Aibu kicked dhs friends out..

[amiwronghere1]

Last night had a few drinks with dhs mate and dh at home. All fine, come 12am another friend turns up.
I said I'm off to bed due to dc. Expected dh to be a hour or so no more.
Been kept awake all bloody night by the noise, miracle how dc slept through.
By then it was 6am and I heard dh trying to tell them to go he was tired and ready for bed. One of the friends was saying they needed to stay till they could get in their house till 8am.
By 7am I went down and could see dh exhausted, so I told them both to basically leave now we have dc to get up too soon.

One of the friends was annoyed with dh as the other latched onto them, they could easily of said they were going to bed and goodbye! Dh apologised but heard nothing else.

Am I in the wrong here?
And yes I am very tired and annoyed. Dh has gone to bed and I haven't managed to sleep a wink and I have a extremely busy week ahead.
Just to say we in London so plenty of places open!

It doesn't sound like your husband was really drunk or behaving badly?

I've had a few nights with mates, and my husband and even my mum where I've looked at the clock and it's 4am and we're on our tenth game of rummy or darts, just having a good time and chatting.

Before we had kids, our friends would occasionally text and ask if we were still up, and come to our house about midnight because the pubs were closing in our town, could that have been why another friend came over late?

Could you have gone and told them to keep it down?

"completely stop any sort of socialising"

You realise there's lots of socialising outside of binge drinking in a family home all night, and keeping people awake with your noise?

And to not do that would equate to your "entire" life being turned upside down. What an awful life if that's the peak for you 😂

I wouldn't let DH lie in bed....he was the one up drinking....send the DC in to him. Play loud music. He will soon regret being up all night ... then forget about it, what's done is done.

As if that was something to be proud of.
Bad enough if people do that in pubs but do it in someones home and while there are people including children sleeping is absolutely not acceptable.

OP, I too find it hard to believe coke wasn't involved.
I would be so pissed off if I were you.
He has kept you awake and now left you to parent.
I'd be livid.
Like others, this is not what I would want my children exposed to.
It is 100% ok to say NEVER again.
I also enjoy a drink. But 7am with kids?

OP, I too find it hard to believe coke wasn't involved.
I would be so pissed off if I were you.
He has kept you awake and now left you to parent.
I'd be livid.
Like others, this is not what I would want my children exposed to.
It is 100% ok to say NEVER again.
I also enjoy a drink. But 7am with kids?

You really do like to take things out of context. Of course there is a lot more to socialising than binge drinking but this thread isn’t about holding a nice dinner party which finishes at 11 - it’s specifically about an incident where the OP’s husband stayed up all night drinking with his friends. It therefore wasn't relevant to bring up other types of socialising until your post. I really have no idea why you think that Im suggesting staying up for one night, very occasionally, was the peak of my life when I had a young child. I was merely responding to your previous sweeping generalisation which suggested that the younger generation seem to be doing such a better job than older people in raising their children by always putting them first. When I see many of the young children in the schools I work in, and their entitled, over indulged lives, it doesn’t look like thst to me 🤣🤣

Funnily enough my parents put their own interests first and I ended up with crippling anxiety. Moved out soon as I could. My children aren't entitled or self centred they're simply just happy. To much of a culture thinking its normal to get pissed out of your face and let your children witness it. Who wants to get out of bed in the morning and see their parents hungover or worse still up drinking from the night before. One off or not it's not cool.

As Ive already said, I ALWAYS put my daughter first before anyone else - from the second I conceived, she was my main priority until her 20s, at which point our mothers needed more of our time. She never ever saw me drunk when she was a child or as an adult, and in fact I can only remember one occasion when I have been slightly drunk since she was born 35 years ago. I’ve been teetotal for many years now, as has my husband, but it’s not my business if other people like a drink. I’ve never needed alcohol or drugs to stay up all night enjoying myself with friends and still do so occasionally now. I still think the OP was over reacting with the situation with her husband.

I have to disagree, maybe that’s the case with your friends, but it definitely isn’t the experience with my friends.

We’ve done this many times, both when young and in our advancing years!

Your (presumably adult) husband was unable to get his friends to leave? Is he normally such a pushover?

Same. I definitely did this as a young person.

Nope, I beg to differ. I've thrown plenty of all-nighters, and never touched coke in my life.

Good on you for having the balls to kick out the f-wits 💪

You are making assumptions based on the schools you work. I'm making my opinions on the huge body of research which clearly demonstrates a significant increase in parents spending time with a prioritising children in younger generations. We are not the same. Stay in school 😂

My partners got a friend like this. I’m also friends with his wife. When they come they do not leave even though we have 4 yo twins. Once they left at 3am. But I always have to be bad cop who does the turfing. I’ve told him I’m not doing it anymore, if they’re still here by 1am he needs to get them out.

But did you have to get up and care for kids the next day. Oh and on your own because OH was wasted 🤔

What an unpleasant post.

Yes, there were a few occasions when I did.

I would have given them the option of leaving or my calling the police. The fact they
cant get into their house til 8 am is not my circus or my monkeys.

I think you’re over reacting. It’s his home too and you’re not his mum. I’d have gone down earlier and told them to be quieter but other than that left them to it.

I agree that kids don't need to see/have messy parents to deal with the morning after.
There is a time and place for that, hopefully before you have kids, but certainly when the kids are not in the home.

They could've just slept on the sofa couldn't they?

God, motherhood and family life sounds so boring 🥱

Good job I never wanted kids and therefore don't have to partake in that sh*t!

I agree - probably best that you didn't procreate by the sounds of it.