Could you be satisfied in a loving relationship without orgasm through intercourse?

[BreezyPeachGoose]

Could you be content & satisfied in a relationship which meets most of your needs, except, to achieve a PIV orgasm?

Other means have had some success but are in no way consistent.

Both mid / late 50s, we've been together for around 8 months.

We are in love, the sex is great, the connection is amazing, but the mutual orgasm is elusive...

Maybe it’s just me but if I came first I wouldn’t be letting anyone stick anything in me afterwords. Sounds painful.

That’s the same as me, I hate intercourse after an orgasm.

I just wouldn’t really get the point tbh (umm…appropriate word choice haha). I mean I’ll help him out in other ways of course but he isn’t sticking anything in me if I’m already sorted and currently a bit tender.

I'm the same, never had one from sex, whether piv or oral. The latter I've only rarely received but it just felt uncomfortable or painful and never did anything for me. I think Ive had them from masterbating but it's not the usual touching the clitoris as that just feels irritating.

I have only had one lover with whom I could reliably orgasm through PIV. It was a thing of joy that will take me to old age in my memories. He was, however, not terribly adventurous in bed (well, with that gift, did he need to be!).

My current lover is far more adventurous, open minded, more than happy to use toys, just doesn't take it as a failing if he or I don't come, so long as we have had fun. Sometimes it's been great, but IT just isn't happening!

In a long term relationship you need to be able to talk about this stuff.

"Women who orgasm through PIV haven't ever actually had a real orgasm". I really don't understand thar statement at all, why on earth would you wonder that ?
On almost every occasion I've had sex with a man I've had PIV orgasm. That has only stopped in recent years as I've become post menopausal and achieving orgasm by any means is virtually impossible.
I loathe receiving oral and always have done but love giving it. Been with my partner many years and coming together, if that's we want, has usually been down to him waiting for me.

I can't remember the exact figure but I think only a few women are consistently able to achieve orgasm via PIV.

It's not uncommon for women not to be able to orgasm at all by any method so I don't think it's a big deal.

I wonder it because of my own experience. I think that was pretty clear in my post? Why did you cut I wonder out when you quoted me the second time? You don't understand why I would wonder something? Why does anyone wonder anything?!

You have never ever had an orgasm during PIV? Could this be a partner issue rather than a you issue @MyOliveViewer ?

Have you read any posts or indeed anything about the female orgasm? It's unusual to orgasm via PIV alone and doesn't indicate a problem with anybody.

No… but surely it’s worth considering. If you have slept with say… one person your entire life then definitely a possibility!

There is no issue, do you have an issue?

Why is it worth considering? The poster always orgasms during sex. There's no problem that needs exploring.

Edit…. @MyOliveViewer did!

Good god no!! It was an observation.

I will shuffle away and leave you to it 😧!!

Edited as poster has left the thread

WHAT???!!!!

I've been very lucky in that respect (it all finished years ago, but meh). Glorious orgasms by hand and positively transcendental ones with PIV. Fewer women can climax through PIV alone, and it's purely physical. I don't think anyone's figured out what the difference is - but most people have figured out it doesn't matter!

I never liked oral, though, I didn't get all the cookies.

I used to PIV with husband and have done for 20 years only partner ever to achieve this however lately I can’t get there. Anyone else had this issue with same partner?

I wouldn't want to. However, can you do it during PIV with hands or toys? That could be OK if everything else is good.

I had no idea what it was until I met my partner 6 years ago. I am 55 this year! So, obviously for me, the answer is yes.

I guess I just never knew I was missing something...

This is a really toxic message. Most women cannot orgasm from PIV, and shouldn’t be made to feel like something is wrong.

Can't, or don't? Maybe most men are crap shags whose partners have learned to deprioritise their own pleasure so much that they don't even expect full sexual enjoyment.

Can't, or don't? Maybe most men are crap shags whose partners have learned to deprioritise their own pleasure so much that they don't even expect full sexual enjoyment.

Can't (confused my words in the initial post)

Lesbians also rarely orgasm from toy penetration alone.

Ive always O through piv. Mainly when ive been on top. If missionary, try raising your bum on a pillow, see if that works and also lube helps!