Anyone else have a husband who avoids daytime sex at home?

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We’ve got to the stage in our lives when our kids are often all at work and we have the house to ourselves.

I’ve suggested a few times that we could take advantage of this and have ‘fun’ without worrying how much noise we’re making or anyone potentially opening the door.

My DH reacts like this is the dumbest idea ever, and acts like he’d rather just watch TV or do household chores. I’m left feeling ridiculous and like I’m a massive fool.

We do have a great sex life a couple of times a month, but it’s always at night / early morning when he feels like it and I’m very conscious not to be heard.

Does anyone else have this issue? I feel like a freak because none of my female friends are the slightest bit interested, and all moan about their DHs and I seem to have the opposite ‘problem.’ 🤔

I’m your dh in this situation. No interest in that at all. I don’t want to get all sweaty and whatever in the middle of the day. We’re all different and when I was younger I’d be up for it but now I just want to get on with my gardening/ watch tv / read etc. Don’t take it personally.

We always have fun time in the mornings! Only because we're too knackered to do it at night! We have breakfast in bed and stay there until late morning. We're both retired, kids left home, but still like it in the mornings

I feel for you OP. My DH is the same. I don't think it crosses his mind you can have sex at any time of day. It makes me feel like a sex pest FFS 😂

I prefer spontaneity. I hate all the 'oh we must stick to certain times of the day' malarky so yeah if I have some free time during the day oh and I are making the most of it.

Anyone worrying about being sweaty in the middle of the day: Showers exist.

Er, no, it’s always been something we’ve loved.

Granted it is a bit hot at the mo, but he’s the same in the winter.

Aww that’s sweet! Our kids are within ear shot in the mornings.

Ahh! I’ve found my person!! 😂Honestly I feel like such a pest. It really gets me down at times.

I don’t want sex in the middle of the day. I’d rather empty the dishwasher or put a wash on or enjoy a cup of tea. Maybe somethings wrong with me

I agree! We have whole afternoons and evenings free now where we could be spontaneous and noisy, but sadly it is off the cards.

I’m not going to bother suggesting it or mentioning it again as I feel stupid.

"Hate", huh.

Some people don't want to fuck in the middle of the day.

Why the hate?

It’s late afternoons / evenings. I agree about time of day to a certain extent, but if it’s in an empty house which means you can be relaxed about noise, it seems too good an opportunity to pass up.

I think “hate” is just a turn of phrase, I don’t think this poster is creating voodoo dolls of you all so no need to worry

OP, as the higher libido person, you have to accept the lower libido person's pace.

Otherwise you're crossing into coercion.

This is for all the screechers coming along: you do NOT have the right to sex with someone else's body.

I get that, but his libido is fine when it’s night time / early mornings or we’re away in a hotel it can be any time. Don’t worry, I definitely cannot ‘coerce’ him into it. If anything it feels like he just doesn’t want to because I’ve suggested it. It has to be his idea.

If I didn’t want it at times of the day when we can be overheard, and he doesn’t want it during the afternoon / evening when we’ve got an empty house, we’d never do it at all.

But then if I have a shower in the morning and get myself dressed for the day, I don’t want to have to have another shower in the middle of the day and get dressed again. I’d rather do it later in the day before bed and either have a shower and put my pjs on or have a shower in the morning. It’s too much dressing and undressing and faffing about.

I must admit I really don't get it. If you're in the mood anytime is the right time. I suppose to my DH (& yours) don't feel in the mood during the day for whatever reason.

It is annoying they can't see what a fine opportunity it is when everyone is out though.

It is. All my friends around my age tell me I should be thankful! I’m an anomaly being the only woman I know who still craves intimacy.

Well according to MN all men are obsessed with sex all the time so you just be lying.

A couple of times a month only on the say so of one of the couple is a sucky sex life imo.

I'd rather it was taken off the table completely than constantly be rejected.

Not mine hun…hence why I feel like a freak

I’m very tempted to take it off the table, but feel like I would be cutting my nose off to spite my face.

Sometimes I wonder if I’d be more desirable if I wasn’t interested in it. 🤔

How old are you OP?

The wetter the better

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