Thai massage stag do trip

[Seekingsue]

Hello all
so my OH just retuned from a Portuguese stag do weekend . I was worried in the usual sense - too much booze sun etc but he is a very trustworthy man ( I hope I think ) However 10 mins of his return back to uk he told me how after a 10 hour day drinking sesh he ended up having a Thai massage ( legs only in his boxer shorts ) I was abit taken aback really as think massage parlour happy ending etc . I didn’t really push anymore details but then spent ages with wild thoughts In my head - why was he so quick to say it ? Maybe scared I’d hear he went somewhere like that from someone else ? Why go drunk when I know he can’t remember what he does sometimes in that state ? Plus he looked a wee but sheepish .
i don’t want this to be a huge issue ( he goes away loads on lads trips and I’ve worked so hard on my anxiety / insecurity and trust issue from past ) but also don’t want this to eat away at me
any similar experiences or what I could do - I don’t want any details pics of the weekend as don’t want to feel like the noisy partner
x

Bullshit. We all know what kind of ‘massage’ place this was. Don’t let him take you for a fool.

Have you asked him @Seekingsue?

I was worried in the usual sense

No. People in healthy relationships aren’t worried when their partners are away. There is no ‘usual sense’.

If you are anxious every time he’s not within your line of sight, you shouldn’t be in this relationship.

Bite the bullet. Ask him. You won’t like what you hear. If you do he’s probably lying.
The idiocy of these men blowing up their marriages for “a laugh” on a stag do.

He got wanked off. If you went on a hen do and had an innocent massage would you be sheepish about telling your oh? Would it be something you'd mention within 10 minutes of returning? I'd be finding out the name of the place ans checking it out...why have stag and hen does become an excuse to cheat?!

Surely there aren’t many massage places open after 10 hours of drinking unless they went out on the piss at 7am? And even then it would be a push at a normal shop.

All seems a bit weird and I would say he’s told you a story to try and get away with what actually happened.

The fact that was brought up so quickly and without context says it all really. Nothing you can do now and just have to accept lads on tour and this could/will happen again and if you’re happy with that.

sounds very suss to me!

I can attest you can’t have a massage and alcohol. I did once on my birthday and I felt really ill.

What women’s would ever drink with friends and after 8-10 hours say “ohhh you know what, I fancy a massage” there is only one reason men go for a massage after drinking. I would not be happy at all as he’s basically telling you he paid for a BJ.

I did manage to have a look at the place he went ( does seem legit ) not seedy from website
definitely an odd thing to do ( they started drinking at 10am ) so it wasn’t late
I 100% agree very suss to blurt it out ( this was straight after we ermm became reunited ) he literally burst through door eager as anything ( but we so have an extremely healthy sex life so this was not so surprising )
he’s away again now with work but think I will have the chat about being drunk doing these things and if innocent could be misconstrued easily
we are at a party sat where afew other stags and wives are going too 🤔

OP you don't seem to be bothered by it

Thai massage is a style of massage and completely above board. It’s also completely normal to be naked during a massage, nothing seedy about it. Unfortunately there’s some massage places that are fronts for brothels but most are completely legitimate

After a 10 hour binge drinking session though?

A professional and credible massage place would not perform massage on someone who was inebriated.

What reputable business takes a customer that's drunk after ten hour binge?

@Seekingsue he's lying. The way he confessed so promptly was a deflection.

He got a hand job and doesn't want you asking questions.

Your partner is a lying dirt bag.

I do Massage for a living including Thai, very respectable type of massage in the right place , some places as with everything else not so much .
My problem with what your saying is if he was drunk no respectable therapist would give him a massage .

Nailed it

Agree with this. Thai massage is done with clothes on!
They sometimes give you PJs to wear. You need to wear clothes so they can get the grip when massaging. I'd be asking more questions...

This.

If they are the sort of blokes interested in 10 hour drinking sessions, they are not likely the sort of blokes to suddenly decide to have a nice relaxing massage late at night.

Add in the fact he mentioned it what? As soon as he got in, and was instigating sex with you? and that made him suddenly remember to tell you about this massage? Sorry op, I think there is much more to come out about this.

He told you because I imagine thats what they have all agreed to tell their partners in case one of them slips up during the wedding or other occasion and accidently mentions 'a massage parlour' on the stag do.

A few of them have agreed to drop that into conversation so that if anyone ever drunkenly mentions a massage parlour they’re covered.

It was a brothel, don’t be so naive. The fact he was desperate to get through the door and have sex with you is awful too, he could be riddled.

If you take his word for the truth op, I’m afraid you’re allowing him to make a massive fool of you. He’s lying. The place he’s told you he went to may well look legit.. but how do you know that’s where he actually went? I guess it’s up to you, ultimately, whether you let him make a mockery of your relationship or not, but please get an sti test, just in case.

Jesus, its a bloody massage! A Thai massage is just the generic name for that type of massage!

My whole family had a ( *insert name of country here ) massage last week, we certainly weren't being massaged by trafficked women, nor were they forced to do it, and funnily enough, none of us received a happy ending!

I told my partner when i got home, she was absolutely fine with it.

Hi OPs husband 🤣

Did you neck pints for 10 hours straight beforehand with a group of your male buddies on a stag do in Portugal before you all went for a leg massage?