Would a bit quirky put you off old?

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Been chatting to a guy who actually seems quite emotionally intelligent. Seems funny . Nice . Pleasant , plays amazing guitar. Sends me voicemails daily and little guitar compositions based on what I like

He has long hair . Wears nail varnish and occasionally a bit of eye make up.

My friends are really taking the piss but I really like him ! We're meeting for a date soon

He loves doodling on the guitar and he's really good , I sing ( badly !) but he's like ooooo let's have a singalong and I'll play guitar! He's so enthusiastic and seems so nice ! He's encouraging. I've not sung in front of anyone since I was about 10! I used to sing a lot and play piano .I was shut down . My ex used to take the piss and I stopped playing and singing .

Im not really conventional. He seems like me . Our politics align , both quite liberal , we both love music even if not the same music , he asks me everyday for recommendations, im sending him REM , cult , maniics, Ryan adams , pixies etc. we agree on films , tv, im really optimistic! But everyone is taking the piss because he has long hair and is a bit different.

Am I being an idiot here ? He's so honest and there's absolutely no game playing. I like that . We spend ages chatting daily and 2 hour phone calls . I think he's nice . I don't care if he has long hair and wears make up 😂

Why can't people just be ? I want to meet him .

I'm commenting here to follow the rest of this story, as i think it's going to go really well and there will be a lovely update. Sending all the positive vibes, OP!

What on earth is wrong with long hair?! I love long hair on a man, and a bit of guyliner!

I think he sounds great! Quirky is a major plus point for me.

He sounds great! And your friends sound fucking boring tbh, it's okay to say 'not my type but he seems great for you' but their reaction makes me wonder how boring their partners are 😆

I think the fact you enjoy conversations for hours is a really positive thing - so many people have issues in relationships because they don’t communicate well - myself included with my DP! I try but we can’t talk about anything other than the kids or the house. Feels like a job.

I say go for it - attraction is more than skin deep. Personally personality plays a much bigger part of it for me - and I think he sounds lovely. If you guys ‘click’ then just do it and don’t look back. Those friends who take the piss? I bet they’re secretly jealous that they don’t have the same connection with their spouse!

Do whatever you want. Wouldn't be for me though. I need someone stable, dependable, reliable, solid. Is he that?

If someone makes you happy like this... grab the opportunity!
Don't let others dampen your joy.
Your friends sound boring and old-fashioned if they're laughing at nail varnish.

I like quirky. He sounds great! Your friends however are narrow minded, judgemental dick heads.
Enjoy your date and if it doesn't work out pass him over to me!

Wow your friends are rather shallow. None of their business who you date. I always think it's a good idea for friends to be into different kinds of men haha.

Pleaseeer update us and enjoy yourself!

Quirky is always a positive, as it also describes me. He sounds lovely and very much the type that I'd be attracted to. Oh, and Nd is someone's wiring, not their personality.

He seems lovely OP - unlike your friends

If all women found the same 10% of men attractive, then 90% of us would be single for life. It’s great that we all find different things attractive. Go for it, he sounds like a really nice guy who you are attracted to.
Your friends are rude, just because they don’t find him attractive personally, there is absolutely no need for rude emojis. I wouldn’t dream of saying something like that to a friend.

I was dating a guy when I was 17/18 and my childhood best friend was so rude about him - said he was a loser, a drip, what was I doing with him, I should dump him etc……… and then 10 years later her sister married him 😂 really makes me chuckle when I see the family pics online.

Does he have a job?

Go for it OP

He doesn't sound quirky, just self-assured.
You really should meet him though. Important to see if you click IRL otherwise it's a waste of your time.

Well personally conventional would put me off! My DH has a multicoloured mohawk and wears nail varnish occasionally, we love going to gigs and festivals together etc despite pushing middle age. I work in a very conventional, professional job and I can't think of anything worse than some sensible 'proper grown up' type person in chinos and a shirt whose idea of fun is watching the rugby or a couple of pints with his identikit mates. And yes I know there are many variations between those extremes but so many of the men I work with are like this. And if you broadly align on the important things (like politics, general world views etc) then all the better!

Go for it and have fun!

I feel my opinion will be unpopular but I wouldn’t like a guy who wore makeup. I don’t want to sit down with my partner and talk about the Victoria Beckham eyeliner together 😬

He sounds wonderful

Definitely this!!! It's too late though for the golden rule of meeting someone for a date quickly before you're too invested as the potential for a massive letdown increases.

Thanks all - yeah I'm gonna meet up, yes he has a job , a house etc.

He lived with someone previously , just seems genuinely respectful, interested not pushy , and I think we'd be friends if nothing else!

Your friends must be very young if they comment on and make fun of prospective dates? I'd be re-thinking the friends if this is them being themselves.

In any case - the long hair, nail varnish etc wouldn't put me off. When I did most of my dating - the 1990s - this described all the men I fancied / dated.

Whatever he looks like, you should put your own opions above other peoples'.

If all your friends were commenting on a personality trait, then I'd say listen (if they all thought hw was controlling / a bully / an addict for example). But his looks and his hobbies - well they're just a matter of taste.

Do be on your guard though (nothing to do with your friends' opinions)..... this applies to any new date. Try not to fall for them before you've even met them, and take your time, take things slowly, watch out for warning signs (including love bombing), and if something seems too good to be true.... it usually is.

Another few hours exchange tonight . He was a bit pissed I did t recognise his weezer tribute but in my defence I haven't t heard that album since the 90s 😂

I'm really looking forward to meeting him and his hair is gorgeous! So long and thick and slightly wavy.

He's so thoughtful and expressive. I'm hoping for a spark !

Let us know how you get on 🙂

I adore long hair. It makes me feel melty. I think it started with Tony in Men behaving badly 😂. If I see a man with long hair, I'm watching and looking. It's so... Yes!

When is the date? Also, weezer. Total good sign