Anyone else have a husband who avoids daytime sex at home?

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We’ve got to the stage in our lives when our kids are often all at work and we have the house to ourselves.

I’ve suggested a few times that we could take advantage of this and have ‘fun’ without worrying how much noise we’re making or anyone potentially opening the door.

My DH reacts like this is the dumbest idea ever, and acts like he’d rather just watch TV or do household chores. I’m left feeling ridiculous and like I’m a massive fool.

We do have a great sex life a couple of times a month, but it’s always at night / early morning when he feels like it and I’m very conscious not to be heard.

Does anyone else have this issue? I feel like a freak because none of my female friends are the slightest bit interested, and all moan about their DHs and I seem to have the opposite ‘problem.’ 🤔

WTAF? Is that really a thing?? What if you got confused and drank from it by mistake? Geez you may have just solved my issue, that’s put me right off!! 😂

I think DH and I both prefer sex at night before going to sleep. We have freshly brushed teeth, showered/freshened up, and afterwards we can snuggle up and fall asleep together. We went through a period of daytime sex as our dcs are younger and youngest was co-sleeping, so we'd do it when she was in nursery. But it always felt rushed and weird to get dressed again afterwards and get on with work rather than going to sleep.

Yep men’s 24hr hormonal pattern means they’re more likely to want sex in the morning or evening. Pretty expected.

I have to suggest if it's during the day. He will if I suggest it but when I ask why he doesn't suggest it he says he just never thinks of it.
Where are these men that think about it constantly then?
I'm like you and prefer to be able to relax and not worrying about making a noise and I'm not even that noisy. I'd stop initiating for a little while and see what happens.

surely it does have to be sex when he wants it or on his terms as you call it. Sex has to be two yes’s. Nothing less

It’s not really on his terms, i am happy to have sex whatever time and he never turns me down when I initiate. Summer and the heat coincide with when we are less busy so it’s a really nice thing when it is summer! We have more time for ourselves and each other.