Husband is MASSIVELY pee’d off with me

[Blackjack2002]

I had lip filler done today but didn’t tell my husband as I know he hates it.
I pranked him a few years back by sticking my top lip up with face glue as an April Fool, and he went mad. At the time, I said I’d never have it done. I’ve never been confident about the way I look, I’ve just turned 48 and thought why not?

I’ve only had a small amount and they are quite swollen, they will settle down in a few days. But he says he can’t look at me and that I look like a clown. He’s been angry and shouty but now getting the silent treatment. We rarely have a cross word so today has been no fun.

Not sure what to do. Any advice please?

Your body, your choice but that said I don't think I've ever seen a natural looking lip filler.

Or she's not beautiful- I am not- and that's perfectly ok.

Well, he's going to have to get over his grumpiness, because you've done it now!

My DH grew a beard several years ago. I hate it, but he likes it, so I've got to live with it.

If my DP came home having drastically altered the way their face looks, I’d be upset too. Especially if he knew I’d hate it. It’s like saying you don’t give a shit about whether or not he finds you attractive.

Not true - done well lip fillers can look great. And you wouldn’t know you’ve seen it because it’s been done well….

I would probably struggle to look at my partner if they did something that gross to their lips, sorry.

If you knew it was something he really disliked but did it anyway, you can't be that surprised/disappointed at his reaction. I imagine he's upset.
The lips will hopefully settle down and he might come to like them. But what if they don't? What then?

In your DH's situation I would be really angry with you too. Not for having the fillers (although I think they look awful) but for the sneaking around and not just having the respect to speak to me beforehand to let me know that's what you were going to do.

I'm getting a tattoo soon. DH is not keen at all and doesn't like them but it's my body. But we have sat down and discussed it like reasonable adults and have agreed to disagree. If I just blindsided him and came home with one having not warned him beforehand I'd fully expect him to be hurt and angry.

People are nuts on here. He’s being a cunt. My lip filler looks great. And if you saw me you wouldn’t know but compared to my thin pre filler lips I look much better and feel it too.

No need. Dick.

Would love to see some before and after pics, just saying.
I think people notice them more than the people who've had them realise, if that makes sense.

Wow some of these comments are unbelievable. Some very narrow minded people out there.

I’m very pro your body your choice, which it absolutely is! Personally I wouldn’t have them done but my friend recently did, her lips are paper thin and she was bridesmaid for her sister and was very self conscious of the amount of photographs that would be taken, she had a tiny amount and it really did enhance her lips, you wouldn’t even know she’d had them done!

The swelling will go down soon enough and they will look great. If ‘D’H is going to be an arse about it at least you’ll have lovely looking lips for your first date post LTB!

How would you feel if you husband decided to get horrific (imo) facial piercings or a tattoo on his face for all to see, especially if you both agreed before they look horrendous. Of course it’s your body and you can do what you want with it but if your partner loses his physical attraction to you then a decision like this could cost your relationship…

My husband hates tattoos, like positively grumbles if I ask him to put some aftercare on one I can't reach easily. But I'm planning 2 more quite big ones.

If he sulked and gave me the silent treatment he would get told to grow up and focus on his own body.

He grew a beard not so long back, he looked like a homeless man, I can't stand them. But it's his face and he's perfectly within his rights to grow one if he wants.

You have…..you’ve just never noticed as it looked natural. There is a lot of overdone filler out there however

Well if you want to look like a fake plastic person then that’s your prerogative.

But he’s perfectly entitled to think less of you because it.

Physical attraction is important in a relationship, and personally I wouldn’t be physically attracted to anyone who did anything similar. **

Me too! MN would have you believe that everyone can tell you’ve had it, but you really can’t. I love mine.

All the fucking pick-mes are out in force tonight with ‘poor husband’ this and ‘why on earth would you get filler’ that, and completely ignoring the fact that OP is being shouted at and now ignored by her husband. That was abuse last time I checked!

Ultimately, sulking is more unattractive than lip filler.

you wouldn’t know though, would you? Unless you ask every single person you meet if they have had lip filler?
the whole point of it looking natural would be that they don’t look overfilled.

Jesus what a lot of vile women. You can do what you want OP. Theyll settle in a couple of days. What a controlling husband

Wish I was surprised at the amount of replies defending your DH and slagging fillers (and no, I don’t have any). The fillers are beside the point; it’s your face and your DH has no right to dictate to you what you do with it. I hope you love them and they give you the confidence you were hoping they would.

Is he usually so controlling? Do you rarely have a cross word because he says don't do that and you go along with it?
It's your body and you can do what you like with it. If he doesn't like it tough basically.
He doesn't sound great controlling and now sulking because you dared to do something without permission.

I don’t personally like lip fillers, it’s not something I’d ever choose to do, but it’s your choice what you want to do with your body; your husband doesn’t own you.

if he wanted a tattoo or piercing, equally you wouldn’t have the right to stop him, you only get to decide if you still want a relationship with him, and he with you.

The control is a bigger issue here really, massive red flag.

It’s your body and he has no say in what you do to it. It’s horrible and wrong of him to shout at you, then give you the silent treatment. However he’s absolutely allowed to have an opinion - ie to dislike lip fillers and find them unattractive.