.
If you were accepted you would receive an email with a link. But the idea was that you did not tell anyone else about it.
The site cannot be viewed or accessed so no-one but the members themselves know what is going on 'out there'. If they decided to have a bitch fest about wannabe, she'd never know unless some stirrer told her and even then she'd never find out what was said.
Stirrers have been at it good and proper, telling people that they were nominated but then vetoed.
And all of this done by those Mumsnetters some people considered friends. Who had met up year after year at the Christmas Do and other local meet-ups.
Your analogies are all bloody wrong!
You have a group of friends, some members of that group have been in there from the beginning and they decide they want to meet elsewhere from now on, privately, as they don't really like some of the new group members. So they join a private, members-only golf club. They don't tell anyone else and they continue, some of them, to go to the local and be all pally with the others. That's when they start suggesting that some of the pub group that they like should be invited to the golf club. Bob's name is mentioned, as is Freds. Fred is popular and is mates with a lot of the golf club set so he gets in no problem, but others don't like Bob, they discuss his merits and failings in the golf club and then decide he can't join.
This carries on.
Then one day the pub finds out about the golf club. The friends are hurt. Some of the golf club start telling Bob that he was discussed behind his back and told him that he wasn't good enough to join the club. He doesn't know which of his friends thought this, so not only is he hurt, he's also mistrustful of those he considered friends.
The golf club people don't see that they've done anything wrong, they still don't want the pub lot to join them, they won't even let them in for a day to see what it's like. They maintain that they be able to go to both the golf club and the pub as if nothing has happened and can't understand the suspicion that now surrounds them.
Is that any clearer?
What date is it today? What date did all of this kick off?
I wonder how many smug threads there are in Moldies about this right now?