Husband is MASSIVELY pee’d off with me

[Blackjack2002]

I had lip filler done today but didn’t tell my husband as I know he hates it.
I pranked him a few years back by sticking my top lip up with face glue as an April Fool, and he went mad. At the time, I said I’d never have it done. I’ve never been confident about the way I look, I’ve just turned 48 and thought why not?

I’ve only had a small amount and they are quite swollen, they will settle down in a few days. But he says he can’t look at me and that I look like a clown. He’s been angry and shouty but now getting the silent treatment. We rarely have a cross word so today has been no fun.

Not sure what to do. Any advice please?

Oh OP I know this feeling, it's horrible. In my 30s I lost most of my eyebrow hair due to an autoimmune disease, and I made the decision to get them microbladed (tattooed). I did a lot of research to find someone who would do them well. When I came home they were really dark and severe, like shockingly so. My husband, normally a mild-mannered man, was really shocked and distressed, and so was I! The lady who did it hadn't told me that it would be really dark at first but would fade over a few weeks.

He raised his voice a bit, which he never does, and said 'it looks like you've drawn them on in felt-tip pen!'

I looked in the mirror and I did indeed look like a madwoman who had drawn thick, black eyebrows on herself. I was horrified, because this would be permanent!

I googled feverishly and found the right advice - that the eyebrows would look shocking for a week or so but would fade. That gave me hope but I was still paranoid. My husband felt the same.

The microblading gradually faded and started looking nice and natural. My husband's trauma has likewise faded and now he thinks I look lovely. I hope the same happens for you, OP 💐

I’d be devastated if my husband did something like this to his face. It would really make me consider if I knew him at all.

Same.

Well sure if op got massive trout pout fillers but I very much doubt she has

Either way it's your choice whether he's regarded controlling or not, giving you the silent treatment for doing something to your own face, isn't kind

No. He should be able to communicate his opinions without shouting. But he is entitled to an opinion. Not everyone finds fillers attractive.

Over lip fillers???

Obviously the one's that look fake look noticeable. The ones that look natural you wouldn’t be flagging up as fillers.

I notice many, many women who have this. I have never commented though.

Do you really think I’d tell them how awful their faces look?

The view we get from the side is a world away from the front on view you get in the mirror.

do you shout and rant when you don’t like things? Maybe you ought to get that looked at

I'm really pleased for you & it's inspiring for others to read your comforting words
I've most surely seen numerous folk over the years, where you know they look so beautiful but you would never guess they'd actually had some additional assistance, because they look so natural 🙏

Totally your body your choice - I can’t stand them but it’s nothing to do with DH what you do with your face.

However, you knew he hated it so the adult thing to do would have been to tell him beforehand “I know you hate it but ultimately it’s my face so I’ve booked an appointment for xxx. They will look worse for a few days then settle down”

No. I agree he should be able to communicate his opinions without being angry or aggressive. But he’s entitled to an opinion and some people find fillers grossly unattractive.

Do you always think there is something deep and underlying when people modify themselves? Ear piercing? Tattoos? Change their hair colour?

Don’t you know that people do notice them, but are too polite to say anything?

Don’t worry, if you’ve just had a 0.5ml of filler they’ll look normal but slightly plumper in a few days.

Being vain is not the worst thing in the world 😂Almost everyone is to an extent.

Her partner doesn't get to dictate what she does to her body, although I can see why he's annoyed, and she perhaps should've told him first, I don't see why she didn't (even if she knew he wouldn't like it).

Personally I’m not a fan, but it’s your choice and your husband is being a dick.

Hey OP ..
Just swollen now , that will go down ..
You said you only got a little , so I’m sure it will look fine ..
Your husband just has to get over it 🤷🏻‍♀️..
He shouldn’t be name calling to be fair , saying you look like a clown…x

How do you know? They may not have commented, but that certainly doesn’t mean they didn’t notice.

He is controlling. He’s acting upon that now with his punishment. You can do whatever you want to your own body. That’s it. That’s the end of it. He can fuck off.

Daft thing to have lip filler. They look awful. Not surprised OP's DH is upset. Just because it's your body doesn't mean you should do silly things to it. That's on the level of 'it's my toy, I can smash it if I like' - which we would certainly tell a child was not the case.

I think he gets a vote here because he kisses you. You don't kiss you!

They will though - you'll be looking at them face on, it's at the side that you get the duck lip appearance. Even the nice doctor who does my botox has duck lips.

Yes Completely Concur With You it's her choice 💚