He can't decide if he wants me or the other girls,walk away?

[Givemeoilinmylamp]

I'm dating ? Sleeping with? him.
We have been for 5 months now.
He has told me that he is also texting a few other women.
I'm driving myself into a bit of a tizzy.
I'm checking when he is online and I know he must be texting one of these other women.
When he was drunk last week he said "who would treat me better I wonder"
I know who these women are as he showed me them on Facebook.
So now I compare myself to them and check to see if he has liked any of their pics (sad I know)
What do I do ?
Do I walk away?
Before lockdown happened he went out for lunch with one of them (even tho I asked him not to go and come and see me instead )
It's really hammering my self esteem.
Do I walk away now? When it's only been a short time?

Who cares what he wants? You have no control over that.

You only have control over you.

What do you want? At the early stages in a relationship you should be vetting him to see if he is good enough for you / a compatible fit.

Do you really think if you sat down and thought about your dream man it would be one who flaunts other women in front of you? He sounds needy and pathetic. Imagine being that insecure. I'd laugh him out the door.

Are you on "the bachelor" tv show?

I was in this same situation about 7 years ago, and i agree with every one else (and you) that you need to leave him. Get away from him, delete & block him everywhere and start afresh. You 100% deserve more respect from someone you care about and who supposedly cares about you. He'll try contact you, show you he's thinking about you... but he's also thinking about numerous other people so just ignore!

Whether you enjoy being single for a while or get back to dating (as much as you can in these times) is completely upto you! But you really don't have to keep tormenting yourself over this person!

Tell him you've found someone else who will 'treat you better", then dump him!

Twat

Why would you even entertain this twat?

I don't know what more he wants.

Yes you do. He wants to shag as many gullible women as he can.

Have you dumped him yet? You really must!

@pinbinpin

I'm also nearly 50 and find this astounding. I actually dumped my DP of 25 years back in the 90s after we'd been going out for a couple of weeks becasue he mentioned his ex girlfriend. It took him weeks to get me back. I'd never knowingly let a man think about another woman while I was sleeping with him, never mind shag them. What's the point if they're not obsessed with you at the beginning? Women seriously need to get back to this.

Exactly.

I didn't know what a red flag was 30 years ago...but I know what self respect and cop on was.

No way would I have tolerated a mention of another woman, and in fairness it never happened either.

If it had, my reaction would have been "bloody cheek of him, he's gone"🙄

My friends would have been the same.🤷🏻‍♀️

He's openly cheating on you. Get rid.

He comes back because its free sex with no effort for him.., he literally turns up at yours and result...

you need to find your self respect 🌺

FGS OP he's mocking you openly!

Find some self-esteem (or fake some) and tell the knobber to GET LOST

Please don't ever do the pick me dance.

I know how desperately hard it can all be but honestly you deserve so, so much better than this.

Please see that. I have done the pick me dance many years ago and never, ever again.

It hurts like hell but it does lessen as time passes and you will wake up one day wandering what you ever saw in him.

Wondering aaahhh predictive fail there!

Don't do the 'pick me' dance. You're worth more!

He's affecting your self esteem already - think how much worse it will be in a few months...

I'd end things and move on.

Walk away and block him now. Otherwise he is going to mess up EVERY relationship you have in the future and you are going to let him if you stay.

In the nicest possible way...get some self respect!