Dear god....is he coming on to me?

[CharlotteBog]

I have some photos someone wants.
I said:

I can be bribed with a few thousand quid.

His reply:
What I'd want for a few thousand quid I sincerely hope and trust you wouldn't sell me.

He has flattered me in the past in general ways, but I have just taken it as him being open and friendly.

Do I ask him what the hell he means? Not reply. Ever.

I see him often at a sports club. He is nearly 20 years older than me and married. I am in my 50s. FFS.

But an ice lolly is one thing, you give those out without much thought. The only things you tend to pay thousands for tend to be sex & drugs related.

It's called a joke. Some of us have a sense of humour and don't take everything so seriously.

But he was joking back to her.

It was facetious rather than flirtatious. I don't know why people are blaming the OP. She made a silly joke, she didn't invite his creepy and suggestive comment at all IMO.

Yes, but his 'joke' was on the sleazy side. Hers was not.

Yes, but his 'joke' was on the sleazy side. Hers was not.

But you were saying that she was joking and that some of us have a sense of humour and don't take things so seriously. You didn't mention sleaze scales.

No SHE made it sexual.

The simple way to prove this is - if a WOMAN had asked her for the photos, would OP have replied "yes but you can't have them" "bribe me for them" giggle giggle wink wink nudge nudge flirty faux coy?

No of course she would NOT have.

She only responded in that way because HE was a MAN and she is a WOMAN and she wanted to create a SEXUAL dynamic that can ONLY exist between a MAN and WOMAN - it would NEVER have entered her little head to create this SEXUAL dynamic with a woman because OP is not sexually interested in WOMEN.

And YES obviously this assumes all parties in this scenario are heterosexual ffs. 🙄

I didn't say that. I don't find either joke funny, but hers is inoffensive, whereas his was not.

He was the first one to bring up bribery, not the op 🙄

But not to HER! that was to SARAH. OP took that and diverted it to herself - because she was not thirsty and desperate for his sexual attention AT ALL. NOPE. 🙄

I didn't say that. I don't find either joke funny, but hers is inoffensive, whereas his was not.

Sorry.

The person who I was responding to said that.

To her about Sarah actually

Indeed. But OP couldn't resist inserting herself in the key role.

What are you on about, it's the op that has the pictures not Sarah so hardly inserting herself in the key roll

Inserting herself into the role of the femme fatale the man wanted to "bribe".

And it's role.

i agree with @Castle0

It's a conversation that that would only have existed between a man and a woman.

And op has already admitted he has flattered her in the past.

And if the man's wife had been present I doubt op would have actually said that.

The faux surprise.

Let's hope the wife's on here.

Definitely nudge, nudge, wink, wink teritory, all that need to be said to complete the Benny Hill scene was Cheeky !

Or if op's husband had a woman 20 years younger asking him to bribe her, she'd probabably want to rip her head off.

I don't think that this is true. For a start, he is the one that mentioned the bribe. In this context I would say this to a woman.

Genuinely I think you flatter yourself too much and way less or what women say to men is aimed at creating a sexual dynamic.

@Castle0

It could run and run this, like the Carry On series.

This one's been Carry on Running

What will the next one be op

Carry on Cycling ?

@SecondTimeASquare

Defo Carry on Camping 😉

Endless opportunities for innuendo from the OP to the married man. "Oooh is that a tent peg in your pocket or are you just pleased to see me?"

Ooooh Matron!

You are wrong op offered the bribe up.

Why on earth is @Castle0 flattering herself.

I find it facinating that people don't see it, can't see it, don't want to see it, or find no harm in not seeing it.

We are just spectators watching other's think that no one watches or notices their behaviour.

Op doesn't know it, that's why she posted, but I bet there's many on here thinking I'm glad my husband doesn't go to that running club

You're a wife worrier op. 😂
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The guy congratulated her for running well and being a good mum. Is that flattery? Does that mean he fancies her? Absolutely not.

him: do you have some photos of the event
me: I do, but you can't see them
him: maybe I'll bribe Sarah
me: ha, she doesn't have them, I do, I can be bribed.....

He mentioned it first.

That poster is flattering himself because he wildly overestimates the extent to which women are after sexual attention from men. I'm assuming OP is a man because I am assuming that no woman hates women as much as he clearly does, with all his talk or "her little head" and "toxic femininity".

@ColinMyWifeBridgerton

Ok I'll give you you the first paragraph, he mentioned bribe first but

the second paragraph, you've completely bamboozled me.

But EVERYTHING that nasty menz say and and do is ALL designed to get their penises inside our vaginas, didn't you know?

Men can't talk to women, offer them a lift, compliment them or ask them for photos for the club webpage without being thought of as creeps and rapists.

Their entire sex has been reduced to 2nd class citizens because of the actions of the minority.

They will probably need separate buses soon. Hotel signs saying no Blacks, No Irish no Men.

Toxic Femininity.