Aibu kicked dhs friends out..

[amiwronghere1]

Last night had a few drinks with dhs mate and dh at home. All fine, come 12am another friend turns up.
I said I'm off to bed due to dc. Expected dh to be a hour or so no more.
Been kept awake all bloody night by the noise, miracle how dc slept through.
By then it was 6am and I heard dh trying to tell them to go he was tired and ready for bed. One of the friends was saying they needed to stay till they could get in their house till 8am.
By 7am I went down and could see dh exhausted, so I told them both to basically leave now we have dc to get up too soon.

One of the friends was annoyed with dh as the other latched onto them, they could easily of said they were going to bed and goodbye! Dh apologised but heard nothing else.

Am I in the wrong here?
And yes I am very tired and annoyed. Dh has gone to bed and I haven't managed to sleep a wink and I have a extremely busy week ahead.
Just to say we in London so plenty of places open!

OP hasn’t mentioned coke, what are you on about?

I'd have kicked them out much earlier if they were keeping me awake!

It’s also her husband’s house. Surely he can have his mates round just once? 🤣

Got no problem with that not at till fucking 7am, Who even has the energy for that?

lots of people! It’s not been that long since I had an all nighter and Im in my late 60s.

People taking coke.

You're a better woman than me. I wouldn't have let someone new in at midnight unless they were coming to pick the other one up.
You don't generally stay at other people's homes past midnight when you're a grown up with kids in the house, apart from a special occasion like Christmas or Eurovision.
You were very patient and DH should be taking the kids off out somewhere while you get to sleep and relax.

This was also my thought

Are you off your rocker? It's not a student house. You don't have people round until 7am getting drunk when you've got kids.
DH can rent an air BnB with his mates if he wants to do that sort of thing but not in the family home. Selfish behaviour.

So @Growlybear83, you haven't got to get up with the kids on top of a busy week then?

How many children do you need to entertain the next day? And a full time job?

As a one off, it's annoying and ranting on here is fine.

Your DH didn't kick them out, but neither did you.

It's clearly not normal for either of you, so is highly unlikely to happen again.

In 10 years you'll look back and laugh about that awful time when X, Y and Z stayed all blinking night! (You'll probably not still be friends with X, Y and Z anyway.)

No one needs to move out, even temporarily.
Ship DC off to granny's and have a good afternoon nap.

It kept OP from getting any sleep. If anything, she's underreacting - I'd have tossed then out at 1am at the latest. She's under no obligation to play the cool wife and suffer in silence, you know.

I still have to get up for work most mornings, and often work late at night, but my daughter is long grown up. But there were occasions when we, or just my husband had friends round who stayed very late or overnight when she was young, and provided one of us wasnt drinking, the friends weren't wandering around upstairs alone, and my daughter wasnt kept awake, it really wasn’t a problem. You can always catch up on sleep at a later time. Just because youve got children doesnt mean that your whole lifestyle has to change for ever. From what the OP has said, this was an isolated incident, and he’s hardly treating their joint home as a student house 🤣🤣

Do you have an anything goes house then? I don’t ‘allow’ smoking in the house and certainly no drugs.

Once in a blue moon? The worst that happened is that they were a bit loud. You need to get a grip.

Special occasions like Eurovision?

You should have kicked them out at 12am.
Why would you tell DH to go to his mum’s for a few days so you can calm down? It’s not his fault his friends are chancers.

In future, when friends come over you and DH should agree on a time they should go home and then whoever’s friends they are communicates that in advance or the moment they arrive if it’s spontaneous. Something like, afraid we can’t have a late night so this will end no later than 11pm.

I would’ve kicked them out wayyyy earlier. I used to do all nighters in my teens and twenties, often aided by drugs. But it’s pretty weird behaviour for a parent, imo, unless you had given him permission to be off the hook from parenting the next day.

This is the problem with your generation - you wanted to have kids but weren't prepared to make any adjustments to your lifestyle, you believe adults are more important than children.
The younger generation believe children should come first because they are children.

OP, I think you’re overreacting but if you’ve had no sleep that’s not surprising. If it’s a one off and DH is sorry I’d leave it tbh. I’d be expecting him to mind the kids while you have a nap tho, and he should definitely make sure you get a lie in tomorrow!

That bit was a slight joke

The younger generation are often martyrs to the children and the kids are (on average) growing up somewhat spoilt and self centred.

Yes this. I grew up with alcoholics who would lie in bed all day on a Sunday hungover and I don't want that for mine.

It's not a martyr to prioritise a child's needs over an adults. If adults can't be flexible in their lifestyle why on earth should children be?!

Partying all night as a grown up is fine but rent a house with your mates, be as noisy as you like.

OR enjoy a few bottles of wine, talk at a normal volume and leave without being asked. Nobody disturbed.