Dear god....is he coming on to me?

[CharlotteBog]

I have some photos someone wants.
I said:

I can be bribed with a few thousand quid.

His reply:
What I'd want for a few thousand quid I sincerely hope and trust you wouldn't sell me.

He has flattered me in the past in general ways, but I have just taken it as him being open and friendly.

Do I ask him what the hell he means? Not reply. Ever.

I see him often at a sports club. He is nearly 20 years older than me and married. I am in my 50s. FFS.

So why did you initially say that he couldn't have them?

It sounds like you're asking us if he's really interested (because you'd quite like him to be) - or is it just just aimless banter.

So he asked a perfectly reasonable and legit request for photos as the newsletter editor and instead of saying "sure, I'll send you a few photos by email" you take it off on a tangent by teasing him with your bribe comment, and he just responded to that.

Are we not meant to joke with men lest we give them the opportunity to be flirtatious?

you set the tone he followed. I doubt he was actually flirting with the view to getting off with you, it was just a casual quip, you're the one who's over-analysing it.

Oh give up.

OP made a non sexual silly joke. He made it sexual. OP did not set the tone for it being sexual.

She teased him.

Slight pushing then wait till he really gets comfortable with you to make more overly inappropriate comments.
I have to say it! At his age....grosse🤣

Joking and then flirtacpus joking.
Go enjoy your 70 yr old mans attention.
No need to get defensive you love the attention qhen we all can see it is sic egotisical gym ppl

She made a light hearted joke. About money. But yeah, what else could the poor lamb say other than a sexual comment. 🙄🙄🙄

He's creepy.

No, it is not clearer.

Not the right place for you to parade your issues and insecurities around, matey.

There is fuck all sexual about joking you'd need a lot of money to share some photos of a sporting event.

There is EVERYTHING sexual, and creepy, about his response.

He's saying he'd want sex, and he'd hope she wouldn't sell that.

He's gross OP.

This is like the 'who came on to who' episode of friends.

You definitely sounded flirty too.

You jokingly suggest a money bribe and he makes it about sex. He sees sex as transactional. He is a creep.

Ignore the response, wait a day and ask if he still wants the photos.

What a sleazy exchange with a married man. Yuk.

This. Just ignore it and show him photos if you don't have a reason not to.

He's actually said, it's not worth paying a couple of 1000,to see your pictures.

You started with the 'flirty' teasing banter. .

It really wasn't a funny joke op and saying "i can be bribed" is just a bit odd. But maybe that's just your sense of humour.

He's gross. Don't reply.

I have some photos someone wants.
I said:

I can be bribed with a few thousand quid.

When I read this I thought “ooh what kind of photos are they” - that in itself seemed suggestive to me - could you be giving off flirty vibes without realising

Neither of them are funny.
It's a pointless conversation.
Send the pics. Don't send the pics.
Move on.

It’s not your fault per se, but he clearly crosses boundaries and he considers that to be flirting. And he’s married. So stop flirting with him. Easy.

I feel like I’m reading a different thread to some others. You were joking, going along with his message to you. You weren’t sexual at all. He made it sexual. I’m assuming you want to continue being part of the club? If so I’d cut as much contact with him as I could and totally avoid any jokes.

As could his remark?

I think you re overthinking it.

In the past all he has said is general stuff like "Good Mum" or "runner etc" so as far as i can see he just responded to your light hearted comment that you could be bought with one of his own.