Middle aged men and their fetishes

[whatswiththesefetishes]

So, I've been divorced for a number of years and have been on numerous dates. What I've noticed is that many men who have hit their 50's and are were in long marriages/relationships seem to be very open about their fetishes. I'm wondering if they have got to a certain age whereby, they feel they no longer want to suppress these feelings?

I'm met the following:
A man with a foot fetish
A man with a wee fetish
A man who likes cross dressing
A man how likes 'Daddydom' (I had to look that one up!)
A man who is obsessed by writing erotica
... and a lastly.... and man who wanted to be a wizard!!!

Is it wrong to just want someone who likes changing the oil on his car or who is happy to do the weekly shop?!!!!!

It doesn’t matter if they are tame (or common).
Anyone us allowed to not want to be even on some or all of those fetishes.

There's one important point. We don't all get what we want in life. Neither do we have a right to sex of any kind! Men can ask, it doesn't mean they'll get or that they somehow "deserve" all their fantasies fulfilled.

I agree that it's porn fuelled. When I was OLD so many men (in their 40s and 50s) would complain about the "vanilla" sex they'd been forced to endure with their ex wives! It got so boring. No interest in me as a person. Only what they could "do" to me. I gave up. If I meet someone organically then fine but OLD is full of these creeps.

What makes me laugh is if I wanted just sex (especially kinky sex) I'd go for a hot 30yr old! (Any older woman who's online dated will know young guys message all the time). I wouldn't be going for a pot bellied, balding 50 something!

Anyway, let them keep trying. Maybe they'll get lucky one day! Just smile and say next!

Wizard or wizened?

Wizend (adjective)
shrivelled or wrinkled with age.
"a wizened, weather-beaten old man"

🤔

Exactly!
I'm 55 and OLD on a very open, honest app .
Into BDSM and connect ( them maybe meet up ) with men who have read my profile.
Loads of under 40's.
The odd one my age just can't compete.
I keep very fit and am slim so why would I go with an out of shape man my age?
I gave up conventional fairing sites recently as there wasn't enough honesty and the quality was very poor.

You don’t know what you’re talking about because you don’t actually understand what a fetish even is.

@2bazookas
‘Is it possible that something in your OLD self description is attracting oddballs?

Maybe you need to rewrite it

"Greying menopausal woman with own womb, likes knitting and watching News at 6. ‘

im not the person this was aimed at but Ik
curious

…. that’s about one of the most mysogynist things I’ve literally ever seen written here . Such judgement and hatred of women who are menopausal or have grey hair ???

I get that watching the news and knitting may not be everyone cup of tea, But I’m interested to hear why you use the word ‘menopausal’ ( absolutely a word that would only ever be thrown at women ) or ‘grey haired’ ad an insult? When did you start seeing normal aging of women as some type of deficiency or thing that makes them faulty or things to be put down ? Why did you choose to wrap inside those particular things I wonder… hmmmm

Your language is vile

These are probably some of the reasons their wives binned them.

Either that or some of them are still married and trying to get someone to do the stuff their wives won't.

My fetish is sex with a man that's interesting to talk to and really into the whole me, enough to be publicly committed to me. Funnily enough.

You don’t know what you’re talking about because you don’t actually understand what a fetish even is

Agree. There’s a vast difference between a true fetish and a kink interest, and that poster clearly doesn’t understand that. Claiming everyone has a fetish is woefully wrong and makes them look ridiculous.

My colleagues husband has a pregnant fetish. She's on number 6 and i wonder if it's what she wants

I wonder if his pants have 'Ollivanders' written on the front.

Liorae · Yesterday 13:16
MrsSkylerWhite · Yesterday 09:41
Sort of explains why they’re on OLD.

“Does it not also explain why the OP was on OLD? Or is it the usual Mumsnet sexist one way street?“

Very fair point that I hadn’t considered. I personally wouldn’t go on it were I to find myself single, seems a bit iffy.

Agree. There’s a vast difference between a true fetish and a kink interest, and that poster clearly doesn’t understand that. Claiming everyone has a fetish is woefully wrong and makes them look ridiculous.

Then you clearly do not understand kink. You know, MN get's itself permanently bent out of shape when you even talk about anal.

Anal is not a kink. I love anal.

It wont be too long before a a pearl-clutching frothing berserker accuses me of being a man.

I’ll quote my own comment.
If someone would kindly answer this.

Melsuleeni, any thought? Since you like to name call people?

I for one could care one hoot whether you live or hate anal

but I do think it’s rather sad that you call others Pearl clutching frothing berserkers whilst pointing out how crappy it would be of THEM to judge YOU

whilst in fact that’s exactly what YOU are doing to other women.

Traditionally, wizards wwere supposed to be totally sexless, uninterested in it in any way shape or form, completely eaten up with their arts. See early Earthsea by Ursula le Guin, and indeed late Earthsea. See Terry Pratchett "Why Gandalf never married" and the opinions of Nanny Ogg as to the embellishments of their staffs - not wands. Rowling's are of course more like normal people.
My mind is boggling.
Of course, the ones in opera and ballet get their kicks from being horrible and controlling to women, so maybe that's it.

Given your lofty proclamation that everyone has a fetish, I’m quite satisfied that I understand kink, fetish and sexuality a hell of a lot more than you do!

Bring back cycling, all is forgiven.

I think I struck a nerve there! MN has been known for well over a decade for the pearl clutching minority Christ, you couldn't even mention men viewing porn on here without the ensuing pile-on!

I see nothing has changed. Alas.

Try anal, it might de-kink you!

Can I ask, what do you mean by fetish?

What a strange , angry person you sound like

I think it’s clearly me who hit the nerve in you 😁
I never mentioned my personal opinion on anal nor Whether im into kink . I simply pointed out your male calling if other women … and how do you respond ….by name calling another woman you know nothing about 😂

Yep

Also love to see this ‘pile on ‘ you claim you got lol

and what’s your psychic hotline number seeing as you know what everyone else is doing ba ha ha ha

maybe you need to try a little less Anal…. Might help you chill out a little

Excellent 👍

Try anal, it might de-kink you

Maybe she likes her sphincter being continent.

There have been medics warning women about the possible consequences recently.

Anyway, it's an out hole for shit, bottom line.