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Would a bit quirky put you off old?

135 replies

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:24

Been chatting to a guy who actually seems quite emotionally intelligent. Seems funny . Nice . Pleasant , plays amazing guitar. Sends me voicemails daily and little guitar compositions based on what I like

He has long hair . Wears nail varnish and occasionally a bit of eye make up.

My friends are really taking the piss but I really like him ! We're meeting for a date soon

He loves doodling on the guitar and he's really good , I sing ( badly !) but he's like ooooo let's have a singalong and I'll play guitar! He's so enthusiastic and seems so nice ! He's encouraging. I've not sung in front of anyone since I was about 10! I used to sing a lot and play piano .I was shut down . My ex used to take the piss and I stopped playing and singing .

Im not really conventional. He seems like me . Our politics align , both quite liberal , we both love music even if not the same music , he asks me everyday for recommendations, im sending him REM , cult , maniics, Ryan adams , pixies etc. we agree on films , tv, im really optimistic! But everyone is taking the piss because he has long hair and is a bit different.

Am I being an idiot here ? He's so honest and there's absolutely no game playing. I like that . We spend ages chatting daily and 2 hour phone calls . I think he's nice . I don't care if he has long hair and wears make up 😂

Why can't people just be ? I want to meet him .

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Galeforcewindatmywindow · 24/02/2024 04:33

You should spend time with the ones that make us happy.. Imo you need new friends. .. And keep the man...

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:37

Yeah , ! I've made loads of friends on line dating, if we are friends I'd be happy ! Just never found a romantic relationship.

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JMSA · 24/02/2024 04:37

He sounds awesome (as do you)!
Hope it all works out for you Smile

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:40

He seems absolutely lovely. Happy crappy. Just a nice vibe . I don't care if he has long hair ! He's seeming genuinely lovely, in a way I've not encountered online before . He seems like me ! Not found that before in 5 years.

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:41

Happy happy not happy crappy 😂

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:41

Ffs !!!! Happy chappy . Jesus ! I give in 😂

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BusterGonad · 24/02/2024 04:43

Ignore the friends, keep an open mind and meet him.

leafybrew · 24/02/2024 04:44

hehe

I say go for it - and maybe ignore the friends who judge on appearance.

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:45

Thank you folks , I'm going to . He seems so lovely and open and honest and funny and creative and at ease with who he is and I like that ! He makes me laugh , we align on a lot of issues . And he just seems so nice ! He's so happy ! It's infectious!

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Olika · 24/02/2024 04:47

Just meet him and see how it goes.

Pinkglittery · 24/02/2024 04:50

Oh he sounds lovely. Do whatever makes you happy.

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:52

Date arranged for next weekend .

Just the reaction of my friends really upset me ! They🤮🤮🤮🤮did that . He's nice looking actually. He's just got long hair , and I really like his difference and creativity.

Maybe we're a bit old for alternative 😂. But he seems so so nice , I've got attached to his personality and voice , his humour , his infectious enthusiasm and creativity. He just seems lovely . There's been no smut , no trying to turn it to sex, just banter, lively chat , nice . Never had that online .

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 04:56

He makes me laugh he has a you tube channel with 73 followers and he just takes the piss out of himself all the time with his 73 followers "dont you know ! "

He's just nice . No ego . He is an amazing guitar player. I've told him though one of his compositions doesn't need electric guitar over it , he's like okay big shot producer 😂.

He's just nice. I'm sold now . Gonna meet . We get on really well .

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 05:00

Thank you. I'm gonna go with my gut .

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 05:04

Not telling anyone anything! I'm just gonna go. Seeing him for lunch , he really does seem genuinely such a nice person

So different to all my other on line experiences.

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JMSA · 24/02/2024 05:23

Please keep us posted!

73 followers, he is adorable!

Justleaveitblankthen · 24/02/2024 05:26

I like quirky.
Sam Ryder - eurovision guy-has long hair and is a sweetheart 😍

damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 05:30

He really is or seems lovely! He makes me laugh with every little
Voice message. He tried playing me something to day and kept laughing , he's really offended (he's not he laughing ) cos I can't work out what it was 😂

He just seems so happy and so nice . No games . Not a player. Just kind and funny.

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 05:31

Justleaveitblankthen · 24/02/2024 05:26

I like quirky.
Sam Ryder - eurovision guy-has long hair and is a sweetheart 😍

He looks like Sam Ryder 😂

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damnedwhatever · 24/02/2024 05:33

He seems lovely . I'm gonna go for the date . I like him a lot .

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ymemanresu · 24/02/2024 05:38

Good luck, you and him sound really fun 😊. Your friends can't judge him by a picture fgs! Keep us posted

MrsTosh87 · 24/02/2024 06:18

He sounds lovely tbh. Your happiness should be determined by you, don't allow others to influence how you think/feel. So what if he isn't what others would conventionally find handsome. My DH has long hair (down to his butt), wears what he finds comfy (usually cargo shorts and outdoorsy/work wear stuff). Lots of people in my life had comments on his hair length and lack of "fashion" sense. But sod them. When we first met, he was an enigma, I've always preferred spending time with those that seem different from the norm. Your guy seems genuinely interested in you and takes time and effort to engage with you. So what if he wears nail polish or has long hair? Does he make you happy? If so, the rest of the world can spin on its self. Whatever makes you happy OP ^^.

AltheaVestr1t · 24/02/2024 06:29

'A bit quirky' would be an absolute plus in my book. All of my favourite people fall into this category! Go for it - he sounds wonderful.

ZebraD · 24/02/2024 06:56

This sounds really cute..I hope it goes well next weekend

AhBiscuits · 24/02/2024 07:06

In my 20s virtually every man I dated was a bit like this 😁

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