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How often do you have sex?

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Lights22 · 14/02/2023 22:45

Just that really?

Pre children DH and I had sex maybe 5 times a month on average. Now it's maybe that many times a year 😱

For context our children have never slept through so for 5 years I've not had a good night's sleep. We still love each other, hug, laugh, snuggle, enjoy each other's company etc etc

Not many people talk about how sex changes over time. So now I'm curious, how many times do you have sex?

Happy valentine's day 😘❤️

OP posts:
DGConsultant · 03/03/2023 23:58

@LucyLeave , definitely not! If only It was that simple! Cheers though for the reductive rebuke. It puts a spring in you're step! Blind dude, can't get laid for love nor money, well probably I could with money, but can't stomach paying for pussy!, and never would, actually! Women want to ask "Can I help you, do you need any help?" not jump my bones. Hey ho, at least I have 3 and a bit years since the last time to reflect upon and remember that fun. Ditch the sanctimony!

Cookiecreamppie · 04/03/2023 01:05

DGConsultant · 03/03/2023 23:58

@LucyLeave , definitely not! If only It was that simple! Cheers though for the reductive rebuke. It puts a spring in you're step! Blind dude, can't get laid for love nor money, well probably I could with money, but can't stomach paying for pussy!, and never would, actually! Women want to ask "Can I help you, do you need any help?" not jump my bones. Hey ho, at least I have 3 and a bit years since the last time to reflect upon and remember that fun. Ditch the sanctimony!

Don't have to explain yourself to people on the Internet. I know you're a nice guy.

Ohyouareawful · 04/03/2023 04:53

We are both 54 and have sex most days, we always have had an active sex life and never a Dead Bedroom but since HRT my libido definitely increased. My husband is in great shape and doesn’t mind if I wake him to have sex when he is asleep before me. Happily married.

Ohyouareawful · 04/03/2023 04:55

Forgot to say married 26 years, 3 kids, youngest 16.

Interestedonlooker · 04/03/2023 09:13

Which part is wrong with the topic? The username that you disagree with or the fact that they answer on a thread about sexual frequency with how frequently they have sex?

Learningtoacceptmyself · 04/03/2023 10:58

As Pp's totally depends on my cycle. Some days 2-3 times, some days none. If we ever had the house to ourselves, it'd be a lot more lol

Mermaidparades · 04/03/2023 12:56

@DGConsultant it's not that good, honestly! You’re not missing anything 😬 oh babe, 3 years?? We need to get you back in the dating game! I know from a previous interaction with you that you have a razor sharp wit. Can you join an online app, chat away and get to know lovely people that way? They might be less influenced by misconceptions?

Kitanai · 04/03/2023 19:46

None for nearly a year ☹️

Going through a rough patch with DH’s libido.

Novita · 04/03/2023 20:14

I can't remember when we last had sex. Before dc we had once a week. We both have low sex drives. I know exactly when dc were impregnated. But lately I have been feeling frisky so might instigate some action...

DGConsultant · 04/03/2023 21:33

@Mermaidparades , Bumble, hinge, all inaccessible with screen readers I'm afraid, conventional, traditional dating apps with mass penetration. Tried online dating 3 years ago, Guardian, lovely dates, but no explicit spark. Don't want to clutter up/highjack the chat, but incredibly difficult. Also a bit drunk this evening, three glasses of wine with dinner, Salmon, potatoes and veg, so jusg glad that some of you are getting some, to be honest.

Mermaidparades · 04/03/2023 23:19

@DGConsultant it’s shocking that you’re unable to access those sites due to compatibility of software. Tinder and OKCupid both state they are suitable to use. I’m hoping my partner doesn’t check my internet history tonight, he’ll be getting paranoid!! I understand that you don’t want to derail the thread - would you mind if I sent you a private message? I feel compelled to try to help xx

DGConsultant · 05/03/2023 14:05

@Mermaidparades , of course not, send away. Cupid Is a frustrating site to use, the profiles up there weren't terribly interesting to be honest, obviously I'm primarily relying on profile text, not someone's pics. Looked a while ago, but you'd struggle to make anything out of them, and I suspect tinder would be the same. Platforms predicated on little profile text and pics, ostensibly.

CrazyCatLady00 · 07/03/2023 17:31

Around 3/4 times a week and been together nearly 2yrs.

CelestiaBelle · 07/03/2023 18:24

Twice this year so far, which is better than last years 5 times in total.
Both times this year he's not been able to finish (medication).
I've had to diy as he just gives up after he can't finish.

eatdrinkandbemerry · 07/03/2023 20:10

Daily but it's because I can't fall asleep without 🤣 and we've been together 30 years with grown up kids and a primary age child.

lady725516 · 08/03/2023 21:46

Once or twice a week, together 20 years and 2 children under 7

coffeetofunction · 08/04/2023 11:17

I have a new partner and we see each other once a week sometime for a couple of days. We have sex about 6-7 times a day more if we can. We'd happily stay in bed all day and have more but we get sore and we want a relationship not just sex....

YukoandHiro · 08/04/2023 15:22

I could have written your second post.

StarlightLady · 09/04/2023 10:53

Probably 2 or 3, sometimes 4 times over a weekend. Very rarely during the week unless on holiday or a day off. I'm not really into nighttime sex though.

Zola1 · 09/04/2023 11:57

Probably 3 to 4 times a week.

GeWhizzy · 25/04/2023 17:06

About 6 times a year. I could go without it for the rest of my life. I feel touched out at the end of the day, kids, jobs, house. I'm tired and just want to sit doing nothing

bedtimeisthebest · 27/04/2023 14:47

It can vary.

In the last 24 hours I've had sex with my wife twice, once was part of a threesome with the M in our couples with benefits and then twice with the F in that couple.

Prior to that it was last Saturday.

Blushingm · 27/04/2023 15:39

If I'm staying at DP a couple of times a day

I stay there 2- 4 nights a week

Mindovermatter247 · 27/04/2023 23:44

Before dc, we were like rabbits… after it’s probably 3/4 a month….depends, I have a medical condition which causes low libido, which in itself only really effected me after kids, it is hormone related so I’m assuming that’s probably why….

Telephoneman · 28/04/2023 11:37

I'm 65 , wife is 62. About once a month, but mainly mutual masturbation and oral sex.

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