is there a moldies part three?

[Tortington]

just wondering, as i can't find it.

ok I'm going to put it another way.

How many people on here tell their closest friends about mn, and give them their nicknames so their closest rl friends can join mn and converse with them over the internet as well as in rl?

There have been threads and threads and threads from people confessing that they never tell people in rl about mn because they don't want people in rl reading things about them on the internet. People namechange on here to avoid recognission in rl.

And yet these are peoples' close friends? rl friends.

Do you think that those rl friends should all have a two week long discussion and discuss the validity of friendships should they encounter you on mn and you've not told them you're there or invited them on here?

It amounts to the same thing, no?

By thedongwiththeluminousnose on Tue 06-Jan-09 12:52:57
"Some of you who are wondering why you weren't invited, the answer is simple, you hadn't been invited YET. There was every intention to invite more people and quite often the cry was heard 'omg we forgot xxxx!' No ulterior motives, no nasty reasons, just temporary memory loss"

Sorry, that simply isn't entirely true is it? People were put forward for inclusion, and were vetoed, quite possibly as someone said earlier, because an existing Moldie did not care for them.

Is it the case that a candidate only has to be vetoed by one Moldie for them not to be invited? Or is it a majority decision?

TC- I requested you ages ago ( last, last year I think it was). You sent me a message asking who I was (think it was a time when lots of Mnetters were all requesting each other and I saw you on someone elses profile page).
I got a bit paranoid though a short while after ( about facebook itself) and deleted my facebook account (after about two weeks) Then when I set it back up I didnt request the same people in case they all thouight I was barking mad!!

Sorry Fair

You won't need to rent the film now I have spoilt the end for you .. .
OOPs

Fairlady I used the night out thing because you said:

"I don't ecpect all my friends to like eachother....well...most of my friends don't even know eachother....however if several of my friends who know eachother set out somewhere else, and not really caring if I was there, too...I think I would take that personal, tbh....how could you not....[puzzled emoticon]"

So as you were talking about your friends setting out somewhere I used that anaolgy. That's all.

I am not on facebook but I have some pretty pictures of my DCs on my mumsnet page. DS2 is getting much less upset by the camera these days

A few people have mentioned that it hurtful to a. not have been nominated and b. to be nominated and turned down.

There are of course moldies that were nominated by one person (presumably) and not turned down because nobody knew them well enough or cared one way or the other enough to say they didn't want them on the site. So I suppose they can't really be considered as "special" or "popular" or whatever either.

Just an assumption.

LOL - oh sorry Tiredemma, I like you very much on MN, just don't like to fill FB with names I struggle to place. Would add you now if it came up. No idea how to find you as no idea what your RL name is!

hmmm...wannabe...I kinda see your point...but...well, than, me being a member on mn is not a secret, if a friend was to ask....and if a friend would ask me what my id was, I would tell them, nothing secret about me....
I can understand others feel differently about this....however....mumsnet is an open forum, whilst moldies becomes more mystifying by the minute....

nobody going to answer my question then?

So all those who are upset that their "friends" from mn are on another site they didn't know about have told all their rl friends about mn and have invited them all to join and given out their mn name to them then?

And if not, why not?

Maddie, no as I understand people were also vetoed if Moldies did not recognise them.

I dont keep MN a secret from anyone, i even told my parents about my quote being on the front page of the Indie

I have nothing to hide

pagwatch, worry not...it would not be a movie I would chose to watch....

can I ask again:

s it really true that there is/was a banner at the top of all pages saying 'this is not narnia' or words to that effect?

that was the most surreal part of this saga bunfight for me.

(I must be invisible which explains why I haven't gotten my invite yet.)

But sinking there are also MNers who are recongnised but only because they've been around a while. They are not necessarily mega popular. Just that people might think "meh what the hell, makes no difference if she's here or not so no point in saying no"..

Maybe?

This whole thing doesn't bother me one way or another, but i do seem to be drawn to this thread. At the risk of dragging it up again i'd like to point out that

"You can only apply for membership if you are invited to do so." is the moldie rule

However

You can apply for membership of the SN board without being invited s proven earlier by somene.

This was the one arguement that annoyed me the most, as i fail to see how anyone could compare the two. I'll butt out now i've had my tuppence worth.

xposts fairlady.

afaik (and I am not a member so could well be wrong) moldies was not a closed forum for the duration - it was only once it started to kick off that it became invite only.

But members perhaps just didn't tell others about its existance, in the same way I wouldn't offer to tell my rl friends about my mn membership. It's not a deliberate secret - it's just not something I feel the need to mention.

tbh, it is really this secrecy thing, innit...I mean, it possibly is one thing to want to be completely anominous (sp?...it looks wrong) on a large open forum....it is kinda a different to bugger off wiht lots of friends....and keeping it a BIG secret (and for the record, I am only arguing this point hypothetical....because, well...for the sake of it

at TC

(maybe I will track you down again )

wannabe it can't be reduced to THIS PART or THIS PART, there are lots of reasons people are upset but the main one I think it that the whole thing is bad form because by definition it will hurt some people.

the parallels you are drawing at not really valid comparisons

Maddie, you may be right. That could make some Moldies feel as insecure as the left outers!

sorry x-post...

I know I'm right And I said it to help so I hope it has x

Do I know you Maddie?

no wannabe, one of the ex moldies told us that there were coments aking to ' phew that was a close shave' after the forum was nearly outed on mn.

that is activley keeping it secret, rather than 143 people choosing not to mention it to their other friends like you do