Middle aged men and their fetishes

[whatswiththesefetishes]

So, I've been divorced for a number of years and have been on numerous dates. What I've noticed is that many men who have hit their 50's and are were in long marriages/relationships seem to be very open about their fetishes. I'm wondering if they have got to a certain age whereby, they feel they no longer want to suppress these feelings?

I'm met the following:
A man with a foot fetish
A man with a wee fetish
A man who likes cross dressing
A man how likes 'Daddydom' (I had to look that one up!)
A man who is obsessed by writing erotica
... and a lastly.... and man who wanted to be a wizard!!!

Is it wrong to just want someone who likes changing the oil on his car or who is happy to do the weekly shop?!!!!!

Not sure if it's about them not suppressing those feelings anymore. More like they are single or not in a longterm relationship because of their fetishes. If it's a proper relationship, their main sexual relationship in life is not with the woman they're with, it's with their fetish. Its a sort of devotion or sexual obsession in some. You are simply a prop to enact it

The wizard one was quite funny. A sexual fantasy about being a wizard then???

Correction - If it's a proper fetish*

Sorry op but all that keeps running through my head is a naked balding man with a beer gut, Harry Potter glasses and a cape running around shouting expecto patronummmm😂😂

I think they’re doing it to make themselves sound more interesting/mysterious personally whilst you’re just sat there thinking what a tit.

The more detached from reality they get and the more porn they watch, the more they can convince themselves that women are into that shite too.

Brilliant.
I'd love to try out the wizard one - how was that going to play out??

PORN

I don't know - my younger friends tell me OLD is like this for them too. They're not bothered about it though. They'd rather know upfront rather than being surprised three dates in by someone prancing about in an invisibility trying to piss on their feet, ya know?

All the weekend car cleaners and shoppers are already taken I'm afraid. It's only the wankers that are left. Sorry OP

A man how likes 'Daddydom' (I had to look that one up!)

If that's what I think it is .... Very disturbing and makes me worry about paedophilia.

50-something single men are single for a reason. It could be a good one, or a not so good one. The not so good reasons abound in the world of OLD from the horror stories people write on this forum. It doesn't shock me that you have discovered a myriad of foot fancying, incontinent merlin-esque perverts. I avoided OLD like the plague after reading all the funny and not so funny stories. It just seemed like a big waste of time. I found a 50-something who isn't particularly interested in my feet, romper suits, urine, ladies clothing, but he didn't do OLD. He was shy and it took a while for us to get acquainted. If I hadn't dropped large hints, he would never have made his move. Glad he did. I reckon the old fashioned ways of finding a keeper are the best.

Love the sound of the wizard wannabe. Tell us more?

I think you will find there are plenty of ladies with interests in all those things. Many of them probably married and suppressing it.

I want to know more about the wizard, too.

I have met surprisingly few of these kinks on OLD. I wonder how I've managed that. I just get the ones with ED.

Awful

"...a myriad of foot-fancying, incontinent, merlin-esque perverts" 🤣🤣

I have never heard OLD summed up so perfectly!

They’re all watching too much porn. Sorry you’re having to deal with such idiots, @whatswiththesefetishes

Anything to remind themselves that they are different, relevant and not that old. I suspect.

And YY, single for a reason.

Do you really believe that women - of any age - have no fantasies or fetishes? Just a man thing in your world?

I heard a sexologist talking about this in relation to cross dressing. He said that libido drops as men get older so whereas they used to be able to get turned on by regular sex without indulging in their fetish, as their libido drops they need their fetish to get turned on or conversely they don't want to waste what libido they do have on sex that's not the most satisfying for them. So the fetish becomes more important.

Not every man has a fetish. He did say that they tend to cluster so men with one might have several.

What makes you think that ?
are you a man or a woman ?

This is a very funny thread. All people have fetishes. All of us do. The most common kink fetish is actually female feet (Also called The Gateway Drug). Lord knows why! Another big one is tying a female up. Lets throw in nipple clamps, forced orgasm,. Denying orgasm is another. On bondage, well there is the 'hog tie' of course.

My fetish is pouring neat Vimto over my lady garden and making a man lick it up. (JOKE! I would not care to waste the nectar of the Gods on such a frivolous activity! Imagine the mess!)

Kink, fetishes, are cool. Can be lots of fun IF we practise Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) AND Safe Sane Consensual (SSC).

Of course, all of this hinges on Positive Informed Consent.

Believe me, in my time, i have heard of things that would make the pearl, clutching frothing berserkers of MN want to retreat to their blanket fort.

Oh and my the way. Ignore OLD. Full of cranks, weirdos and people with personality disorders. Try meeting people who share with you a common hobby. (NIOT KINK!)

Oh yes yes of course anyone who’s not into peeing on another person or drinking urine is a Pearl clutcher of course.

Not to mention those weirdos who don’t even have a wizards cape to match their wand.🙄

My fetish is fetish shaming

And that's why they are single