He can't decide if he wants me or the other girls,walk away?

[Givemeoilinmylamp]

I'm dating ? Sleeping with? him.
We have been for 5 months now.
He has told me that he is also texting a few other women.
I'm driving myself into a bit of a tizzy.
I'm checking when he is online and I know he must be texting one of these other women.
When he was drunk last week he said "who would treat me better I wonder"
I know who these women are as he showed me them on Facebook.
So now I compare myself to them and check to see if he has liked any of their pics (sad I know)
What do I do ?
Do I walk away?
Before lockdown happened he went out for lunch with one of them (even tho I asked him not to go and come and see me instead )
It's really hammering my self esteem.
Do I walk away now? When it's only been a short time?

Honestly there's nothing worse than doing this to yourself over a loser man.

He obviously thinks he's too good for you all or he wouldn't be dangling you all wanting you too try and win him.

He's loving the life which he's rooting half a dozen women with no intention of commitment.

You are so much better than this. Find someone who shows you how great you are and chases you for more than a fuck

He sounds fucking horrible

Why are you even bothering?

You need to work on figuring out why his opinion of you is so important.
6 months ago he was a complete stranger you would walk past on the street without noticing.
So why do you expect him to treat you nice when you aren't?
But first send the Fred message and block.
It will cheer you up in the months to come.

When a guy I was out with once, answered a text from another woman and told me what he was doing, I never saw him again. I was always too busy...

Be aware that once you’ve decided (quite rightly) that you’ve had enough he won’t like it and will ramp up his efforts to make you stay. He’ll try and make you feel he’s picked you. Then once you feel settled he’ll start again with the other girls. He’s a classic player. Don’t be a piece in his game. You’re worth so much more.

To your question, yes, walk away. You deserve better.

Never let a man openly talk about other women in a sexual/romantic or emotional way, when you believe you are an item.

Line crossed, move away quickly and never think of him again.

He has disrespected you.
Plenty more men out there.

Op
I wouldn’t even give this guy an explanation. I’d go no contact..... done!

OP, in your mind you may have been "dating" him, but in his mind you're just someone to have sex with, between other conquests. Due to the pandemic and social distancing, perhaps the other girls are not inclined to risk having sex with him, or perhaps they're not really that interested in him.

Even if he's good in bed, the damage he's doing to your self esteem is not worth it. Walk away, you'll feel like crap until you do.

Dump him and go. He sounds terrible, nobody is worth being made to feel like sh!t!!!
You wouldn’t eat vomit , or buy clothing that made you look ugly so why hang on to a man who makes you feel awful

@Haggertyjane

you really need to ask this question?

Was going to say the same thing. I can't understand why any adult would need to ask this.

C’mon , really you know the answer . He doesn’t respect you , or any women . He is a sad little man , lacking in every area , so he looks for affirmation from women , lots of them
Do yourself a massive favour , block him on everything you have ever used to communicate with him . Don’t have anything else to do with him .
I suspect that you are going to continue with this loser , hoping he’s going to suddenly realise it’s you he wants .. it’ll never happen , he’ll just see you as one of many . Move on and find someone worthwhile who loves and respects you .

Step 1. Scrape that shit from your shoe
Step 2. LEVEL UP

Your all right and not one of you has said anything other than walk away.
When we are together we have such a good time,get on well,laugh,we do "click" fancy each other.
I don't know what more he wants.

Of course you get on he's playing you and all the others. He's using you. Please don't let him continue to do this.

@Givemeoilinmylamp

Your all right and not one of you has said anything other than walk away. When we are together we have such a good time,get on well,laugh,we do "click" fancy each other. I don't know what more he wants.

You shouldn't be questioning what more he wants.

You should be question why you don't want more than how he treats you as a whole - not just when you're together.

He wants other women too. He wants to have you all dance his Merry tune. He wants to have sex with different people.
Run away

FFS do not walk away.

RUN AWAY. He is treating you like literal shit. Personally I don’t do competition, I’m not a competitor in crufts ffs, I’m a human being. If someone has to weigh me up with several other options then I’m out. Either you want to be with me or you don’t. He doesn’t. Dump this utter twat and find someone who WANTS to be with you.

You’ll meet another man who you fancy and have fun with. Why are you focussed on his wants? What do you want? I’d say a man who is interested in you exclusively. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Next!

He sounds like a selfish prick you would be better alone than with someone like that!

He said 'Who would treat me better I wonder'.
I would text this Adonis !!!! & say :
Hey, I was so lucky to meet you and Thank You for opening my eyes to what I don't want in a relationship.
This may come as a complete shock to you seeing as you are a catch. But, I have been texting/seeing someone else, also.
This guy treats me with the respect I deserve & the chemistry between us in the bedroom is mind blowing, something that I found lacking with you.
I hope you find what you are looking for with one of your many admirers. PS - you need to up your game in the bedroom department as you are not as good as you think you are - I don't mean to dent your ego, I just want you to be able to have the same mind blowing sex that I am now having.
From the one that got away.

@Givemeoilinmylamp

Your all right and not one of you has said anything other than walk away. When we are together we have such a good time,get on well,laugh,we do "click" fancy each other. I don't know what more he wants.

He wants to have sex with lots of women

You are merely one of those women

What do you want from a relationship?
Honesty?
Fidelity?
Loyalty?
You won't find any of those with him so do yourself a favour and move on

Stop auditioning for the part of someone's girlfriend, and get serious about recruiting a life partner.

The recruiter mindset is completely different to the 'auditioning' mindset, and you really do need to make that change. This explains how to do that:
www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/podcast-ep-145-stage-0-1-of-relationships-the-recruiter-mindset/

@Givemeoilinmylamp

Your all right and not one of you has said anything other than walk away. When we are together we have such a good time,get on well,laugh,we do "click" fancy each other. I don't know what more he wants.

He doesn't want to settle down. He wants as many women as he can. He doesn't care about your feelings. This is clearly destructive to you (or would be to me too).

You need to end it for your own well-being. You deserve someone who cares about you!

I'm also nearly 50 and find this astounding. I actually dumped my DP of 25 years back in the 90s after we'd been going out for a couple of weeks becasue he mentioned his ex girlfriend. It took him weeks to get me back. I'd never knowingly let a man think about another woman while I was sleeping with him, never mind shag them. What's the point if they're not obsessed with you at the beginning? Women seriously need to get back to this.