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Would you message him after a lovely holiday connection went quiet?

517 replies

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 14:04

Name changed obviously as I feel really pathetic.

Recently returned from a solo holiday, met a really lovely man on the Thursday evening (I went home the following Saturday), whilst watching a live band and we chatted for hours about everything and anything. It all felt really natural, he was a little shy but we had a lovely time and I felt comfortable when he offered to walk me back (near to) my apartment. I'd had a few drinks as had he and he asked if I wanted to link arms as I seemed a little unsteady...I probably was to be fair, I was merry but as I don't drink often, it probably takes me much less to get tipsy than others!

Anyhoo, the walk back was 20 mins, in that time we went from linked arms to holding hands, chatted all the way about our jobs, friends, holidays, the fact that we were both single, and ended up sitting on a bench near the apartment until 4.00 a.m. just chatting. It was so lovely. The next morning he messaged me saying he'd had a lovely time and could he see me again, we decided to go and see a singer we'd both talked about the night before, so I met him at 4.30 in a seafront bar, had a couple of cocktails, saw the singer at 6.30 and then he asked if he could buy me dinner. Ended up at the same bar as the night before watching the live band again, didn't stop chatting and laughing and we also had a couple of snogs (discretely, it was very dark). He walked me back again, took a bit longer this time as we were constantly stopping for a kiss, he was a gentlemen, didn't try anything else, walked me to my door, bit more kissing, said he'd love to see when he gets home and then he said he better let me go as I was leaving for the airport at 9 the next day.

He messaged me whilst I was at the airport, said how lovely it had been to meet me and he really wanted to see me again and he'd message/call me when he got home (he was there until Thursday last week). I responded to say I'd really enjoyed meeting him and I'd love to see him again....and then nothing. And still nothing.

I have to say this has really hit me hard and I'm almost embarrassed to admit that, I really liked him and I honestly thought he would get in touch. My friends are in 2 camps, some have said message him (mostly blokes), some have said you messaged last, you made your feelings clear and he DID say he'd message you once home. I have stopped myself from messaging him so many times as I don't want to feel like I'm prompting him, but I would have really liked to see him again. It could have been all bullshit on holiday but then why text me when I'm on my way home.

We're both 52 for context.

WWYD?

OP posts:
BlueBox81 · Yesterday 18:43

Yes come on!!!

NavyViewer · Yesterday 18:44

Yes!

Imonmyownhere · Yesterday 18:44

Jeez come on!

Menonut · Yesterday 18:44

Refreshing for the update. We’re all invested now!

JustGoogleIt15 · Yesterday 18:45

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:37

So I have an update if anyone's still interested?

🫣

TheWiseGreyDreamer · Yesterday 18:45

Hurry up ( politely ) lol

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

OP posts:
Lexy2345 · Yesterday 18:46

He's asked you to marry him, hasn't he?

Yikes101 · Yesterday 18:46

I’m a bit late arriving but I do know you messaged at 3 and I’m already impatient about your update!

Imonmyownhere · Yesterday 18:46

I'm holding in a poo waiting for this.

Dumbledora8 · Yesterday 18:46

Ahhhh I love this!!!

Lmnop22 · Yesterday 18:47

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

Ahh how exciting!! Knew it would work out

pictoosh · Yesterday 18:47

Hurrah!

Youcantrustchocolate · Yesterday 18:47

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

Aw that’s lovely. Good luck.

PinkMagpie · Yesterday 18:47

Lovely update!

sonjadog · Yesterday 18:47

Hurra! I hope you have a great time meeting up with him. Even if it doesn't work out with this one, it is step back into the dating game again. Good luck. :-)

Loub1987 · Yesterday 18:48

Who is going to play you in the rom com movie @BigSpongyHelmet ?

VikingNorthUtsire · Yesterday 18:49

Off to buy a hat!

GrantMyWishes · Yesterday 18:49

Oh, that's BRILLIANT news OP! So happy for you, and hope it leads to a big wedding, let me know when I need to buy my hat!😂

JustWalnut · Yesterday 18:49

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

Nah mate. He's forgotten when he told you he was flying home because he told everyone a slightly different story. You must be buttoned up the back!

RunningJo · Yesterday 18:49

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

Fabulous! Hope it all goes well OP.

And if he does pop the questions, can we all be bridemaids 🤣💕

Dumbledora8 · Yesterday 18:50

LancashireButterPie · Yesterday 18:42

Oh OP, I went cold reading your thread.
I had exactly the same situation as you 39 years ago on a girls holiday where I become separated from my friends.
Lovely lovely young (Dutch) man offered to walk me home. Before pulling out a knife and you can guess the rest.
Never take chances with your personal safety.
I think you had a lucky escape.

You are clearly ready to have another relationship, my advice would be to go on Tinder and meet someone safely.

sorry that that happened to you, but you are projecting your awful experience here.

tinder is also full of weirdos

Windthebloodybobbinup · Yesterday 18:50

Yay! So it is definitely worth taking the chance! Well done OP

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · Yesterday 18:51

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:46

Brilliant replies, thanks for the laugh.

So I'm paraphrasing a little but he said was I following his flight as he'd just landed and was on the train home, I obviously was more pissed than I thought as I swore he said he was flying back last Thursday. He said it was lovely meeting me and he was going to text once home and he definitely wants to meet up on British soil...soon!

Yay!!

Mummyoflittledragon · Yesterday 18:51

Oh that’s fantastic. I hope things work out. You’re really not that far away from him at all!