I WALKED ON DH MASTURBATING THIS MORNING WTF ??????????????

[Naughtyhusband]

Sorry namechanged ! I was going to brush my teeth this morning, knew DH was having a shower... I opened the door there he was...having the time of his life ....I mean come on ! Whyyyyyyy ? Especially after the night we had, baby has been teething all night ! Why the need of wanking ??? When he got busted, he tried to carry on as normal, pretending to clean his willy !!!!!! He says he did because he was exausted ?? ...Is it normal for a thirty something man ????

totally normal

When Dh gets a bit grouchy i say 'oh just go and have a wank'- and he does, works every time!

Totally normal but amazed how many women have issues with this. His hand was his first love, chances are it'll be his last too. Tis the way it is!

(thats just to OP btw- havent read anything else)

Oh if he's scared he is going to break I would seriously suggest you consider some sex therapy. Sounds like he ahs fears going on that have little to do with you now? I can honestly say that dh has never worried about this and he isn't small. And erm it wasn't an issue with an ex (shag buddy- bad convo good sex) who was known as donkey to his mates either, tbh. A good talk through with a therapist might save a lot of heartbreak.

I'd be worried about a man who doesn't wank tbh...

The wanking is normal, but the situation wrt sex between the two of you isn't, really. And it certainly doesn't sound like it's making either of you happy.

OH fgs.

And what NQC said.

I find the comments about men "admitting" to it as though it was some shameful crime they had committed quite interesting.

Why the capitals?

All men and boys masturbate - regular active sex life or not. I can't believe you are shocked tbh.

(sorry have only read the OP)

i find this a bit odd..because it implies that you don't do it yourself then [confused emoticon]..thought that was what showers were for

YOU should be wanking too! if you don't know what your body responds to, how can you expect anyone else to?

Well, yes, the idea that masturbating is wrong is more than a bit disturbing to me.

But I can understand how she might be miffed, if their sex life is poor, and she feels he would rather wank than have sex with her.

Nonetheless, being outraged at him for wanking isn't the way forward!

to be cross at someone for wanking is like being cross with someone for sneezing. it's natural, and one of life's greatest pleasures.

I'm not totally buying the 'sneezing' analogy. Ok, yes, it's explosive, and there's a mess, but ... I don't get annoyed at people for sneezing on the bus ... I probably mind people wanking on the bus.

only "probably"?

Sounds like a token protestation NQC

I can not stop laughing

I bet he pisses sitting down too...

its perfectly normal for all men and women of all ages evrybody does relation ship or not and he may not of asked you because he didnt want to be rejected nowing that you was tired xx

Well this is wierd - I've read through the thread and couldnt believe what I read - I'd be totally devastated if I found OH - its just not on if you have a happy full on sex life, in my mind, but I'm clearly in a minority - is this an age thing, or am I off-message? I have always assumed I'm an ultra liberal, but I must be wrong

Why devastated? Surely devastated would be if you walked in on him with another woman (or bloke)? But his hand?

Mind you, I walk in on DH having hands all the time. He seems quite attached to them...

ha ha - will give him a knowing wink next time you bring him in, Hunker

ps.. can you send Carmenere my hotmail address? x

Dinny, to clarify, I walk in on DH having hands a lot. Every time I walk in on him, he has hands.

Not wanking. I can't remember a time I walked in on him doing that. I am utterly ravishing though, so obviously he just starts as soon as I enter the room, which is a bit embarrassing when the vicar's over for tea.

PS - yes, will do.

Hunker - I dont know why my reactions are so strong - thats why I'm so suprised I'd assumed everyone felt like me. To rationalise, I guess I'd be upset if he did anything in secret, and upset our sex life wasnt satisfying him, but ultimately its a gut reaction, not a head () one

oh, am cracking up laughing, dh thinks have lost the plot! thought "having hands" was a quaint phrase of yours, pmsl

Minum, he might have an elaborate system for wiping his arse you don't know about - secrets like that are good in a relationship

Dinny - pmsl at having hands being a quaint term for wanking. It will be now

PS - check out 4yo skiing clothes thread

Men wank in the shower as basically they are lazy bastards. They can't be bothered with the foreplay for us women and don't want any kissing and when they do it in the shower, they can rinse it all away afterwards so minimum hassle for them....

Its sheer laziness I tell you!