The Spookster II

[spook]

Hi Freckle. I can't post on my thread!! It just keeps freezing my screen and has done for a couple of days. The last post was a fluke so here's a new one!!
I'm not going to Ibiza I'm going to stay with some friends down south. I think Ibiza will just be too depressing on our own-my family won't even be there. But he's obviously not best pleased. I didn't get any response to the news whatesoever.
DS1 trashed the kitchen again last night. It is absolutely horrific to listen to. There's nothing I can do other than let him get it out of his system. He got an assesment from school yesterday and it was nearly all A5's. (outstanding achievment and effort) So there are luckily no worries there. He just saves it all up for when he gets home. DS2 is starting to be affected. God it's heartbreaking. Feel like phoning him and just holding the phone up to the screaming but what good will that do??? Just make him angry with me coz of his guilt.
Thanks for your mail honey. Will reply today XXXXX

Hi spook. I'm not going to be around much for the next couple of days. I'm going to my sister's this afternoon and we are doing Lost Treasure sales tonight and tomorrow then when I come home tomorrow I am out with dh. I will try to check in on sister's pc if I get a minute but I think I may not get a minute!

You have my mobile phone no if you want me don't you?

How about coming down to see us sometime in the Christmas holidays? Do you have any time free? xxx

Hi Anorak.Thanks honey. As DH is in Japan till Tuesday I shouldn't be having too many crises's over the weekend.Although I have just had his solicitors rection to the letter and my piss is BOILING!!!

What does it say, Spook? (but of course solicitors letters are bound to be piss boilers, aren't they?)

Hi Blu Oh just the usual crap about money and how he is continuing to pay all the bills as he has ALWAYS done etc But goes on to say...."you have made disparaging remarks about my clients lifestyle.He would like to point out that he lives in a modest 2 bedroomed apartment and works long and antisocial hours to fulfill his comitment blah bloody blah. He took 5 days off in the summer.Your client however has had extended stays in Ibiza,2 weeks in St Tropez and was recently in New York"
The cheeky twat. Ibiza-our house. St Tropez-guests in someone elses house. new York-fully paid for by good friend as a sorry for sleeping with said husband some years earlier.
Him-had children for 5 days of 10 week holiday and that was after fucking me about on 3 seperate occasions.
Then the "concern for his childrens welfare-moving away from Newcastle"bollocks pops up.
WHAT PLANET IS THIS TOSSER ON?????
OK- Rant over!

Hello. I am on my sister's computer

Sorry you are having another bad day spook. Obviously his accusations don't hold any weight and will not be any use to him once you have pointed out that these trips were not funded by him.

Oh I'm fine Anorak honey. It's nothing he's not said to me a hundred times. I am SO SO strong because he's so far away. It's like this permanent shadow that I just can't quite shake off has dissappeared. Albeit temporarily but every morning the post brings fresh shite. i'm really used to it now!!
Have a lovely weekend busy bee XXXXX

Where is wig&robe? I haven't seen her posting for a day or two.

I was just thinking that myself actually. Maybe she's gone cold turkey!

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Uuurrrggghhh. Just heard answer machine message from ex. He's still in Japan. The sound of his voice actually sent shivers up my spine. I could quite happily never ever set eyes on him again. I am scared of him-I've only just realised

Hi spook. I think he is a bully and that after a relationship with a bully it takes time to actually realise that you have been bullied.

I'm definately starting to realise now!! At last.

He's been manipulating you all through your marriage. It's hard to see when it's happening. The same thing happened to me with my ex.

Spook, are you still there? Do you want to chat?

Sorry Anorak. Had to go to very weird childrens party. I'm OK honey. But he's back tomorrow night and I am dreading it. This week has been so so much easier.

All the more reason to move away from his manipulative influence.

I know Festivefrex. You're right.Thats my only option I do see that. But I am starting to enjoy my life again. I have got some wonderful friends up herre now. People that I hardly knew before have really shone through for me in the last year, and I'm beginning to remember what it is to be happy.

It's great to hear you talk like that, spook.

That's fantastic. You just need to do what is right for you, weighing up the pros and cons of each option. It's at times like this that you learn who your true friends are - and some of them can be quite unexpected.

AND-I've nearly got a boyfriend !!!!!!!

Do tell!

You tease! Tell us all....

OMIGOD!!!!!! I have a date tomorrow night!!!!
He's a pharmacist and he's 28 and I mey him in a bar a couple of weeks ago and we have been texting and emailing and he really makes me laugh and feel warm and fuzzy.
FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!! What do I wear and what do I say. It's been a very very long time

No advice but !!!

Apparently tight jeans and a white t-shirt are the thing to wear. As in, the t-shirt is easy and outlines your best assets (!) but the jeans are tight and don't give easy access. So I heard on a television programme the other evening. Haven't tried it myself, you understand....