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CF Acquaintance turned up today despite refusing invite

910 replies

Grumpusaurus · 02/09/2022 01:04

We live in a popular tourist destination and after numerous people took advantage of us, we nip it in the bud now. Most seem to follow the same script by contacting us out of the blue and mentioning that it would be so lovely to see us. I now answer in a very friendly manner that it has been years since we last heard from them and it would indeed be lovely to catch up over coffee in a nearby spot when they are in the area. This does tend to put an end to most of those potential CFs, however, one acquaintance pushed back and asked to stay with us at the beginning of September. I told her that this would not be possible, especially as we have a very tight deadline and will be working flat out to finish a commission. DH and I are self-employed craftspeople and sometimes we do work all day and most of the night to finish pieces and the DC stay at their grandparents during that last push. Not heard back from the acquaintance since July even though she clearly read my WhatsApp message.

The doorbell went this evening, I ignored it as DH and I were in the middle of working on our commission but someone kept pushing the bell. Our property is an L-shape so you can see from our workshop who is at the front door. CF acquaintance was standing there with a suitcase! DH is more of a people pleaser and while really cheesed off was about to answer the door till I told him no bloody way! He redeemed himself by immediately agreeing. The bell went a few more times and then got a flurry of WhatsApp messages, which I ignored. She eventually left after half an hour. I am almost bemused by the cheek of it but there is no way I am going to let anyone railroad me into being their free accommodation and greatly inconveniencing us, especially while we literally get up to work all hours and fall into bed. DH is fretting about her coming back but I told that we will just continue to ignore the doorbell. We have a back gate to a dirt track we can stealth like leave the property if she is holding a siege at the front door 😎 There are plenty of hotels and B&Bs in the area, albeit quite dear. Who does that! A rhetorical question but am just shocked by the cheek of just turning up after saying emphatically No!

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Hollywolly1 · 02/09/2022 16:27

ChaosTrulyReigns · 02/09/2022 01:48

If you open whatsapp and press and hold her message you can sort of pre-read them without actually opening them.

Get SwoonyCraftsDH to send you a whatsapp message so you can try out your skills on that first.

Not working for me but I'll try again

Isonthecase · 02/09/2022 16:31

If they're stuffing dead animals I do hope they're all the sort where they're holding chandeliers or at least a lightbulb for some of the smaller animals. Can you get tiny chandeliers for stuffed badgers?

MaggieFS · 02/09/2022 16:36

Surely the carved letters need to be F, O, T, S, &, M.

SirGawain · 02/09/2022 16:37

purpleme12 · 02/09/2022 01:20

Maybe she was coming to see you but had booked a hotel or whatever still?

With a suitcase in their hand??

eggcustard1 · 02/09/2022 17:01

Pollydon · 02/09/2022 15:21

Damn, I wish I'd have thought of that at the time!
Instead I used wording she had used to me years ago, along the lines of moving in different social circles now ............😉

How satisfying was that? Hopefully very!!

SpinCityBlues · 02/09/2022 17:05

You and your DH do a lot of chuckling, I'll give you that.

And howling.

Oioicaptain · 02/09/2022 17:17

Ooh, are you that husband and wife team that live in Cornwall and makes those fantastic cakes that appear on TV?

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 17:25

Damn, I wish I'd have thought of that at the time!
Instead I used wording she had used to me years ago, along the lines of moving in different social circles now

Your way was actually much better, I think. Perfect poetic justice!

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mamabear715 · 02/09/2022 17:36

@EmFur Really? And yet you commented on it!

JingsMahBucket · 02/09/2022 17:42

@purpleme12 then go report it and keep it moving.

purpleme12 · 02/09/2022 17:43

No thank you.
I'll decide which ones I want to report.

MadeForThis · 02/09/2022 17:51

Maybe CF wanted to discuss a commission in person. Now you've lost a sale!! Lol

Surtsey · 02/09/2022 17:54

Emotionalsupportviper · 02/09/2022 15:58

I want one as well. I've always wanted one - it's been my life's ambition to own one.

Whatever it is. 😁

If it's giant metal chickens, I want one too. I shall call it Beyonce II.

JustLikeAWhiteWingedDove · 02/09/2022 17:56

I would wait while you know she's left the area and send her a breezy message saying ooo sorry just picked up your WhatsApp's, we decided on a last minute holiday and we have been away!
She will be raging you've not let her stay in your empty house Grin

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 17:58

If it's giant metal chickens, I want one too. I shall call it Beyonce II.

I'll have a cockerel one, please, and call it Roger Poultry.

Chowbellow · 02/09/2022 18:15

You actually sound nasty.

PyongyangKipperbang · 02/09/2022 18:25

Chowbellow · 02/09/2022 18:15

You actually sound nasty.

For having boundaries, sticking to them and refusing to accept Queen Bee's attempt at railroading? I think she sounds very emotionally healthy!

If you think she is nasty then you are either a CF yourself or a pushover. Only you know which it is.

Soubriquet · 02/09/2022 18:27

Chowbellow · 02/09/2022 18:15

You actually sound nasty.

Why?!

Would you accept a random someone you sort of know, but don’t like, turn up at your door expecting to stay despite saying no.

Knowing you are working flat out 16 hours day and cannot host nor entertain said unwanted guest.

If you say yes, you’re a mug

Hownowhappycow · 02/09/2022 18:30

🙀

Qik · 02/09/2022 18:39

OP is actually shooting the 2023 Erotica Collection in Ibiza. This is the sort of 'wood' that other posters should be referring to. Not iconic modern art made from wooden posts draped in barbed wire, flowers and bottles to be installed in some Art Hotel in Barcelona.

Just hard core porn and because her husband probably needs a fluffer on the set, I am not sure why the CF was not allowed to join them. CF could be the house-sitter who gets built into the storyline. Better still, given CF's personality, she could push OP and her husband down into some subordinated role play fantasy. Whipping their butts for making her wait outside in the cold and dark for so long. That would sell more online.

Mumontour85 · 02/09/2022 18:40

Wowsers! Where do these people find these balls of steel?? How fucking rude can you be!

I would absolutely have answered the door, just to block entry and watch her face fall as she realises her goddamn absurd cheekiness ain't flying!

IncompleteSenten · 02/09/2022 18:47

How is it nasty to not let someone stay when you clearly told them months ago they could not stay but they ignored you and turned up anyway?

I genuinely want to know how that's nasty. She was told no. She chose to ignore that and bank on the op feeling obliged to let her in.

NyanBinaryJohn · 02/09/2022 18:53

Chowbellow · 02/09/2022 18:15

You actually sound nasty.

How much did you end up paying for your hotel room last night?