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CF Acquaintance turned up today despite refusing invite

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Grumpusaurus · 02/09/2022 01:04

We live in a popular tourist destination and after numerous people took advantage of us, we nip it in the bud now. Most seem to follow the same script by contacting us out of the blue and mentioning that it would be so lovely to see us. I now answer in a very friendly manner that it has been years since we last heard from them and it would indeed be lovely to catch up over coffee in a nearby spot when they are in the area. This does tend to put an end to most of those potential CFs, however, one acquaintance pushed back and asked to stay with us at the beginning of September. I told her that this would not be possible, especially as we have a very tight deadline and will be working flat out to finish a commission. DH and I are self-employed craftspeople and sometimes we do work all day and most of the night to finish pieces and the DC stay at their grandparents during that last push. Not heard back from the acquaintance since July even though she clearly read my WhatsApp message.

The doorbell went this evening, I ignored it as DH and I were in the middle of working on our commission but someone kept pushing the bell. Our property is an L-shape so you can see from our workshop who is at the front door. CF acquaintance was standing there with a suitcase! DH is more of a people pleaser and while really cheesed off was about to answer the door till I told him no bloody way! He redeemed himself by immediately agreeing. The bell went a few more times and then got a flurry of WhatsApp messages, which I ignored. She eventually left after half an hour. I am almost bemused by the cheek of it but there is no way I am going to let anyone railroad me into being their free accommodation and greatly inconveniencing us, especially while we literally get up to work all hours and fall into bed. DH is fretting about her coming back but I told that we will just continue to ignore the doorbell. We have a back gate to a dirt track we can stealth like leave the property if she is holding a siege at the front door 😎 There are plenty of hotels and B&Bs in the area, albeit quite dear. Who does that! A rhetorical question but am just shocked by the cheek of just turning up after saying emphatically No!

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StressedOutMumBex · 02/09/2022 18:54

OP we need those whatsapp messages, we need to know what she said. I just can't believe her cheek.

JanieAllen · 02/09/2022 19:16

AWESOME Mumsnet MEDAL to you!

MILLYmo0se · 02/09/2022 19:18

NyanBinaryJohn · 02/09/2022 18:53

How much did you end up paying for your hotel room last night?

😂😂😂

TheCorrs · 02/09/2022 19:23

NyanBinaryJohn · 02/09/2022 18:53

How much did you end up paying for your hotel room last night?

😂😂

Surtsey · 02/09/2022 19:27

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 17:58

If it's giant metal chickens, I want one too. I shall call it Beyonce II.

I'll have a cockerel one, please, and call it Roger Poultry.

Have you never heard of Beyonce the giant metal chicken? I'd post a link but my Chromebook stops me.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 19:28

You actually sound nasty.

This is exactly the kind of gaslighting that the CFs themselves rely on.

I'm just standing here, repeatedly punching you in the face for fun, but you are the baddie for protesting or asking me to stop doing it.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 19:31

Have you never heard of Beyonce the giant metal chicken? I'd post a link but my Chromebook stops me.

Aaaaah - I've just done a little searching and.... that's news to me!!

Maireas · 02/09/2022 19:33

Emotionalsupportviper · 02/09/2022 16:06

See - I'm guessing at niche octopus-porn fetish wear and live on one of the outskirts of the Vatican City

No, that's me. You must have read it on another thread.

Maireas · 02/09/2022 19:57

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PyongyangKipperbang · 02/09/2022 20:00

Maireas · 02/09/2022 19:33

No, that's me. You must have read it on another thread.

😅😅🐙🐙

GettingItOutThere · 02/09/2022 20:05

Grumpusaurus · 02/09/2022 13:17

Hahahaha, I am getting daft and paranoid! Those calls were from someone involved with the current project, they just emailed with some questions about haulage. Nothing dramatic. Back to work. Thanks to many of you for making us chuckle!

but what did her texts say!?!

did she actualyl expect to stay?!

such a cliff hanger op!!

Maireas · 02/09/2022 20:12

I think you've made a mistake, OP. Inside the suitcase was material for an expensive commission.

BruceAndNosh · 02/09/2022 20:20

Maireas · 02/09/2022 20:12

I think you've made a mistake, OP. Inside the suitcase was material for an expensive commission.

Don't be silly, you can't fit an elephant in a suitcase

Mumwithsons · 02/09/2022 20:22

It’s amazing to me that people do this. Where do they get the confidence from?!

I was bought up to be grateful and appreciative, is this just basic socialisation to be entitled?

Qik · 02/09/2022 20:27

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WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 20:29

Don't be silly, you can't fit an elephant in a suitcase

But you can get two whales in a Mini, so I believe I heard when I was at school Smile

ChsmpagneWannaBe · 02/09/2022 20:34

Chowbellow · 02/09/2022 18:15

You actually sound nasty.

Haha no they don't. You do though.

Creepymanonagoatfarm · 02/09/2022 20:47

Clarified on mn a while ago..
Put you iphone onto airplane mode. Read messages.
Take off airplane mode and messages don't register as being read...
*not a tech guy just a mner awaiting more deets!!

Herejustforthisone · 02/09/2022 20:55

I bet the poor woman just wanted to say hi.

Soubriquet · 02/09/2022 20:57

Herejustforthisone · 02/09/2022 20:55

I bet the poor woman just wanted to say hi.

With her suitcase?

PlainJaneSuperBrain99 · 02/09/2022 21:00

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Entirely proportionate response

ThreeRingCircus · 02/09/2022 21:00

Herejustforthisone · 02/09/2022 20:55

I bet the poor woman just wanted to say hi.

I highly doubt that since she had her suitcase with her and even if she did, what sort of idiot just pops round unannounced just to say hi when they don't know if OP will be in and OP has already said she's ridiculously busy with work?

Qik · 02/09/2022 21:03

PlainJaneSuperBrain99 · 02/09/2022 21:00

Entirely proportionate response

Thank you. Sigourney Weaver did that also in Aliens (or was it Alien, I cannot remember).

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 02/09/2022 21:15

I highly doubt that since she had her suitcase with her and even if she did, what sort of idiot just pops round unannounced just to say hi when they don't know if OP will be in and OP has already said she's ridiculously busy with work?

It's blatantly obvious (and you'd think, to the CF, very embarrassingly so) that the only 'value' that OP & DH hold to her is their home which (she hopes) can provide her with free accommodation. Unless she's playing the very long game, and hoping to succeed in future, CFs don't waste time with niceties that don't benefit themselves in some way.

SouperNoodle · 02/09/2022 21:16

What a CF to the highest degree! Some people have no class!