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The Spookster II

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spook · 23/11/2004 10:04

Hi Freckle. I can't post on my thread!! It just keeps freezing my screen and has done for a couple of days. The last post was a fluke so here's a new one!!
I'm not going to Ibiza I'm going to stay with some friends down south. I think Ibiza will just be too depressing on our own-my family won't even be there. But he's obviously not best pleased. I didn't get any response to the news whatesoever.
DS1 trashed the kitchen again last night. It is absolutely horrific to listen to. There's nothing I can do other than let him get it out of his system. He got an assesment from school yesterday and it was nearly all A5's. (outstanding achievment and effort) So there are luckily no worries there. He just saves it all up for when he gets home. DS2 is starting to be affected. God it's heartbreaking. Feel like phoning him and just holding the phone up to the screaming but what good will that do??? Just make him angry with me coz of his guilt.
Thanks for your mail honey. Will reply today XXXXX

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:11

Thankyou thankyou all of you!!! I never ever want to go through a year like that one! Yes Clayhead-it will be a year on Jan 24th.Unbelievable to me.
Ain't life a funny old thing eh?
I think I've done the hard bit-think my twat of an ex has got it all to come. And I hope I'm around to watch
It's lovely to get all your messages of goodwill girls.It really really is. You stuck by me ((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

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soapbox · 10/01/2005 22:17

Oh Spook - I'm so happy that you're happy

I told you your turn would come

Well done - what a long and painful road you've travelled this last year! But so happy you've come through it at last!

The BOYFRIEND (ha!) sounds wonderful - I'm very jealous

Moomina · 10/01/2005 22:18

Has he got a brother or a best mate, Spook?

Just wondering, y'know, no particular reason...

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:19

Thankyou hunny! My BOYFRIEND is a beaut but even if nothing comes of it he's been a very very important stepping stone for me and and damn good wrestler.
But....who knows. It's pretty full on

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:20

He's got 2 brothers actually Moomina!!!

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princesspeahead · 10/01/2005 22:22

fantastic news spook! like the sound of your boyfriend, he sounds delicious....and congrats on the house, it sounds like you have really made the right decision for you. hurrah!

now to more important things. you need to log on to amazon.co.uk IMMEDIATELY and order the complete works of Amy Willcocks, the Nigella of Aga cooking and baking. no aga owner should be without her by their side. off you go, now!

soapbox · 10/01/2005 22:22

Ah yes - stepping stones!

I remember the cute french waiter that was a very important step in my recovery program

Moomina · 10/01/2005 22:23

Just the one will do...hehehehe

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:27

Hi PPH! I am an Aga conneissuer (sp) but ofcourse now that I am cooking for my BOYFRIEND I will need some new ideas.Will pop onto Amazon posthaste for Amys books!
Soapbox-was the waiter erm....Step 5 on the 12 Step Plan??? Reckon I'm on 10 or 11 now! Certainly positions if not Steps
Moomina-will see what I can do on the brother front!

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princesspeahead · 10/01/2005 22:30

atta girl!

if you are feeling particularly nurturing (and rather devil may care about your own waistline) may I highly recomment her treacle tart as being TO DIE FOR. And the scallops with pea puree definitely have aphrodisiac qualities.....!!!!

soapbox · 10/01/2005 22:32

Spook

Hmmm - IIRC probably step 8-9 or so - think the French teacher was probably step 10 or 11

Do you think that the fact that extossers ladyfriend that he left me for was French means I was trying to prove something

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:35

Perfect!!! You are obviously talking from experience lady! Some rampant beast within has been let out after all this time and I am like an uncaged animal. My BOYFRIEND thinks he's died and gone to heaven (he certainly will when I make him a treacle tart!!)

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:36

Soapbox-I think there is DEFINATELY something in the French thing!! He wasn't your french teacher was he??? Isn't that illegal??!

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soapbox · 10/01/2005 22:38

LOL - no I was 30 at the time Met him at next door neighbours burns night party - took him home and ... well you can imagine

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spook · 10/01/2005 22:54

Yes Soapy I can. French kissing et al??!!

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numb · 10/01/2005 23:20

hi spook i am SO PROUD of you!!!!

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spook · 11/01/2005 07:45

Hi Numb! Thankyou honey! Not sure why but I really appreciate it. Took me a while but I'm getting there Hope you're OK???

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anorak · 11/01/2005 08:21

It's fantastic to hear you sounding so happy, spook

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spook · 11/01/2005 08:32

Thanks Anorak!! I wonder how much of that is to do with the fact that my boys (Gawd love 'em) go back to school tomorrow! Phew. That was a long one!

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spook · 11/01/2005 08:33

Oh yes-and the fact that I have a 28 year old BOYFRIEND!! (did I mention I had a BOYFRIEND?)

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runtus · 11/01/2005 10:18

Long time lurker here just wanting to add my hurrah's to the growing pile! Well done Spook, you are an inspiration to us all woman......oh and did you say you had a BOYFRIEND

Blu · 11/01/2005 10:20

numb, honey, what's happening with you? Is it on your thread?

numb · 11/01/2005 20:00

hi blu, yes i have added to my thread lately. Well it's amazing how things change, i can relate to sykes in alot of ways. H e has text me asking if there is a chance for us again, still loves me, big regrets etc. Its strange i feel that i am the strong one now, i have moved on such alot. i am not making any decisions just enjoying myself at the moment. i have to remember that he treated me like s**t and actually told me he hated me and would never come back. sorry to hijack your thread spook and thanks for asking blu

anorak · 19/01/2005 08:42

Hey spook! Don't forget to get out of bed and post occasionally! You may have a BOYFRIEND but we still need to know you are still alive now and again

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spook · 19/01/2005 15:57

Hello darling. Sorry honey.Thought everyone would lose interest in me now I have a BOYFRIEND. I am very very happy thankyou Anorak.
I finally feel as if I've got my whole life infront of me instead of over. Still going for my beautiful new Spook villas. There is an open day at this house tomorrow.12 peopple want to view (before advertising!!) so they are doing half hour slots tomorrow. My hands are to the bone from cleaning!
My new relationship is absolutely wonderful. Couldn't be more magical actually. We are managing to squeeze in as much time as possible together-single parenthood permitting. DH is tryiong to be very reasonable with house moving. My Decree Nisi comes through on Monday morning.
My frind is taking me to Miami for my birthday. The boys are very excited about our move.
Life really does seem to be very good. Wonder what shit is on it's way to knock me off my self-righteous pedastal????
Hope you're OK honey???????

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