Thai massage stag do trip

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Hello all
so my OH just retuned from a Portuguese stag do weekend . I was worried in the usual sense - too much booze sun etc but he is a very trustworthy man ( I hope I think ) However 10 mins of his return back to uk he told me how after a 10 hour day drinking sesh he ended up having a Thai massage ( legs only in his boxer shorts ) I was abit taken aback really as think massage parlour happy ending etc . I didn’t really push anymore details but then spent ages with wild thoughts In my head - why was he so quick to say it ? Maybe scared I’d hear he went somewhere like that from someone else ? Why go drunk when I know he can’t remember what he does sometimes in that state ? Plus he looked a wee but sheepish .
i don’t want this to be a huge issue ( he goes away loads on lads trips and I’ve worked so hard on my anxiety / insecurity and trust issue from past ) but also don’t want this to eat away at me
any similar experiences or what I could do - I don’t want any details pics of the weekend as don’t want to feel like the noisy partner
x

Grim

Have a chat with him about his views on women being trafficked

dont over think it

Agreed.

It could have just been a bloody massage 🤪 I dunno something like this wouldn’t bother me at all.

I’m hoping it was just a real Thai massage place and that they all aren’t then places ?

Thai massage is just a style of massage. I wouldn't assume anything untoward unless you have another reason to.

Thai massage is a legit type of massage that isn’t dodgy to be fair although obvs can’t say that’s what happened here but it is a thing. Maybe he just felt a bit awkward about it.

Wouldn't bother me either

Thai massage is a legitimate form of massage but I don't many of these innocent massages happen at night after 10 hours of drinking.

I think what concerns me is the fact he’s had a Thai massage after a 10 hour drinking session………. Like who does that?

Stag do with a group of "lads", miles from home in the sun, lashings of booze, late nights, clubbing - oh and a massage. Of course it was designed to tone his muscles and give him inner peace. How could anyone not believe that.

Exactly.

You've got to burn through the best part of a grand on one of these stag dos. It's wrong on all levels: not just the massage.

Demand he gives you the receipt for the place and that he gets tested for STDs before you will sleep with him again

He was ‘quick to tell you’ HIS version of events. This ‘version’ is the watered down version…I guarantee much more than
‘legs under shorts’ was massaged!

Thai massage is brutal at the best of times, after drinking all day it would be deeply unpleasant!

ask him to explain what happened in it, it’s not like a normal massage and usually done in clothes. Although he’s obviously lying/being evasive so not sure what point there is trying to catch him out really

They massaged him in his boxer shorts? Normally you stay clothed or they give you loose bottoms to put on don't they? I've never had a Thai massage in my knickers.

I vote to ask him.

He's alleviating his guilt by fessing up to the 'massage'.

He's kidding himself that's all it was - an innocent massage - because coming clean with the WHOLE truth would be devastating and (quite rightly!) relationship-ending.

A genuine non sexual massage in a foreign country on a lads holiday after a 10 hour drinking session? 🙄 I'm with @ginasevern in the cynicism.

How many people reading this have ever gone for an actual Thai massage after a full-on drinking session? Has it ever crossed your mind, OP? It certainly hasn't crossed mine.

DH and I spent some time in Thailand when we were younger. I used to get a Thai massage everyday. They are not sexual in anyway shape or form.
Ask your partner if it was a sexual massage or a traditional Thaimassage.

Gross. I realise how thankful I am for the husband I've got when I see that other women's husbands do things like this.

I must be missing something because I'm not sure what some of these comments are about. Surely op can't assume anything bad happened based on... nothing? There's no evidence at all. I do find it strange going for a massage after a 10 hour drinking sesh. Could you maybe have a 'casual' chat with one of his friends and see if they reveal anything? It really could have just been a massage.

10hrs drinking with the ladz and then you get your LEGS massaged? Yeah right.

Say he started drinking at midday, do many legit massage parlours stay open until 10pm and beyond?

Sorry, I'd be feeling very suss.