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Spotting people who you know in RL on MN - What is the MN etiquette?

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TheBlonde · 19/02/2007 22:03

I'm sure it's been done before but what is the accepted MN etiquette when you spot or think you have spotted someone you know in RL?

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RanToTheHills · 20/02/2007 12:32

ah, but I'm not enough of a "someone" on here to have been noted, methinks! It helps sometimes, you know!

Pruni · 20/02/2007 12:32

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Pruni · 20/02/2007 12:34

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RanToTheHills · 20/02/2007 12:35

oh don't think so! It was a one-off, months ago -we just happened to be in same hotel. I've never and would never refer to it/out her on a thread. I don't know her in RL at all, met once only by chance. Otherwise, i agree, creepy and stalky andwould hate to be in thatposition myself.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 20/02/2007 12:36

How did you KNOW she was an Mner RTTH???

Pruni · 20/02/2007 12:36

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RanToTheHills · 20/02/2007 12:37

oh cross posts! I could make a fortune, coudlmn't I?
Sadly know no scandal, though could always improvise!

RanToTheHills · 20/02/2007 12:39

posts on travel-related threads I'd also just been looking at. Where she lived, "issues" of interest, age of children etc etc God,I feel like a stalker now!
where we went wasdoubtless full to the brim with otherMNers as a popular place on here.

Aefondkiss · 20/02/2007 12:56

oh I would want to know if someone knew me in rl and spotted me here

theblonde you should cat the person, whatever that is

poppiesinaline · 20/02/2007 13:04

I spotted a MNetter who was one of the mums at school. I did tell her I had sussed her....on the school run one day.

I thought it was only fair. Then if she wanted to post personal stuff she could name change. Otherwise I would have felt a bit like a stalker

Its quite nice actually. We sometimes pass each other and whisper "have you seen that thread on MN about...." I do have to try and remember not to call her by her RL name and not her post name!!

poppiesinaline · 20/02/2007 13:05

remember to call her by her RL name that was meant to be

trice · 20/02/2007 13:11

I spotted someone. I said hi. I am not sure that they wanted to be recognised and they deleted the thread rather than saying hi back . They haven't posted under that name since so I guess they would rather be anonymous. I am terribly tactless in real life too.

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TheBlonde · 20/02/2007 13:13

I'm not 100% sure but I might mention MN to the RL person and see what happens

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Mellowma · 20/02/2007 13:13

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filthymindedvixen · 20/02/2007 13:19

I have been outed by someone on here! I panicked initially then CATed them to suggest a coffee sometime and they never replied.
Trice...do you think something similar may have happened in your case??? or a mix up in communications or something?

And I got very paranoid reading this thread title as I have just been spotted by another MNetter this morning!! Bless her, she noticed my Pink Square For Maud

Mellowma · 20/02/2007 13:20

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filthymindedvixen · 20/02/2007 13:23

Maybe she just fancies you?

Mellowma · 20/02/2007 13:28

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FioFio · 20/02/2007 13:29

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berolina · 20/02/2007 13:30

I have had this recently. (A lurker, not a poster) Cue panic deletion of a couple of threads and reversion to old name.

Issymum · 20/02/2007 13:32

PPH spotted me and asked, very discreetly, if I was who she thought I was. I'd far rather know that there our other Mnetters out there who know me in RL than continue blithely posting in the happy but deluded expectation of anonymity. Although I think we are the only family in the country with a Vietnamese DD1 and a Cambodian DD2, so I'm fairly easy to spot.

More scarily, somebody I know through adoption "recognised" me on a MNet thread whilst googling for 'Madonna Adoption'. I hadn't considered that Mnet posts might come up in Google search results.

foxtrot · 20/02/2007 13:32

Plenty of RL people know i'm a MNetter and i think i'm pretty easy to spot, but no-one has ever said anything

Mellowma · 20/02/2007 13:35

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TheBlonde · 20/02/2007 13:40

Mellowma - I am not in Scotland and it's not you

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Mellowma · 20/02/2007 13:41

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